Guest Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I am wondering if it would be wrong to hook up with my ex's sister. The ex has a bf now and I am over her. I work with her sister and talk to her on a regular basis. Do you think this would be wrong to do? Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 If you are young, single, and just having fun.... why not? Sound like some sweet revenge to me. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 If your ex has no problem whatsoever with it, I think it's fine(even if I'd not advise it). If she'd feel even slightly unconfortable it wouldn't be a nice thing to do IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 eww... I usually try not to judge, but... ew. Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Sounds like a recipe for disaster, IMO. Ex's sister AND you work with her? Don't sh-t where you eat man, or where you've eaten before. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 It most likely isn't your choice to make.. she most likely would not date you because of her sister.. But give it a shot.. You have nothing to lose and you do already know her real well. My ef GF was a twin.. So dating her sister would really be a no no ( even if she was single ).. haha.. but I did always think her sister had prettier eyes.. Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I'd think it is up to your ex's sister to make that decision. If you yourself are over your ex and it doesn't bother you what she thought anyways, then obviously the only two people it would create a tension between is the sisters. Even if the ex had a problem with it, if her sister is ok with it then I think it should be ok. Even if you and the ex are ok with it, if the sister isn't then nothing can happen anyways. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Where's Lovestruck? I think you need her advice. She dates her sister's exBF and last I knew was in love. She can probably help you out. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Stay away from her sister. You're setting yourself up for disaster and may cause a rift between family. That's just not cool. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I'd think it is up to your ex's sister to make that decision. If you yourself are over your ex and it doesn't bother you what she thought anyways, then obviously the only two people it would create a tension between is the sisters. Even if the ex had a problem with it, if her sister is ok with it then I think it should be ok. Even if you and the ex are ok with it, if the sister isn't then nothing can happen anyways. I totally agree with this. Stay away from her sister. You're setting yourself up for disaster and may cause a rift between family. That's just not cool. But then I changed my mind. And now I'm not so sure. I think it's up to your ex's sister, really. If I was her I wouldn't date you because it could cause problems with my sister. But maybe she has always fancied you!? Why screw up the path of true love just because of some "social convention" that - whilst having only the best of intentions at heart - should not be applied as blanket wisdom. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Geez - are there NO OTHER women out there but these sisters? Come on - getting involved with someone you work with is really dumb and asking for major trouble. Getting involved with the sister of an ex is even more really dumb and asking for psychodrama trouble. Getting involved with someone you work with who is the sister of an ex is supremely dumb and begging for the fires of hell to consume your dick. Odds are, you'll end up unemployed with a sexual harassment suit against you and a restraining order. Or maybe not. Maybe it will all end up happily ever after. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 and begging for the fires of hell to consume your dick. Some like it hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Even if the sisters do initially say that it's not a big deal, in reality it may become "awkward" at the least. I think eventually it will be a problem and you should just ask yourself is it all worth it anyways. Out of all of the fish in the sea you've gotta choose relatives? How do you think the rest of the family will feel about you? It just sounds like more drama than a lil bit IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 It most likely isn't your choice to make.. she most likely would not date you because of her sister.. But give it a shot.. You have nothing to lose and you do already know her real well. My ef GF was a twin.. So dating her sister would really be a no no ( even if she was single ).. haha.. but I did always think her sister had prettier eyes.. I too have a twin Art, and I've gotta say that it's been more than one occasion that a bf or x has tried. If she went through with it, or I...(I can't even type here what would happen). We've always looked at those guys to have been really lame to even try. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Ohmygosh are you crazy??!! Don't do it!! (I just made up my mind.) Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Ohmygosh are you crazy??!! Don't do it!! (I just made up my mind.) Was this your thread magichands? If so, I'm glad you've changed your mind! Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Was this your thread magichands? If so, I'm glad you've changed your mind! I was sound asleep at 5:03 AM on Wednesday. At least, I think I was. There is also the small matter of my ex not having a sister. Damn!! (Her bloodline was a very fine one indeed.) Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I was sound asleep at 5:03 AM on Wednesday. At least, I think I was. There is also the small matter of my ex not having a sister. Damn!! (Her bloodline was a very fine one indeed.) LMAO! Well luckily for you she didn't have a sister. Maybe lucky for her actually. Anywho, after I read back I saw that it wasn't your post. I thought you said you changed your mind about approaching the sister when I can see that you clearly was talking to the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Maybe lucky for her actually. Agreed. I thought you said you changed your mind about approaching the sister when I can see that you clearly was talking to the OP. I forgive you. Do you have a sister that's available? Link to post Share on other sites
Fun2BMe Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I don't see what the problem is. I'd think that working together would only make the relationship stronger by spending that much more time together. The divorce rate of couples who work together is extremely low. In some religions when a husband dies and has a single brother, he is obligated to marry his brother's wife. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I don't see what the problem is. I'd think that working together would only make the relationship stronger by spending that much more time together. The divorce rate of couples who work together is extremely low. In some religions when a husband dies and has a single brother, he is obligated to marry his brother's wife. Now I'm confused again...goddammit! These are very good points. Do you have a sister who's available? Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I don't see what the problem is. I'd think that working together would only make the relationship stronger by spending that much more time together. The divorce rate of couples who work together is extremely low. In some religions when a husband dies and has a single brother, he is obligated to marry his brother's wife. Trust me two of my work buddies are dating women in the office. They're miserable. One more than the other as his woman is now his boss. To each it's own though as I always say. I forgive you. Do you have a sister that's available? Yeah if you were in the city I might introduce you two. Only because I've never dated you:p Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Now I'm confused again...goddammit! These are very good points. Do you have a sister who's available? Such a player you are! OP, don't take any advice from him. Unless you want the player's manual. (then again maybe he should consult Alphie for that) Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Such a player you are! Nothing could be further from the truth. Anyway, is there anything that wrong with keeping one's options open? I'm just assuming that you are sweet, good-looking girls - and your sisters are bound to have similar qualities. That's all. OP, don't take any advice from him. No need to repeat what's written in the Community Guidelines. Just kidding, I'm more of a nuisance than a guideline. I think there is some really thoughtful and useful feedback for the OP here. I'm still unsure of my feelings, but I figure that if you've been swimming in a great gene pool, then you should stick with it! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttaflyy Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Nothing could be further from the truth. Anyway, is there anything that wrong with keeping one's options open? I'm just assuming that you are sweet, good-looking girls - and your sisters are bound to have similar qualities. That's all. No need to repeat what's written in the Community Guidelines. Just kidding, I'm more of a nuisance than a guideline. I think there is some really thoughtful and useful feedback for the OP here. I'm still unsure of my feelings, but I figure that if you've been swimming in a great gene pool, then you should stick with it! Well this is definitely a point eh?! Link to post Share on other sites
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