killercards Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Okay, My girlfriend of nearly 4 months now, She has an apartment and Sex is been really awesome! Now, She is moving out into her best friends house, and her friend is a co worker (Female) She will have her own room and Yeah... Anyway she said she is feelling apprehensive about having sex there. We have a full sized bed we just got so it would be big enough for the both of us, Well She is kinda gonna use a twin bed to sleep on at the new house but is keeping the full bed... She asked me a couple times if that bothered me and I said not really. I guess it's to save her room space As she claims. She said she is apprehensive about the sex over there but she thought she can just come to my house and have sex.. Sounds good. Well I just started a new Job because we have already had plans to move in together in our own place prior to the best friend move in... And she says she's only going to stay there for a few months until I'm ready and her mission there is to save a lot of money for our move in. To be honest, I have been really apprehensive my self to her moving in with her friend. Now with me starting work me and her are going to be a little distant for a few months but we will still see each other but not as much, She also said to me, "It will test our relationship, And I know it will pass." What the hell does this mean? seriously? And Does anybody see any signs that may lead to something? What should or shouldn't I do? Maybe I just worry too much Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 She also said to me, "It will test our relationship, And I know it will pass." She is going to experiment with lesbianism. But, like she says, it's just a phase she is going through. Link to post Share on other sites
Author killercards Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 She is going to experiment with lesbianism. But, like she says, it's just a phase she is going through. She isn't into girls and plus this best friend of hers is morman... Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Okay, My girlfriend of nearly 4 months now, She has an apartment and Sex is been really awesome! Now, She is moving out into her best friends house, and her friend is a co worker (Female) She will have her own room and Yeah... Anyway she said she is feelling apprehensive about having sex there. We have a full sized bed we just got so it would be big enough for the both of us, Well She is kinda gonna use a twin bed to sleep on at the new house but is keeping the full bed... She asked me a couple times if that bothered me and I said not really. I guess it's to save her room space As she claims. She said she is apprehensive about the sex over there but she thought she can just come to my house and have sex.. Sounds good. Well I just started a new Job because we have already had plans to move in together in our own place prior to the best friend move in... And she says she's only going to stay there for a few months until I'm ready and her mission there is to save a lot of money for our move in. To be honest, I have been really apprehensive my self to her moving in with her friend. Now with me starting work me and her are going to be a little distant for a few months but we will still see each other but not as much, She also said to me, "It will test our relationship, And I know it will pass." What the hell does this mean? seriously? And Does anybody see any signs that may lead to something? What should or shouldn't I do? Maybe I just worry too much I believe that the test she is referring to is being distant from each other for a few months, like you mentioned above. The test is to see if you two will remain together after all has been said and done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author killercards Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 I believe that the test she is referring to is being distant from each other for a few months, like you mentioned above. The test is to see if you two will remain together after all has been said and done. Yeah, She wants to get a place together after the few months of her living at her friends. And Her rent will be much less than living in her apartment. She says she is doing this for us. And She says I should worry because I did tell her about my worries about her moving in and She says everything will be fine. On Jan. the 4th We are getting engaged, She already picked out the ring she wants too. And Today We are going to getting matching rings as a promise rings. That will make things a little more safe and secured feeling that we will stay together forever. But Another issue was brought up, I stay at her apartment for week and go back to my house for a couple of days, She has been Kind of like pulling away from me when I always touch her and Hug her and Kiss her... She says we spend too much time together and She always liked her alone time and from her family... Sometimes she wants to be left alone... Which is nothing against me. She told me all of this. She says she still wants to move in with me and get married and all that But she needs her alone time. I guess this is something I can work on? Maybe be a little less clingy and attached with her? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Yeah, She wants to get a place together after the few months of her living at her friends. And Her rent will be much less than living in her apartment. She says she is doing this for us. And She says I should worry because I did tell her about my worries about her moving in and She says everything will be fine. On Jan. the 4th We are getting engaged, She already picked out the ring she wants too. And Today We are going to getting matching rings as a promise rings. That will make things a little more safe and secured feeling that we will stay together forever. Um, so you've been dating less than 4 months and you are certain that you know each other well enough to spend the rest of your lives together??? Why do you have such a need to make "things a little more safe and secured feeling that we will stay together forever"? There is NO SUCH GUARANTEE even if you are actually married. And the odds are against you since you barely know each other. But Another issue was brought up, I stay at her apartment for week and go back to my house for a couple of days, She has been Kind of like pulling away from me when I always touch her and Hug her and Kiss her... She says we spend too much time together and She always liked her alone time and from her family... Sometimes she wants to be left alone... Which is nothing against me. She told me all of this. She says she still wants to move in with me and get married and all that But she needs her alone time. I guess this is something I can work on? Maybe be a little less clingy and attached with her? You can bet that this is not the only issue that will come up, because you have hardly been together long enough to know each other. She's telling you that she likes to have time to herself, time to do her own thing, time to be with her friends on her own, time to do what she likes, when she likes. Can you handle that? Or do you need a girlfriend/wife who wants to spend all her free time with you? Will you get jealous if she goes out with her friends without you? While you sit at home alone and wait for her? You have not been together long enough to truly know and understand what is most important to in a relationship. Infatuation only takes you so far. You might want to hold off on the engagement until you are certain you know who she is and can accept it. You also might want to hold off on the engagement so she isn't SO SECURE of you just yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author killercards Posted October 22, 2006 Author Share Posted October 22, 2006 I still need answers...So this test is only to see if our relationship will continue? And the distance we will have might cause a break up? because she promises me we will stay together forever. I don't want to lose her but This distance will me less sex and us spending time together.. Or will our sex life be more powerful? I mean with breaks in between maybe the sex will be really good? Link to post Share on other sites
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Touche Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Yeah, maybe the sex will be even better..but you still shouldn't get married. Anyone who needs space for themselves to the degree your g/f seems to want, in my opinion is not ready for marriage. Put it off and play the rest by ear. Link to post Share on other sites
Author killercards Posted October 23, 2006 Author Share Posted October 23, 2006 Yeah, maybe the sex will be even better..but you still shouldn't get married. Anyone who needs space for themselves to the degree your g/f seems to want, in my opinion is not ready for marriage. Put it off and play the rest by ear. You Know I have been hearing this over and over again That I should wait on marriage. But the whole thing is we talk about getting married all the time... She brings it up most of the time. Well we have been a couple for like close to 4 months but have known each other for well over a year. Before we became a couple, We were best friends but we had a thing for eachother on the inside and was scared to let it out. Anyway, She says she wants to get engaged soon and we will wait on getting married when we are ready. We can still get engage and Wait on being married. Jan 4 2007 is the plan to get engage but not marry yet... Also In a few months she will move out of her roomates house and Me and Her are going to get a place of our own, as we planned. And The space she needs is just how she is and she's like that with her family or anybody in that case. But We also talked about it and being married and she says I'm not worried about it, you are. As in I worry too much.... True. She says she is solitairy person who Just needs alone time sometimes Which i understand because I'm like that with my family. But this whole space thing she is acting just started because she has been stressed out about the move and just on edge... This is just a phase with her I think Because Before she always would be so clingy to me... But I do agree that the sex will be better because It's sex we would be waiting on and wanting it bad and instead of Me being there 24/7 and wanting to do her all the time... I think it will be better. When she move out in like a week and a half from now, I think it would be a great time to really communicate with eachother and We already talked about writting each other letters through the mail. And I will still be able to call her at work... Link to post Share on other sites
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lovelorcet Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 How old are you guys? Link to post Share on other sites
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