burning 4 revenge Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 I think you should do it Ariadne. You sound as depressed as hell in LA. Maybe you'll meet some wonderful South American guy who would fall for you and your unique view of the universe. And I've never been to LA, but I get the impression it sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
everlong Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 hey, my sis lives in LA - I've been there a few times.... where are u moving back too..and trust me...everyone hates moving back with the parents...i did it twice...the home cooked meals and laundry service are great but after two weeks..its like LEAVE ME ALONE! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Hello, Ariadne, it won't be good for your son to be ripped away from his friends and his school. You need to stay and help him deal with his issues. Well, my son was going to a regular HS and they transfered him to a different HS because he wasn't doing well. So he started going to a continuation school (8-12) where he basically works on his own. He was doing well reading chapters etc. But they already told me "this is not working" () yesterday. Other than that he plays World of Warcraft all day. How can he get into college without finishing his American schooling? Yes, but he is kind of transitioning himself right now. It's a temptation, when life is rough, to want to take the easy way out, to turn back into a little kid and have somebody else take care of you. But you can't. I always go every year. Is like that time of year now. (But I can't afford it, only by staying). You're a grownup now, your son is the 'little kid', and you have to get your act together for his sake. (I can't) Well, thank you, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Hey you b4r, I think you should do it Ariadne. You sound as depressed as hell in LA. Yeah, and I feel like I'm spending all my money here and doing nothing. Maybe you'll meet some wonderful South American guy who would fall for you and your unique view of the universe. No, I'm too fat for South America. It's impossible for me to get a bf there, they won't even give me a second look. You won't believe the women there . And I've never been to LA, but I get the impression it sucks. Yeah, it sucks. And I'd like to live in a house with a patio but here you have to make millions for that. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Hi, hey, my sis lives in LA - I've been there a few times.... Oh, I live in the valley. where are u moving back too.. To Southern South America and trust me...everyone hates moving back with the parents...i did it twice...the home cooked meals and laundry service are great but after two weeks..its like LEAVE ME ALONE! Argh. Well, I'm going to call my mom. But after talking to you guys I already don't feel like it. My father is not going to like this. And my son aready say he doesn't want to go. Sigh. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Me: Mom, I'm thinking of going to live in there for five months. Mom: As you want. May I ask why the fixed amount of five months? Me: To make it worth to buy the tickets. Mom: And D, what about his school? Me: He is about to get kicked out of the school. Mom: But why? What a discontrol... Me: (explain school sit) Mom: Well, for me enchanted that you come over here. But I'm afraid about D's education, what is he going to do here for all that time, a bilingual school? And he is going to lose track of his studies. Me: Well, he can be there as a bum too. Mom: And it's an indignation to me that you don't work. With that wonderful career of yours. Everybody works here, even the well off people work. Why don't you? It's a caprice that you have, not to work. Six months and then what? Then you are going to work? Me: I hate the stupid work. Mom: That, I don't understand. Why? Why? If you worked before.. What are you going to do here? Where are you going to work? Me: I'll bring my own money and I'll buy my food. Mom: No. You are not going to buy your food over here. Me: Well, thank you Mom. I'll think what I'm going to do. Mom: Ok, bye. --------------- Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 So, Two yes, three no. Anyone else? I still don't know what to do... but I've been fantasizing all morning about being there in my parent's house. Making coffee, going for walks, chatting with my mom, and sitting in the garden . On the other hand thinking of installing DSL and paying for it myself, and getting a router to bring my son's computer there too, things like that. The Jewish guy (fwb) said that I could come back and live in his house in some months (that is if he is not with someone else by then). I was thinking I could stay with my ex husb 2. But he is kind of crazy and probably will send me to hell. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 Could you get a job in South America? