What is a Spark???

[rglove]

What is a Spark???

 

In relationships, love, is there such a thing as a spark, and if so what is it, how would we define it. We’ve all heard people involved in happy romantic relationships say that there was an instant spark between them, that the first time they looked into each others eyes or kissed sparks flew, and we’ve also heard from people who tried to have romantic relationships that fizzled say there was just no spark, so I asks again, just what is a spark, and how do you know when one is there? What denotes a spark for one or between two, just what are the, its signs???

 

Question 2:

 

How would you say a spark relates to Compatibility, and what impact does it have upon it?

[Guest]

We’ve all heard people involved in happy romantic relationships say that there was an instant spark between them, that the first time they looked into each others eyes or kissed sparks flew

 

And a few years later, we heard the exact same people say their spark plugs are horrible, awful people that they hate.

 

Don't believe in 'spark'. Don't look for 'spark' as a cue to longtime love.

[norajane]

Spark can be physical chemistry - a physical, sexual desire for each other.

 

Spark can be intellectual chemistry - a mental connection you share in sense of humor, interests, and conversation.

 

Some kind of spark is often important to get people together, to notice each other, but it's not enough to keep people together, especially if it's only physical chemistry.

 

Spark can develop over time even if it wasn't there initially, especially in work or other situations where you see someone often and get to know them, especially if one or both of you are shy or quiet. You can start to appreciate their qualities and sense of humor or whatever over time, and that can create spark.

 

In relationships where love doesn't develop over time, if the spark fizzles, then you've got nothing to keep the relationship going.

 

In a relationship where love develops, spark comes and goes depending on what's going on between the two of you at any given time.

 

Signs of spark...you know when you feel it. You can't always tell if someone feels it for you, especially if they are naturally friendly and outgoing (or for physical spark, are really into having sex regardless).

[magichands]

A spark is just like static electricity. It happens when you first touch, but then it's gone. You can try to get it back again by rubbing up and down against your partner.

[norajane]

A spark is just like static electricity. It happens when you first touch, but then it's gone. You can try to get it back again by rubbing up and down against your partner.

 

 

Perfect answer!

[jaylee]

Spark can be physical chemistry - a physical, sexual desire for each other.

 

Spark can be intellectual chemistry - a mental connection you share in sense of humor, interests, and conversation.

 

Some kind of spark is often important to get people together, to notice each other, but it's not enough to keep people together, especially if it's only physical chemistry.

 

Spark can develop over time even if it wasn't there initially, especially in work or other situations where you see someone often and get to know them, especially if one or both of you are shy or quiet. You can start to appreciate their qualities and sense of humor or whatever over time, and that can create spark.

 

In relationships where love doesn't develop over time, if the spark fizzles, then you've got nothing to keep the relationship going.

 

In a relationship where love develops, spark comes and goes depending on what's going on between the two of you at any given time.

 

Signs of spark...you know when you feel it. You can't always tell if someone feels it for you, especially if they are naturally friendly and outgoing (or for physical spark, are really into having sex regardless).

 

Ditto.

[rglove]

Question 3:

 

Is a spark an important factor for a long term romantic relationship, if you're involved with someone, but there's no eletricity there does it matter? Can a romantic relationship exist simply one mutural admiration and reverence (respect) for one another, or does there have to be more?

[stillbits12]

I don't believe in this so-called "initial spark". I don't know if it's a defense mechanism, but it usually takes me a while (a couple months at least) to figure out whether I really like someone and if that "spark" is there. I went on a couple of dates with a guy last year, and we were both agreeable and got along well, but I knew that it wasn't going to go anywhere and that it would've been better if we were just friends. He felt the same thing and told me that he didn't "feel the initial spark," as if "we had known each other our entire lives," and that's what he was looking for basically. When I heard that, I couldn't help but laugh to myself though. I just thought it was an overly idealistic and romantic idea. And had we spent a little more time together, I'm sure we would've found some spark. Probably neither of just wanted to put in the time.

 

Maybe the goal is to find pieces of flint and steel that will eventually create spark?

[Guest]

Maybe the goal is to find pieces of flint and steel that will eventually create spark?

 

I completely agree. It is not always evident right at the beginning that someone has qualities that are admirable. A person may seem rather ordinary - or may even irritate you when you first encounter each other. But as you become acquainted, you learn more about him (her, whatever) and the more you learn, the more you like and admire. Until you realize the person is someone you want to be with.

 

And at that point, I think 'spark' is inadequate to describe the feeling.

 

Can a romantic relationship exist simply one mutural admiration and reverence (respect) for one another, or does there have to be more?

 

Well there has to be love. A lot of it.