yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I'm going back to the doctor again on Monday....Routine but i have to go. He has been on my back alot lately about making sure he goes with me. His stepdad is suppose to be going to get a biposy Monday and we have been going back and forth with me saying he should go with his dad. Instead of going with me for a checkup (bloodwork etc..). I want him with me , but yet i think he should be going with his stepdad even if his mother is going. I really dont know how to make my point any clearer without sounding like i dont want him there, even though i do. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 now it's not just his wife and kids he's choosing over you it's his step dad. A grown man whose wife will be with him. Do you really think his stepdad needs his wife and his son at a BIOPSY? Please open your eys before you get hurt worse and too much of your life is wasted on this man. Also why do you need your MM at a routine blood test? It's not like you'll get results then and need support. It's blood test. I'm sure you've had dozens of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 now it's not just his wife and kids he's choosing over you it's his step dad. A grown man whose wife will be with him. Do you really think his stepdad needs his wife and his son at a BIOPSY? Please open your eys before you get hurt worse and too much of your life is wasted on this man. Also why do you need your MM at a routine blood test? It's not like you'll get results then and need support. It's blood test. I'm sure you've had dozens of them. I want him to go with his stepdad. I said he should go with him, instead of going with me. what part of that wasnt clear. I think he should be there to support his stepdad. Yes mine is routine. Do i want him there of course. But i think being with his stepdad is more important. He is concerned about his stepdad. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I want him to go with his stepdad. I said he should go with him, instead of going with me. what part of that wasnt clear. I think he should be there to support his stepdad. Yes mine is routine. Do i want him there of course. But i think being with his stepdad is more important. ok sorry read it wrong. If he wants to go with you let him do it. SEE if he is all talk or really does want to go with you. He probably gave you a song and dance about how he wants to be with you but his step dad is having a biopsy. Test him. Tell him to be with you. An adult whose wife is going with him to a medical procedure that is not life threatening does not need their stepson there too. Go ahead. See if he will really go with you for a blood test. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 why has he been on your back about making sure he goes with you to a check up anyhow. It's not your job to make sure he supports you emotionally. You don't need to make sure he is there. HE needs to make sure he is there if he feels it is important. You need to have no contact with this man and see what he does. BE SMART. He sounds very manipulative. Link to post Share on other sites
PoshPrincess Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Really feel for you, YouSaveMe. Thing is, your man obviously wants to support you and be there for you to prove how much he loves you and how important you are to him. At the end of the day, his step-Dad has someone to go with him already. If he didn't have, it would be a different story, and your man obviously sees this too. I think one person accompanying another to a hospital appointment is quite enough, as you no doubt know, it can be quite overwhelming. He can still show his support in other ways. If your man doesn't go with you, is there someone else who will? Let him hold your hand. Best of luck x Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 ok sorry read it wrong. If he wants to go with you let him do it. SEE if he is all talk or really does want to go with you. He probably gave you a song and dance about how he wants to be with you but his step dad is having a biopsy. Test him. Tell him to be with you. An adult whose wife is going with him to a medical procedure that is not life threatening does not need their stepson there too. Go ahead. See if he will really go with you for a blood test. The thing is i know he will go with me. I just think going with me is pointless, when he could be going with his stepdad and ask questions if he wants. He knows alot about it so i think he should go Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 Really feel for you, YouSaveMe. Thing is, your man obviously wants to support you and be there for you to prove how much he loves you and how important you are to him. At the end of the day, his step-Dad has someone to go with him already. If he didn't have, it would be a different story, and your man obviously sees this too. I think one person accompanying another to a hospital appointment is quite enough, as you no doubt know, it can be quite overwhelming. He can still show his support in other ways. If your man doesn't go with you, is there someone else who will? And thank you Let him hold your hand. Best of luck x I can go on my own. Its really not a big deal for me. Just routine..... Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 The thing is i know he will go with me. I just think going with me is pointless, when he could be going with his stepdad and ask questions if he wants. He knows alot about it so i think he should go Let him prove he is not all talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 Let him prove he is not all talk. he has proven it recently..thats why i know he will go...and then will stress wondering what is going on . Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 noforgiveness, is that your mindset? My goodness how pathetic. Link to post Share on other sites