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Oh, Could you get a job in South America? I don't know about that ... I guess I could, I don't know. I just talked to my ex husb 2 and he said that to be in America is good if you work, if you don't work is better over there because is cheaper. I asked him if I could stay with him when I came back. He said that we'll talk when I come back, but that I should stay there for 20 years. Because I'm not going to make money here and he doesn't know what I'm doing here (I don't either). What do you think I said? Think is a good idea? He says, well, you are the craziest person I ever met, and I think you are out of your mind. But given the circumstances I don't think is a bad idea, no. Besides, D is not getting anything out of school. In a couple years he'll be older and won't have to go to school and he can get a GED. Sigh... what to do... (I don't want to completely run out of money, at least with what I have left I can be there for a while) Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Yeah, Because then my parents are going to pass away (if I don't pass away first, that is) and I'm not going to get to enjoy them. Being so far away and all, I'm due to spending some time with them. Plus, my father has cancer (for several years) but still... Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 La vida esta dolencia Link to post Share on other sites
Great Gazoo Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 You know I would say maybe go visit for a VISIT but not to go live there. It might do ya some good, you could use the visit to try and figure some stuff out. You need something to ground you or your just going to keep spinning out of control. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Hi, You need something to ground you or your just going to keep spinning out of control. Yes, that's just what I was thinking. When I visit my parents I feel empowered, is like I recharge my batteries over there. That's where my roots are, and I do feel like I'm spinning out of control. Thank you, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Hey, Maybe you'll meet some wonderful South American guy who would fall for you and your unique view of the universe. I just did a search on Argentinian women and this is what I get there, to give you an idea. You know what city I am from, but it's just the same story: ---------- Is it true, are Argentinian women the finest in the world?? Everyone at work has been telling me that he Argentines are the best looking bunch of women on the planet... Can anyone that has been there confirm that?? ---- Have just spent 4 nights in Mendoza and the girls are drop-dead. Much better that BA. ---- I just came back from 2 weeks in B.A. Argentina, and Punta del Este. To answer your question, I'll have to sadly say, an EMPHATIC YES! I came to see this thread because I had to google up "argentinian women" when I got back because I wanted to see if anyone else knew about this, because I sure didn't until I went. Back in the states now, I feel so deprived. In Buenos Aires, every where I went, I'd see a woman that I thought had to be a model. I did not see one single girl that was 5 pounds overweight. Every female has the most effeminate hot body. Even the older women. There were so many times where I would see an attractive girl from behind whom I thought was around my age, but then when i saw her face up close, I'd realize she had to be at least 38. (I'm 20.) At an upscale shopping mall in Buenos Aires, it was like an endless sea of Adriana Limas, Gisele Bundchens, and Penelope Cruz clones--only shorter. Most of the argentinian women are petite and under/around 5'6", (the ones that are taller, actually do become glamourous models) ------ So, I get inspired to get in shape... but romantically I'll be worse. It's much easier to find a bf here. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 21, 2006 Share Posted October 21, 2006 Is it true, are Argentinian women the finest in the world?? Everyone at work has been telling me that he Argentines are the best looking bunch of women on the planet... Can anyone that has been there confirm that?? Actually, i've heard the Brazilians are the best looking people. I don't think anyone is fat down there. Probably has something to do with fact they are in the southern hemisphere and live upside down Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 21, 2006 Author Share Posted October 21, 2006 Yeah, And I'm originally from a town 40 miles from Brazil. My parents would go to Brazil to do the grocery shopping to stock up. I so suck there I get insulted even. You go clubbing and become a wall flower unless you are 125lbs. (Even though here I'm kind of hot). Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 Hi guys, Chat with the ex bf: ------ Ex bf............ says: Hi, what's new Ariadne says: I'm thinking of putting my stuff in a storage and go to live with my parents for some months Ariadne says: what do you think? Ex bf............ says: I think it is a good idea Ariadne says: yeah? Ariadne says: I'm losing all my money here paying rent Ariadne says: and I'm not doing anything anyway Ex bf............ says: it will help ground you again, and maybe start you over with a new focus Ex bf............ says: mom can beat some sense into you Ex bf............ says: and, you DO need to save some of that money Ariadne says: but D doesn't want to go Ex bf............ says: of course he doesn't Ariadne says: but he is not getting anything out of HS Ariadne says: and playing World of Warcraft all day long Ariadne says: so it doesn't matter where