Guest Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 A while back there was a post about ‘would u be able to cheat on your SO – and I have always said NO WAY – NEVER HAVE, NEVER WILL. Yesteday I was talking with my very best exfriend Michael Applesauce about ‘what constitutes; cheating and during that, it just sort of hit me! When someone is asked if they cheat or could, they think only in terms of old IN and OUT, Slap N Tickle, Rod and Reel, The Old Donkey Bonk Express! But we all know that there are various others ways of cheating, and they can include sex - but without contact [really makes no sense when you could have the real thing – if you know what I mean!] So instead of having a narrow focus [self-serving that way] one could include things like phone sex, cybering in chat rooms, showing yer private parts on web cam, etc. I am sure the list is endless. A nyhoooooooo, the point of all this is many years ago, people told me my ex cheated on me, and frankly, I dislike anyone, but an ex, to tell me what someone I was in a relationship with did – but sometimes we all ‘admit to the golden goose egg’ our own way. That’s a lesson for all you folks struggling and waiting for your ex to give that to you – ain’t gonna happen. The point of NC is to find your own closure and you do that by being honest and putting all the cards on the table – your cards – not the exs. Anyhooo [stop rambling off topic – that one of the things I am working on], I have been saying NO WAY! Never cheated – but I guess I have to admit I really did because even if you are drugged up, depresses down, heart broken – if you did an act that constitutes cheating it is still cheating. Sure there are ‘elements’ that may, not excuse, but provide understanding and empathy regarding your behaviour - but, it is still your actions. So, I will finish this in another post [my cheating] [calling it - Dating sites, chat rooms, web cams, drugs, depression, and boston cream donuts] but I wanted to end it here and say to the ex “looks like you are not the only one”. I guess that is part of the reason I don’t feel anger at the ex. Hmmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedGal Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 My definition of cheating: "If you feel like you're cheating, you probably are...." Finding a guy apart from my husband attractive is fine. Human nature. REALLY digging a guy...bad. I find many guys attractive. Two years ago, I foudn a guy too attractive...I mean, he hung out at the coffee shop I studied at and kept checking me out.. He would kind of look at me everyday and I honestly looked forward to it...Probably cause I was 25 and he could be no older than 22...And damn cute...And I hid my hand with the ring...REAL BAD! But thinking about him that much was bad, not that I would ever act on it, but the guilt kicked in. When the guilt kicks in, I know I have gone too far! :-) Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 Here's mine: Having feelings for someone else and then acting on them. Link to post Share on other sites
nancyleeh Posted October 26, 2006 Share Posted October 26, 2006 My definition of cheating is doing anything of a sexual nature that you would hide from your partner or not do in front of him/her. nancyleeh Link to post Share on other sites
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