Guest Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I have been involved with a mm for 3 months now, he use to be my xbf from 10yrs ago. Last week he told me his wife was moving out, and now he is telling me she is going to do counseling, and try to make it work (she is), so I told him that I will step back because it is only fear that if she is welling to work on their marriage he should to, with no distraction (me). He responds, "what if I dont want to work on it", "I don't want you to leave my life now, I am just now starting to be happy again". After that responds I told him "that it would not want to find out in time that he made a mistake with me, and still loves her". He said, "he would like to see her get some counseling". I started to wonder if she was crazy or something (just a joke). But advisedly he still cares, I never hear him say he loves her. I just don't know..... Well to get to the point, I told him "I loved him", he had a hard time with a responds. He started to say he wants to tell me but... Then he states "I am loving you too", I just don't know what to think... I dont know if he actually feels that way or maybe just said it to make me happy, or maybe to try to keep me to hang around.... I dont mind waiting... But what should I do Link to post Share on other sites
Jane Doe Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I think you need to step WAY back and let him get him life worked out. He's obviously not in a position (emotionally or otherwise) to make a real committment to you right now. It sounds like he wants to keep you around in the event things don't work out. Rebound relationships seldom last. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I think you need to step WAY back and let him get him life worked out. He's obviously not in a position (emotionally or otherwise) to make a real committment to you right now. It sounds like he wants to keep you around in the event things don't work out. Rebound relationships seldom last. A friend of mind had said the same thing, rebound relationships seldom last. I think the hardest thing for me right now is that I really enjoy every minute spent with this man, but my morals and values are telling me I am so wrong. And I know I am. The weirdest part of this whole situation is that me and him are to much alike, we think the same, we do the same things, we want the same things in life (my mom thinks he is my soul mate, but is there really a such thing). Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 He isnt out of the marriage emotionally. If he is saying he is loving you too. I understand caring for the wife to a certain point especially if children are involved. But if he LOVES you and only you then he would and will say it. That my opinion Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 He isnt out of the marriage emotionally. If he is saying he is loving you too. I understand caring for the wife to a certain point especially if children are involved. But if he LOVES you and only you then he would and will say it. That my opinion Let me ask you something--- Do you think is wrong to fall in love with a married man? Do you think its to soon to even feel that way after a short amount of time? What is love anyways? It sounds more like lust if you ask me!! But who am I to say. Only time will give the right answer... But if you seriously love this guy, give him the space he needs to make up his own mind what he is wanting, you can not force a man to love you, nor a women, it just happens. I do believe in soul mates, but thats once in a life time and only happens to 1 out of 100,000,000 people, these numbers might be alittle off but it makes since. Ask yourself how many people do you know have found their soul mates, and out of those people how many are still together.. (point made) Link to post Share on other sites
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