caring guy Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 Hi I have posted this as part of a bigger post on another part of this site. This girl who is Russian & i'm dating (3 dates). I went for her hand on second date, she was ok with it. We hugged also & kissed on cheek. 3rd date, she went for my hand & touched my back etc & when we parted i tried to kiss her lips, not wet sloppy, just caring lip hugg! She wasn't up for it. I appologised. Couple days later she said she 'didn't have feeling' bearing in mind her English isn't fantastic. I wondered if she meant 'didn't have feeling' permanently or just then, so i asked her & she said we shouldn't be talking about this, she said she meant it was too early. If only she said that initially, my mind wouldn't have wondered. I guess a language misunderstanding, but i wanted to know. I was wondering if this is grounds for someone not wanting to carry on. We talk a lot, lots in common & planned to go walks & skating, i just am wondering if it may scare her off!! cg Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 I was wondering if this is grounds for someone not wanting to carry on. pretty much....yes. she has failed the kiss test. keep on looking CG. Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted October 28, 2006 Author Share Posted October 28, 2006 It's strange,i get so many different answers, my girl mates say different. Maybe her culture is different. Each date gets more touchy feely so she may be just a girl that likes to take it easy & get to know before a lip kiss! I went for her hand & she was happy, when i saw her yesterday, it was "wow" on my behalf that she went for my hand & stroked my arm. Everyone is different! Funny how the responces from girls have been different from the ones from guys!! My 1st 2yr + relationship, i didn't kiss her for ages after just seeing her as friend & i cried when she initially rejected me as i'm emotional & wanted her lots. Any other girl would've run a mile, but after keeping seeing her as a mate, she changed her mind!! cg Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted October 28, 2006 Share Posted October 28, 2006 my girl mates say different. don't ask your "girl mates" for advice on dating birds. Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted October 28, 2006 Author Share Posted October 28, 2006 strange as why not to, i don't mean young girls, they're like late 30's. If i did what my male mates said like whacking my c*ck on the table & saying "you want this", i know for absolute definate that i won't even be this far! cg Link to post Share on other sites
tdmce Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 I agree with the first poster, she failed the kiss test. Her interest level in you as anything more than a friend is zero. Girls decide on the first date if you will go into their 'friends' category or 'lover' category. And for whatever reason she put you into the 'friends' category but didn't tell you until the 3rd date. Check out some of the articles on this site: http://www.sosuave.com/ You may or may not get some value out of them. Every girl is different but some of the articles written apply to your situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author caring guy Posted November 2, 2006 Author Share Posted November 2, 2006 Read my new post in the 'dating ' forum, as you can see it has progressed. 'You can't hurry love' as the song says, slowly slowly catchy monkey!! My councelor & friends say to show your not in it for getting them into bed, you must resist temptation on the 1st date.. She's now kissing me & hiolding my arm, instigating hand holding etc, if i'd tryed to kiss her on 1st date, she'd have run a mile. cg Link to post Share on other sites
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