he is, he doesn't leave the house Ex bf............ says: un huh, I am not surprised --------- So, another yes , Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 Oh, And a "no" now from my online friend in the UK: --------- It has been clear for quite some time now that each day you drift a little bit closer to the edge of "disaster". Now for months and months you have chosen to somehow ignore that. I assume that the idea of going to S America is somehow going to at least put that day off. I very much doubt that it would. I could imagine it ending up in an even more unhappy situation than you are in now. It is not a good idea to try to solve problems by running away from them. The most urgent problem that you got is to find a job. Every moment should be spent on trying to get a job. Guess there is not a lot of chance of that! In short I think that you had best try to solve your problems where you are. --------------- Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 Yey, And a "yes" from my best online friend in Australia. ------ Ok, I read that thread and I say big YES. I'm really close to my parents and when times get tough I always go there to recover and recharge. I remember you went back there after the married guy to recover. I think it really is a good idea. I did this after X guy when I was pretty much having a nervous breakdown and it just made me feel more at peace and gave me a chance ot think things through. Lots of nice walks and lots of talks with my mom. If I ever get to that point again, I would go back in a second, and I don't care how old I am. Obviously, in LA you are not getting anywhere, yeah you should get a job but you need to sort yourself out and your frame of mind first. I don't see one good reason for staying where you are, you don't seem to have many friends there, you don't have a job and your son's schooling is falling apart. ----------- Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 24, 2006 Author Share Posted October 24, 2006 Hi guys, Well, I'm leaning 80% towards going there. I talked to my mom a second time, and I could tell that she is eager to see us. The Jewish guy (fwb) has been of great support as well. He even told me that when I leave I give him the keys to my apt and that "he'd take care of the of the moving" wow. I told him no, of course. Then he said he'd bring men and trucks to help me. I told him that I'd hire men and trucks and he said, ok we'll hire some men if you want. So, it seems like he is going to help me with this whole thing if I decide to go. Also, today I was talking to my best friend here, who lives next door. She also said that it sounds like a great idea. So I told her, I'm afraid of when I get back. She said, why be afraid now of when you get back? When you get back worry about when you get back. Hehe. That my friend! I'm also going to talk to my son's school to see if they can give him assignments to bring there and get credit for it. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted October 26, 2006 Share Posted October 26, 2006 So, what did you decide, Ariadne? If I had this opportunity, I would take it. As always, Ariadne, follow thy heart! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 26, 2006 Author Share Posted October 26, 2006 Hey, Well, I've been thinking it is not so impossible. I was planning of packing up the stuff with time so it won't be too overwhelming. Make it in parts. And another friend of mine lent me her parking space for the car. She said for free too (she doesn't use it) but we'll see. Maybe go for three months. (?) (Just thinking of the holidays here all alone sounds so depressing, when I have the chance to go there) Thanks, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 31, 2006 Author Share Posted October 31, 2006 Ahhhh!!! Today is the day. I have to give the 30 day notice. Nooo.... Thing is, I don't want to pay the rent, and I want them to use the deposit money. Well, if it only were that simple. I'm afraid when I come back I'll have a bad credit and all of that. I think I'll have to get courage and go talk to the manager. But of course they are going to try to intimidate me with lawsuits and what not. Ack! I just called my mom but she wasn't home, so I talked to my father and he said, That's something you have to decide. I'm not going to tell you what I think you should do. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ariadne Posted October 31, 2006 Author Share Posted October 31, 2006 Hi, So I gave the 30 day notice. I talked to the manager and explained the situation to her and she seemed nice. She showed me the amount of the deposit I have, and it covers the rent. Of course they want to charge for carpet, cleaning etc. So I might get away by paying a part of the rent for next month and not get in trouble. Maybe. (And she also said that if I change my mind and want to stay after the notice is ok too) Oh, this is stressful... my house... my little house... Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Antheia Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Hey Ariadne, Guess who this is I know it's scary but trust me, you are doing the right thing. Love you heaps {{{A}}} Link to post Share on other sites
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