If I did the right thing why am I so unhappy?

[Stunner]

So, boyfriend is going through a lot right now...things that are deep...selling a family business that was his entire family history as well as his upbringing and two children who are causing him so much pain right now. He's having a hard time muddling through and has turned to work to fill the void. Sometimes it gets in the way of us getting together. He canceled a date last week because he got stuck out of town and returned late and didn't feel like going out. I didn't give him a hard time I just said, "oh, ok." and left it at that. I didn't call after that knowing his Sunday would be jammed with the things he would have done if he had returned on time...Monday I didn't call because that is his busiest work day of the week. I sent him a little email that just asked how he was doing, etc....little stuff.

 

He sends back a three paragraph email, long for him, going through all the reasons that he is burying himself in his work. I sent him a very compassionate, warm reply...being supportive and understanding that he has gone through a lot of change and he will deal with it as he sees fit. I understand what he's going through and I'm here, I care, etc. I also told him that I haven't earned the place in his life yet where I am a priority...(four months dating) and I want to see him find some resolution to the things that are bothering him. He made it clear he puts my kids and his first and he cares....all that great stuff. He let me know he was taking his phone with him....in response to that I told him I was going to leave it to him to call while he's planning on being gone because I know he has so much going on. Today will be the fourth day we haven's spoken..it's killing me but I know he needs some room to just exist and do his job...focus on something other than his kids...which hurts him the deepest right now. I covered ALL the bases so he knows I care and I'm here and I will help if he WANTS me to...I respect his time, his feelings, etc.

 

I saw him two weeks ago and we had a nice time but he looked like hell...tears even sprung into his eyes when he pulled his wallet out to pay for dinner (his child bought that wallet for him years ago)....he didn't shave and had a ball cap on....really opposite of what he's usually done.

 

Guys, is this something you would appreciate or did I send some kind of wrong message? I'm not panicking, I know he's not dumping me, I really think he would do that in person..or even just end it. But if this is such a good thing to do for him why do I feel so bad about it?