bluetuesday Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 you know, i've been celibate for a long time now and genuinely i've never been happier. i'm pretty sure i will stay this way for ever. and the longer it goes on, the happier i am. that's something they don't tell you. that being celibate has immense benefits. you think much more clearly. you get a deep sense of satifaction and peace from not being focused on getting some all the time. i'm convinced that there are just some things you can't experience when you're so fixated on getting shagged. and i feel sad that some people's lives seem to revolve around sex. if they're getting it they're happy. if they're not, they're miserable. ugh, that's such an unsatisfactory way to live. i have learned things in this lifetime i wouldn't have missed for anything, and they've happened because i've got energy to devote to them because i'm not bothered about finding sex or keeping sex. i have a hugely rich spiritual life and it's fulfilling in a way sex never was or ever could be. i am totally fulfilled by it. i feel like i need nothing from life and i'm grateful for everything. i feel whole. isn't that a wonderful thing? truly, i wouldn't swap being me for the whole world. i think everyone on LS should try being celibate on purpose. i highly recommend it.
tanbark813 Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I couldn't live with myself if I deprived the ladies of my lovin'. It's not fair to them.
burning 4 revenge Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 being celibate is the worst thing that ever happened to me and thats not an exageration
Guest Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 when you're so fixated on getting shagged That assumes that you are either 'fixated on getting shagged' or else eschewing sex altogether. I don't think everyone treads that line. I have a very healthy sex drive but I've had plenty of periods of celibacy in my life because I won't just shag for the sake of sex. I spent much of my life since high school tending to my spirituality and I'm very happy and peaceful. However, I did have the good fortune to be in a good relationship and I'd be delighted to have another one. Not 'to shag' but for all the enjoyment that a good relationship can bring - including sex. I think that even though Buddha preached elimination of all desires, he'd not be that upset at people who practiced the 'middle way' in terms of balancing life/spirituality/relationship/sex. But certainly for people who go at sex the way others go at eating or drinking (always in excess), then perhaps it might be a good idea for them to try doing without for a bit.
phyrespryte Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 It was fun the first year. I mean I got my virginity back...that's pretty special. But then I decided aww...what the heck? 2 more years couldn't hurt. Blah. Now I wonder if I even know how to do it anymore.
luvtoto Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 bluetuesday, what then do you do for your 'release'??
Author bluetuesday Posted October 27, 2006 Author Posted October 27, 2006 bluetuesday, what then do you do for your 'release'?? i don't need a release. in my experience, a release is only needed when you allow sexual tension to build up.
Author bluetuesday Posted October 27, 2006 Author Posted October 27, 2006 being celibate is the worst thing that ever happened to me and thats not an exageration you believe you have had celibacy thrust upon you, though. excuse the phrasing. that's a whoooooole different ball game to choosing it. i am talking about being celibate out of choice. you are talking about the perceived removal of your choices. apples and oranges, my friend.
luvtoto Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 So, BT, do you ever experience sexual attraction? Do you have any emotional needs?
elijahBailey Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 i think everyone on LS should try being celibate on purpose. i highly recommend it. Question: assuming I can convince my SO to be celibate, can I still do porn and jerk off and still be considered celibate?
luvtoto Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I've heard of people being A-sexual. But, that is when you have no emotional needs or sexual attraction to either sexes. Is that what we are talking about here?
quankanne Posted October 27, 2006 Posted October 27, 2006 I've heard of people being A-sexual. But, that is when you have no emotional needs or sexual attraction to either sexes. Is that what we are talking about here? I think what he's talking about is consciously accepting that having sex is not the be-all, end-all of your relationship with someone, or the only goal you fixate on. It's possible to get to a point where you want something more than just to screw, even when you love your partner dearly ... you cross over into a more spiritual realm, I guess is one way of putting it, the physicality of sex just doesn't have the same meaning. It doesn't mean you don't enjoy sex, but it takes on a new dimension because you're looking at it differently through a celibate experience. Though technically, celibate means "unpartnered," while abstinence is forgoing sexual intercourse.
luvtoto Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 I think what he's talking about is consciously accepting that having sex is not the be-all, end-all of your relationship with someone, or the only goal you fixate on. It's possible to get to a point where you want something more than just to screw, even when you love your partner dearly. I think that happens every day in relationships, but yet sex is still involved. It's all about balance in life. Balance is what makes ya happy. Not making extreme decisions.
RecordProducer Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 i wouldn't swap being me for the whole world. And we wouldn't swap being us for you either!
alphamale Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 if I was offered $10 million for never having sex again I would be like "where do i sign". Sex is way over-rated. As long as I had access to quality porn there would be no problem.
magichands Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 if I was offered $10 million for never having sex again I would be like "where do i sign". What's the lowest figure you would sell your sex life for? It's a very tempting offer - especially as I'm probably not going to have sex again anyway. Ten million for nothing...woo!
luvtoto Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 if I was offered $10 million for never having sex again I would be like "where do i sign". Sex is way over-rated. As long as I had access to quality porn there would be no problem. Um...$10 million and NO sex ever. No masturbation or porn. Just NO sex. ..ever. Wait, did someone give the OP $10,000,000?? Did I miss something??
alphamale Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 What's the lowest figure you would sell your sex life for? $10 million Um...$10 million and NO sex ever. No masturbation or porn. Just NO sex. that would be impossible...
magichands Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 that would be impossible... You still have wet dreams. Nobody can take those away from you.
norajane Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Celibacy denies you the joy and power of intimate human touch and connection. I wouldn't give that up voluntarily, no way, no how.
magichands Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Celibacy denies you the joy and power of intimate human touch and connection. I wouldn't give that up voluntarily, no way, no how. I'm with you on the joy. But power? C'mon baby, it's time for my recharge...where do I plug myself in? And you're still allowed to hug people, just not pork them. Holy crap...congratulations on 2,000 posts!
westernxer Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 It was fun the first year. I mean I got my virginity back...that's pretty special. How do you get your virginity back?
magichands Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 How do you get your virginity back? if you don't have sex for a calendar year, it heals up. I thought that was common knowledge. It's different for a guy, though. The bleaching process is extremely painful. And it can affect the skin tone - sometimes permanently.
alphamale Posted October 28, 2006 Posted October 28, 2006 Celibacy denies you the joy and power of intimate human touch and connection. I wouldn't give that up voluntarily, no way, no how. who said voluntarily sister? this is for $10 million. for instance did you know that 20% of US men aged 18 to 72 don't have sex anymore? its like 12% for women.
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