smsfire2003 Posted October 25, 2006 Share Posted October 25, 2006 OK well here's my sorry little long so bear with me, I'm 23 years old and my ex is 22 we've been together for 2 years this month and I considered it a great relationship yes we had our arguments but we also had a great time together also, about a month ago we got into a really heated argument and at the end she decided that she needed a break from the relationship and she needed her space at the time I was an idiot and didn't give her the space she needed because at the time I just didn't understand so I kept bothering her and that really pushed her away from me alot ok well about 2 weeks ago I met up with her to return to her some personal things that she needed from me we talked a little, laughed, cried and just had a great time in each others company we ended up back at my place and well it ended up that we had sex, after that I brought her back to her car and she was saying that she was still confused and didn't know what she wanted..after that we met up occisaionally once a weekend for two more times and same stuff happened untill last weeked she told me she just needed anoter week and we could start talking again and possibly start hanging out to see where it goes that was on a saturday and I was fine with that I was completely excited I felt like we had a chance of finally getting back together until a week later on friday night she happened to be at a bar where my friend was that night and he decided to get involved in my buisness and confronted her saying that she shouldn't be playing games with my head and that it was wrong for her and I to have sex together she called me up later that night furious that I told him that we had sex together and she used that as a reason to just end it right there on the spot she said that is what really made up her mind and I should of never told him that we had sex when she had made no mention of it to me to just keep it between ourselves, so well here I am all upset over this I asked her to meet me in person the next day we met up and she was very mad with me for what happened and she pretty much tore my heart apart and told me that it was over but she still loves me and that if it was meant to be that it will happen and she's not sure if she wants a relationship now because she's young and all but she said she still has feelings for me and this is vary hard for her to do. ...I need some advice on what to do yesterday I sent her a text message besically explaining that she should re-consider this when she's not filled with anger towards me and that i'll always be here for her but i'm not going to wait around for her forever and she pretty much replied saying that she already knows the ansmwer but she'll reconsider it..so whats everyones opinion what should i do? just stand back and hopefully now that i'm out of her life not bothering her and trying to presuade her to come back maybe now she'll just come back to me? like everyone says love always finds a way right? How long should I wait to contact her? I'll be honest i've been in several real relationships and even though i'm young this is the woman i've been looking for i'm so hearbroken I was almost ready to propose to hear for x-mas and I love her so much i've never loved anybody this much, i'm so desperate to get her back into my life, please help out I don't want to sound desperate here but I really am. Thanks everyone for taking the time to read this I really appreciate it very much Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted October 26, 2006 Share Posted October 26, 2006 say goodbye Link to post Share on other sites
Author smsfire2003 Posted October 28, 2006 Author Share Posted October 28, 2006 Thats it?? nobody else has any opinions...?? :( Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 I am feeling romantic so here goes. And I will give you the most dangerous advice anyone could give: You want her? Go get her. Your self-esteem has to be in top shape for this and you will have to know your own limits and when to give up. You will also have to be able to do away with all the petty reasons she is giving for breaking things off. She broke up in the heat of an argument? She's mad that you told a friend you had sex? Can't you talk to a friend when you're going through a breakup? The fact is, it all sounds like emotional over-reaction to me. Do you think it might come from something else? Are there deeper issues in your relationship that you're trying to ignore? Did she give you any good reason, other then being young, for wanting things to be over? If being young really is the issue, then I think you have nothing to loose by trying to win her back. oh wait, yes, your emotional stability. Make sure you don't loose that ok? Now here is the story of a friend: he and his girlfriend met when they were 18 and when they were both 23, she started having doubts and she broke things off. The young thing. He was convinced she was the one, so he did everything in his power to convince her to come back to him by sweeping her off her feet. Showing up at her place of work with flowers (and she got really mad at him), you know, stuff like that. Of course, you do have to respect her limits and her boundaries. The point is, show her you're the man for her. She kept him away for months but he kept going. And then, the week he decided to give up because he was drained emotionnally, she gave him a call... Now they're engaged. Go for it, you want her, go get it. Just make sure you know when to give up. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 Oh, and i just wanted to point out that they got engaged 3 years after the rough patch. If you do win her back, take your time to keep building a strong relationship! Maybe the young this is her way of saying she feels pressure... Link to post Share on other sites
suzy61 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Take a deep breath.You'll get her back. I'm not even going to begin to list the number of people I know who have had the same experience as you, except they by-passed the "on the break" thing and went straight to the break up.All of them are back together now.They were broken up for various different lengths of time.Actually it gave them a bit of a sense of perspective. Plus I'm currently in a great relationship, for the last 3 and a half years.But I am panicking for no good reason and I really feel I'd like a bit of space. I honestly think this guy is the one, but I feel like I'm just running scared for no reason other than I'm terrified.It's all so serious suddenly.However I am hanging in there...and he does know all about it, which helps.Also, I'm the same age as you, and so is my boyfriend. Listen I reckon that girl of yours is scared, and very confused.Give her a bit of space.Send her a few texts, meet up with her, go to the cinema, do harmless stuff, take it easy.Remind her why you were together in the first place.She'll come round, but it will take time. And don't propose to her for a while yet.You've got the rest of your life, and since she's run away, let her get comfortable before you do that or she might get scared enough to run again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author smsfire2003 Posted October 31, 2006 Author Share Posted October 31, 2006 well now she saying it over and she won't even respon to my messages or even call me....I mean after everything she said she just wants to end it but then she still telling me she still loves me and she always will and that if it was meant to be it will happen? should I just move on and forget about her or is there a chance of her comming back? Link to post Share on other sites
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