noforgiveness Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 noforgiveness, is that your mindset? My goodness how pathetic. for the moment yes. i am basically hiding from my ex best friend. I can not see her in public for fear of what i may do and i am watching every move my husband makes because there are women like You out there that can't find a man of their own. You poor thing Your self esteem must be in the toilet to be satisfied with second best. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 I think he should be there to support his stepdad I think him going is more helpful for his mother as I'm sure the biopsy will be difficult for her. The sitting and waiting, so having her son there will be good for her. Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Oh I wonder how your selfesteem is right now??? Hiding & watching. Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Oh I wonder how your selfesteem is right now??? Hiding & watching. Hey reneet, do you have something to say about the original post or are you just here to start drama? yousaveme, I'm very sorry to here about so much illness. We may disagree on things, but I truly hope that everything turns out well for both you and his stepfather. No matter what, I do wish you good health. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 for the moment yes. i am basically hiding from my ex best friend. I can not see her in public for fear of what i may do and i am watching every move my husband makes because there are women like You out there that can't find a man of their own. You poor thing Your self esteem must be in the toilet to be satisfied with second best. So basically you dont trust your husband even though you have said you have a great marriage..HMMMM....If it is so great why is he looking else where? Something isnt that great about it. Sounds like you were second best since he decided to be with someone else before you and misses them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 I think him going is more helpful for his mother as I'm sure the biopsy will be difficult for her. The sitting and waiting, so having her son there will be good for her. That is my thoughts also...Thats why i think its important for him to be with them. He can always see me later and call. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 Hey reneet, do you have something to say about the original post or are you just here to start drama? yousaveme, I'm very sorry to here about so much illness. We may disagree on things, but I truly hope that everything turns out well for both you and his stepfather. No matter what, I do wish you good health. Thanks for your thoughts. I should be fine..I am more concerned about his stepdad and what those results will be... But i think the personal attacks need to stop. The drama seems to be coming from somewhere else. We have all discussed things before and no we might not have seen eye to eye but until recently ( no names) there were no personal attacks. Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Thanks for your thoughts. I should be fine..I am more concerned about his stepdad and what those results will be... But i think the personal attacks need to stop. The drama seems to be coming from somewhere else. We have all discussed things before and no we might not have seen eye to eye but until recently ( no names) there were no personal attacks. Hi yousaveme, Personal attacks? That's an understatement. Remember what I told you about ignoring posters of thier kind!! Link to post Share on other sites
herenow Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Hi yousaveme, Personal attacks? That's an understatement. Remember what I told you about ignoring posters of thier kind!! Once again reneet, do you have something you want to say to yousaveme? She has a situation here that requires support and all you want to do it talk about posters of our kind. Why should she ignore me? I only want to wish her good health. I may not agree with the lifestyle of an OW, but I certainly don't want to see anyone ill OW or otherwise. That's just my view of humanity. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 Hi yousaveme, Personal attacks? That's an understatement. Remember what I told you about ignoring posters of thier kind!! Yes i remember...I just think everyone should see where and when these attacks started.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 Once again reneet, do you have something you want to say to yousaveme? She has a situation here that requires support and all you want to do it talk about posters of our kind. Why should she ignore me? I only want to wish her good health. I may not agree with the lifestyle of an OW, but I certainly don't want to see anyone ill OW or otherwise. That's just my view of humanity. Dont think she is talking about you... Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 FOR YOUR INFORMATION, YOUSAVEME & I ARE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF THIS FORUM! I AM PART OF HER SUPPORT SYSTEM. HEALTH WISE & OTHERWISE. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yousaveme Posted November 1, 2006 Author Share Posted November 1, 2006 FOR YOUR INFORMATION, YOUSAVEME & I ARE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF THIS FORUM! I AM PART OF HER SUPPORT SYSTEM. HEALTH WISE & OTHERWISE. Thanks so much .... Link to post Share on other sites
reneet Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 Thanks so much .... You are very welcome!!! @>-- Link to post Share on other sites
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