drewicide Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 So, here's a little background. I'm 17 and I like to race model R/C cars, which is my main hobby. Tomorrow (or today I should say), I'm supposed to go out with some friends that are also into this hobby. We're supposed to go out to a track to race with other R/C cars. I was also supposed to get a lift to the track from an older friend (28, known him for 3 years). I already told them I would be going, because my parents would always let me race. When I told my mom about this, she just told me that it was too far, and that she didn't trust the older friend about driving. She told me to ask my dad. My dad said almost the same thing, except he would say "I'll think about it". Well that was a day or two ago. Now I asked them about 2 hours ago and they tell me "No". After 2 weeks of planning they said "No". I have already committed to go already, so now I have to cancel plans, which will also ruin the plans of the others that are going along. Now the problem is, that he is picking me up around 8am. It is 2 now and my parents are asleep, yet I already told the friend to pick me up. This will ruin the whole trip! I'll have to leave a message to tell him to just go straight there! The bottom line is, my parents won't let me do anything or go out anywhere. I'm almost 18, yet I do not have any freedom. Sure, you may think "they just love you a lot and don't want you hurt". But this has happened so many times it has gotten very frustrating! They won't let me take a break on weekends to do anything, except for school work (Friday night to Sunday). This is a hobby, it's not like I'm going to go out to do drugs or anything. It's just getting on my nerves that I can't spend a single weekend doing something that I like. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Have you ever broken their trust before? And what is it about this older friend they don't like? I'm sorry you're going through this...hey, you're not alone. A LOT of us went through that same thing but look at it this way, you'll be 18 soon and hopefully out on your own right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author drewicide Posted October 29, 2006 Author Share Posted October 29, 2006 They trust me completely. But they just don't know who this older friend is. He's a nice guy, many of us know him like that. Can't wait till I go to college actually. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Well, as a parent I'd be a little suspicious of a 28 year old man hanging out with a teenage boy. So I can see where they're coming from with that. Look, it's perfectly normal for you to be anxious to leave the nest at this age. I'd be worried if you weren't. Believe me, the day will come before you know it and you'll be on your own and making your own decisions. For now, at least know that they give a damn about you. So many parents now don't give a rap about their kids. Good luck, drew! Link to post Share on other sites
peterparks Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 I agree with Touche's sentiment. Parents are always after our best interests. Trust me, I went through the same situation like yours. Link to post Share on other sites
Quinch Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Get used to it. I'm 34, 6'3 and 200lbs but my mum still can't stop thinking of me as her little boy Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted October 29, 2006 Share Posted October 29, 2006 Hate to say what is so trite and cliched BUT...you will all understand when you have your own kids someday. It's so true. Link to post Share on other sites
Aralaiqualasse Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 I undestand. I myself also have the same problems. I'm 17. Mom and dad divorced and each have new family. My mom lives in KL while dad in SBH. My 5th step mom hates me while my step dad not.Even though I didn't hate her..... Now my 5th step mom will divorce with my dad yet she always disturb me by ringing my phone and ask about my father and 3rd step-brother (The son of the first wife, I'm the 2nd wife's). My 5th step mom accuse my step brother hits her when the truth is not. That's about my family. Now about a trip that my friends and I have planned. We decided next year January to go have some fun in KL. I didn't want to tell my mom cause I suppose to go her place in the end of December this year. I don't want to go there yet cause I'm scare that she will make me live with her for a whole year. But my dad insist me to tell my mom about it cause he concern about my safetyness. Now, my mom mad at me and I know it cause her voice change. I think I may go crazy, my exam is in this month tll December...Now I have my mom and 5ht step mom on my head..... I really mad at my dad and my mom at the same time......Even though I'm 17 if i want to go out to city I must at least accompany by 1 person. He's driving me nuts. Last week, I just take a bus from a very VERY NEAR place (at least one kilometre) and my dad (he out-stationed that week) knows it and call me about it......It seems that my oldest step brother tell my dad. for God sake I need my own time to be away from all crazy things just or 5 bloody days. I never broken their trust on me. Can they just trust me for once that I can keep myself safe? Can they just try to understand that I just want a normal family? I want a normal bloody life.....My life is ruin since I'm 4rd years old (it's all because my mom, believe me you all really don't want to now what happen to me, not that she beats me but the fact that she place me at someone else home that something happen to me.) That's why I really loves my family yet hate them very much at the same time...... Link to post Share on other sites
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