Art_Critic Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Another month, another person who obviously did not get asked out by a girl ..... Link to post Share on other sites
SassyNClassy Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 Those of you who are still working on your reading comprehension may begin to realize that this sort of situation was the goal. This is kind of a condecending comment you made here. You may find it difficult to get a variety of well thought out responses to your query as you seem to get easily annoyed at people when they don't stay strictly on your topic or if they make a good natured joke. Women are usualy very perceptive and if they pick up on a short fused, humorless vibe that you may put off then it is no wonder that they aren't approaching you or responding well when you approach them. In any case, I would suggest what some others have hinted at...making absolutly sure that you are putting your best foot forward...clean, teeth brushed, hair combed and styled in an atractive manner, dressed fasionably, hit the gym and tone up if you're not already (women appreciate a nice body). A sincere compliment to someone can also do wonders! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted March 7, 2007 Author Share Posted March 7, 2007 This is kind of a condecending comment you made here. You may find it difficult to get a variety of well thought out responses to your query as you seem to get easily annoyed at people when they don't stay strictly on your topic or if they make a good natured joke. It definitely is condescending, and was deliberately done to be such. It reminds its intended receiver, who did not do his part in plain old netiquette (*reading* my and the others' posts before spouting off), that he might want to rethink his ways. A "good-natured joke"? Call me thin-skinned or exceedingly sensitive, but I don't consider it a mark of good nature to jest at someone about something that's caused him a decade straight of pain. Women are usualy very perceptive and if they pick up on a short fused, humorless vibe that you may put off then it is no wonder that they aren't approaching you or responding well when you approach them. I don't doubt this is possible, and certainly I can imagine that there could be some amount of resultant circular effect (long periods of direct and indirect rejection --> frustration --> anger --> further direct and indirect rejection --> ...), but there's not much I can do in this regard. I do not view having half my dating life unjustly consigned to nonexistence before I make even one faux pas and the other half being, rightly or wrongly, a thankless horrifically low-percentage fight for scraps as something to feel, say, gratitude or joy about. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyNClassy Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 I don't doubt this is possible, and certainly I can imagine that there could be some amount of resultant circular effect (long periods of direct and indirect rejection --> frustration --> anger --> further direct and indirect rejection --> ...), but there's not much I can do in this regard. I do not view having half my dating life unjustly consigned to nonexistence before I make even one faux pas and the other half being, rightly or wrongly, a thankless horrifically low-percentage fight for scraps as something to feel, say, gratitude or joy about. Since you haven't revealed to us whether you do have some sort of deformity or are (for lack of a better term) unfortunatly unattractive, then my other suggestion is to try out internet dating, if you haven't done so already (sorry, I don't feel like rereading through the whole thread to jog my memory). People are on those sites specificly to find love, so you may find more women who will make the first move because there is less pressure when sitting behind the computer screen. Link to post Share on other sites
SassyNClassy Posted March 7, 2007 Share Posted March 7, 2007 It seems straightforward enough. What's not to understand? By the way, this is the "good natured joke" I was refering to. Since it wasn't aimed at you or making fun of your situation and didn't send the whole thread into a tailspin I don't know how you can take offence to it. Lighten up Lights! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted March 10, 2007 Author Share Posted March 10, 2007 Since you haven't revealed to us whether you do have some sort of deformity or are (for lack of a better term) unfortunatly unattractive, then my other suggestion is to try out internet dating, if you haven't done so already (sorry, I don't feel like rereading through the whole thread to jog my memory). People are on those sites specificly to find love, so you may find more women who will make the first move because there is less pressure when sitting behind the computer screen. I don't know! I just don't see myself as being that horrifically repulsive. I've considered internet dating, but I'm not so interested in internet dating or lack of "pressure" as much as I am interested in increasing my access to modern, desirable, highly socially advanced young single women who can handle the "pressure" with frequency equal to my own, and to meet them and be met by them in a friendly and respectful manner. I have been having serious proactivity parity issues with both genders over the last decade or so, but what I'm running into as far as dating goes is nothing less than an outrage in my book (unless it's something I'm actively unconsciously causing). I'm just clueless as to what's causing it all. I've been trying to change things up, but nothing so far seems to be working. It makes me want to puke. I don't get motion sickness from movement in the usual three dimensions, but all the time-travel back to 1955 is making me queasy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted April 19, 2007 Author Share Posted April 19, 2007 It's infuriating. How much longer must I be stuck, held by force in some sort of chronometric limbo? I was never supposed to have been sent back to 1955! I would appreciate any help. