thelittleflower Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. Before you say that is too soon for an engagement, we have known each other for six years, and dated previously for one year. I am 18, turning 19 in December, he is 24. We had a talk the other night, and we both mutually feel that we want to spend the rest of our lives together. It didn't come out like that verbatim, but that's the jist of our conversation, anyways. We are planning on getting engaged within the next six months or so, and plan to make it a long engagement. We both want to wait until I graduate college (2009 or 2010, depending on what my major is) and so we can both live on our own for a period of time before getting married. Is a long engagement a good idea? We both have marriage in mind, and do not plan on getting married for quite a while. :) Thanks for your input!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 Yes, it's an EXCELLENT idea. You won't believe how much you'll change in just those years. In fact, I'd put it off at least until you're 25. I'm serious. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 What Touche said. No need to rush. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 Is a long engagement a good idea? We both have marriage in mind, and do not plan on getting married for quite a while. my nephew and his wife did that, and it worked out pretty well for them – he went to trade school then began working as a mechanic immediately, putting money aside for their eventual marriage; she finished college, did her student teaching and lined up a job in the town she grew up in and also put aside money for their marriage. I think getting those goals out of the was – even though it sometimes seemed like they never got any closer to marriage – was a smart idea because it gave both a chance to experience things, meet people in different environments and just grow as people. They knew each other in high school but didn't start dating until their senior year, so really, the five or six years they waited to marry helped make them stronger, in my opinion. They went through the long-distance thing, they had to make decisions oriented toward their marriage goal, they learned to communicate well. so yeah, waiting to marry is a good idea, especially if it means getting certain things done (like school) before committing yourself to a relationship that will be your life's focus. Link to post Share on other sites
adnCat Posted October 24, 2006 Share Posted October 24, 2006 A long engagement sure is a better idea than getting married anytime soon. I'm would prefer a shorter engagement for myself, but it's a personal preference, and if you are not opposed to a long engagement, go for it! Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author thelittleflower Posted October 24, 2006 Author Share Posted October 24, 2006 Thanks guys for your responses...this is all so new to me! :-) Link to post Share on other sites
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