ryuyasha Posted November 1, 2006 Share Posted November 1, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t102465/ Well the link above sums about what went on. I'm just curious if others think a second chance is possible since there wasnt anything deeply wrong with the relationship to begin with? I'm under the empression that since we've only been with each other that maybe liking this girl confused him. I want to try and keep in mind that he wont come back and that i shouldnt take him back because of his actions and lack of respect towards me, but i cant help still caring about him and wanting to be with him. I should also point out that after we broke up and right before his behavior greatly changed. He went on an exercising streak (lost about oh 40+lbs), told some friends that he hates viode games now, feels the need to read, and sadly hes been getting drunk and high frequently (neither of which he did while we were together). To me it seems like his accomadating to the lifestlye of this new girl, but i could be wrong. So any opinions, optimistic or pessimistic will work. I'm just trying to see what other people think or what advice they give so i can work through this a little better. Thanks in advance to anyone who posts. Link to post Share on other sites
tdmce Posted November 2, 2006 Share Posted November 2, 2006 You need to look in the mirror and start putting some value on yourself, you sound like a great girl. He lost interest in you, and choose somebody else. If he did come back to you now it would only be because he lost interest in this new girl. You don't need somebody like that in you life, there are a ton of great guys out there, my advice is forget about him, focus on yourself for awhile, go out with friends, meet new people. Link to post Share on other sites
mrbeantown Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Read my story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t103291/ there is another link their because my story is kinda long But anyway.... All I can really say is move on. You dont know what he is thinking at it will kill you if you keep trying to find out. Keep up the NC thing see what happens. It hurts knowing someone you love is with another. But there is nothing you can do. Keep yourself busy. This may seem kind of mean but make him regret his desicion (not by doing anything crazy) but by changing your life, taking care of yourself, taking a class ...whatever. It may sound wrong but the best feeling is knowing someone made that mistake of leaving you. Trust me it happened to me before with the girl who took my virginiy... she didnt want to show me the time of day then, and years later she apologized and said she regreted not giving me a chance, now we are friends. Anywhooo... Stay possitive and be strong Show him what he is missing:) !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I agree with MBT, The best revenge is living well, take care of yourself, pamper yourself, let it be known that you are thriving without him in your life. Take care. Link to post Share on other sites
ur mom Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 i agree with what every one has told u.my ex and i broke up and i want her back so badly that it kills me to think of her with this douch!but whatever. ur thread caught my eye cus in my case i stopped smokin weed, cut down on drinkin,dont play video games and read alot more than i did. also im going back to church, and working out regularly. way to simmilar. but it sucks that i cant get a second chance and this guy could! obviously u love him but he isnt worth all the grief right now, go n/c give it time and if its ment to b then its ment to b. but if it dosent at least u can heal and find true love. good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ryuyasha Posted November 9, 2006 Author Share Posted November 9, 2006 Thanks for the replies everyone I've been keeping up the NC...been a little over 2 months. I do feel alot better now than i did when this all began, but theres still a long way to go. I've basically blocked him from everything that has my name...aim, myspace,aol, you name it...which helps me becuase i cant see him I've been keeping that mind set of 'if its meant to be it will be' ,which gets me through the day every now and then. Right now i'm at a point where I just would like to talk to him so i can hear what he has to say about it all. I feel so left in the dark that half the time I question why he left. I never thought of him the type of person to leave a relationship for someone else, and i honestly dont want to accuse him of such a thing, but actions speak louder than words...and since he never gave me any words, all i'm left with is his behavior. Atleast i'm not crying anymore or getting overly angry about the whole thing, so I guess thats progress for ya. Its late...I hope what i wrote made sense. Thanks again to everyone for their thoughts, it means alot. Link to post Share on other sites
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