Guest Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 quick soulmate story.... i was dating a woman, she had a child. all she told me was she had the child with a guy that did drugs, drank, abused her, didn't pay anything. she was so afraid of him. dreaded going to the child-dad visits. he scared her. he saw his child maybe once a month. would brush her off without notice. so, when i was with her, i gave her the confidence [and the child] to stand up for themselves, which they did. and during our whole relationship, she would ask me to see if he was working somewhere, support her as a sounding board, she would talk more about him than us - and i understood that when someone is abused that's what happens - they are made out to be the victim, and become attached to the abuser in a whacked way. so, i helped her with that too. but this was a long abusive relationship and because of it she had gotten pretty messed up in her brain about things [that's how it works] - so i saw everything her face told me when she found out something new about him. i would cook her a steak meal and she would tell me all the things he did that made her feel bad. and she had no idea how crazy and disrespectful that was but i understood the abuser/victim thing and instead of being a jerk i tried to let her work things out. well, the more he screwed up the more she forgave him - gave him chance after chance [so i knew there was something she really needed to work on by herself] and the conflict was, she had developed an illness that lends to seeing things a certain way..returning to old bad habits, and until u have been abused you cannot judge their actions...anyhow...like everything else that happened with my soulmate...i would be in the dark, get a vibe and make the connection...one day, i called her and i said, man, you treat this ass between then u do me! [not knowing at the time what was happening] seeeeeeeeeeeeee! souls man! hey...,.life is beautiful But I must be honest, I have all the respect in the world for single moms. But I'm scared as hell now. But I don't want to be !! Link to post Share on other sites
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