xxtwotibkillzxx Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Ok well ill make this long story short.. I was with this girl all through high school. from 9-12th grade, 3 and a half years. at the end of 12th grade she began to drift from me, eventually ending up with someone else, and me absolutely destroyed... Its been almost 4 years now since this, i am 21, and here is the major problem... I still cant forget her... I still to this day love her as much as i did the day she left. I still want her back as much. I dont understand why this is happening, or if it is just because im going crazy. But for some reason i am unable to move forward. A few months ago we started talking for the first time in years and almost got back together, (we did however have a few new "physical encounters" though), and i was again extremely happy. but it fell thru because we both have a childnow and are NOT with the other half, and my daughters mother did everything she could to stop it until the girl just decided to leave. I just need to know what to do, if anyone can help. How will i know if this is just me being too attached, or if this is a sign that she may really be the one for me, because quite honestly, ive never felt happiness like i did when i was with her, its like a flame in me died when she left, and i dont know whats wrong. Any feedback would be nice, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 it is not fair when one is left hanging - i understand. when all that is needed is simply kindness. u get so lost u start to think what are we fighting over? u get lost in thoughts, wondering what can I say or do? all u know is u thought the friendship was forever, that it would stand anything. I'm not good at this either, i never will be - but I'll do my best. it takes a minute to like someone, and hour to love someone, but to forget someone takes a life time. Link to post Share on other sites
Ripples Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 First off, I think it's quite common to feel very strongly about someone we've had an 'unrequited love' scenario with. We tend to view the relationship we had with them with rose tinted specs and, maybe, don't see it for what it really was because we never had the time to have the rows and the bad times with that person. However, you got back together, but your ex split you two up? Well, I think you maybe need to explain more about how your ex was able to do that if you're not longer with her. If it's as simple as you've described, there's nothing wrong with persuing her again, but don't automatically assume that she's the love of your life, you just never got to the stage of having bad times. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxtwotibkillzxx Posted October 20, 2006 Author Share Posted October 20, 2006 But see thats just it. We had plenty of bad times, we had plenty of good times. We had our share of fights, and we both did our share of screwed up things (we were kids...). We were like a married couple, and everyone in our high school always used to say that. to this day (not even a week ago to be exact), i still see people i knew since all the way back to when i was 12, and they still ask me "are you still with her?"... Everything in my life is a reminder of her. The memories are so clear, nothing has diminished, and I just dont know... since her ive had several more relationships, but they all failed at 8 months... (and this is not made up, literally at 8 months...). The thing is, when we were workin on getting back together, her ex and my ex just did everything they could to make our lives a living hell... He kept threatening to hurt her if she kept seeing me again, and I was threatend by my ex and all her friends. I remember the night we decided we had to cut it off again... I had only been seeing her for a week, and yet I cried like an absolute baby, again, as i did when she left... Its just its so hard. Those brief moments a few months ago that we were seeing eachother again after 3 years... I remember the first time i kissed her again, it was EXACTELY the same as it was the day she kissed me goodbye for the last time back in my senior year... even down to the smell of her skin... The point is, i dont know if i have the capability to love anyone else. Or atleast if im able to love anyone else as much. But all i do know is. For 3 and a half years I spent everyday with her and loved every single minute of it. So what should i do... I feel as if honestly this girl now owns my heart and I can never take it back... I feel like i was toyed with, given something i wanted back so badly, and then only to have it ripped from under me again. Link to post Share on other sites
everlong Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 see for me, i never felt she 'played with my heart' - because i felt things change and i wasn't just me, her too....i think want has paralyzed me if just her not telling me...that would be a release...that is not pain - that is healing...there is nothing worse than what we went thru - at least from my point. she never said anything. i didn't see the change - i felt it. it had no voice. it was what made me punish myself, do all the things i do. that's not blame, it was the unknown silence - like seeing the blank stare, her crying, and what that did was tear me inside so i couldn't react...gawd....if only honesty was easy Link to post Share on other sites
Ripples Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Ok, so you have had less than good times I still don't understand about the exes though - if it's truly over between you and them, what exactly is the problem with them? No one can stop you seeing anyone else if you're no longer in a committed relationship with them. As for your girl, if you want her, go after her. You can only get the reasons for her finishing it, from her. Link to post Share on other sites
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