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted May 16, 2007 Author Share Posted May 16, 2007 I'm sorry about all this post bumping. I could use advice on cutting down all this indirect rejection though. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 16, 2007 Share Posted May 16, 2007 Or even have an attractive member of the opposite sex pass by and strike up a friendly, flirty conversation? After all these years, I still haven't learned anything about how it's done. I hate the way I'm still stuck fighting for scraps of a dating life that more properly belongs in the 1950s. How do I finish off this nastiness and have my social life join me in the third millennium? Why wait for the attractive member of the opposite sex to do the first move? Why don't YOU do it? It works... A few times, I have done the first step because he was either too shy or just 'chicken' and it worked everytime... So just go out there and make the move!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted May 16, 2007 Author Share Posted May 16, 2007 Why wait... So just go out there and make the move!!! Although I appreciate your willingness to respond to the thread, it would be more appropriate if you first read the posts within it before posting... I'm mainly asking because I'm the only person ever to attempting to make a conversation as anything remotely potentially flirting-related goes. For those who actually read the post which contained this, it becomes quite apparent that I make the moves, and that I do not wait. The question is how to have moves also regularly made in my direction. and it worked everytime... This part would certainly be interesting to learn, though. Would you please send me a private message about how to improve one's success ratio to this level? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 16, 2007 Share Posted May 16, 2007 Although I appreciate your willingness to respond to the thread, it would be more appropriate if you first read the posts within it before posting... For those who actually read the post which contained this, it becomes quite apparent that I make the moves, and that I do not wait. The question is how to have moves also regularly made in my direction. This part would certainly be interesting to learn, though. Would you please send me a private message about how to improve one's success ratio to this level? but if I answer the thread, let's say on the 5th page, I read the OP, then I answer... I usually don't go through all the pages or read what others have answered first. This is the way I post... Maybe it would be a good idea to put as much info in the first post... Link to post Share on other sites
Teeky3 Posted May 19, 2007 Share Posted May 19, 2007 Lizzie makes some good points and I did read through all of the threads. It started to side-bar for a moment and lost me a bit, but I did try to stay on track. There is no trick to this but let me ask...when you are around men, what is your attitude like? Men pick up on "our" vibes. If you're sitting around with yuor lips poked out or arms crossed or appearing somewhat unapproachable, they will not approach you. Since you say you approach men, are you too aggressive, do you appear desperate or like some type of needy, crazed woman? I am not making fun....but these are the kinds of things I hear from my male friends. Men are supposed to be strong, confident and self assured, but in reality, they are frightened to death of rejection and they'd rather not even strike up a converation if they don't feel it will go their way. The other thing is...what exactly do you look like? I hate to make this out to be about vanity, but the truth is, men are FIRST attracted to our looks. They, like us are visual people? How do you dress, are you overweight, or not enough curves....is your hair style in style, what about your nails..are they nicely manicured, and what about your clothes? Are you squeezing into attire that you should not be in? Have you checked your breath and speaking of breath, what kind of condition are your teeth in. If you wear glasses, are they the 1980 School Boy type? Is your make-up too heavy or are you a Dove Soap Kinda girl...wearing almost nothing? This stuff matters to most men. Think about enhancing yor natural beauty and be confident about it. Men LIKE to look at women and competition is fierce, so make sure you get noticed, but don't come off as desperate (I'm not saying you are cause I sense some sensitivity here) needy, or overpowering. This will surely turn any man away. Don't hang out with a bunch of women either. Go to places by yourself or with 1 friend. Men don't like to approach women who is with their entourage of female friends. Last but not least...SMILLE>SMILE>SMILE! Let them see that you are interested and why not try sending him a drink? The 6.00 you spend might be well worth it. All is not lost....but most of this comes from inside. You need to really start feeling UP about yourself instead of DOWN. The men are definitely out there....now go and get yours and report back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted May 22, 2007 Author Share Posted May 22, 2007 Teeky3, I'm neither female nor interested in men. I am a straight man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lights Posted November 14, 2007 Author Share Posted November 14, 2007 Please forgive the post bump; I'll let this drop for good after this. Absolutely everything has failed me here. The situation has not changed at all after all this time. Is this the sort of issue that one would see a dating coach or the like about? Link to post Share on other sites
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