First Date Tips

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Feeling shy or nervous about going out on a first date?

 

If you are waiting for a person to ask you out on a date, you could wait a long time. Take a risk and make the first move. If he or she says no, at least you had the guts to ask. It's better than waiting forever and wondering if the person would want to go out with you.

 

If it’s a blind date, try to get to know the person. Call or email the person to make sure there is a connection between you two. Set a meeting at a restaurant or stop for a drink in a quiet place. Remember to be confident and positive; don’t be self-centered and don’t talk about your relationship experiences from the past.

 

If you're having a bad time on a date, treat the other person with respect, bare it for an hour, thank your date and leave. If you have a good time and have a connection with the other person don’t get overemotional. You might scare the other person away. Let the person know that you would like to go out again. If it's going well, ask for another date or leave it open.

 

Make a follow-up call or send an email to the person two or tree days after the first meeting. Suggest a second date if you want to keep the ball rolling. If your date declines, then you won’t waste your time waiting.

 

If you are planning to meet again, be creative and try to surprise the person. Suggest a new activity. Try to do something unusual on dates, something you don’t do every day. Think of places you have always wanted to see or activities you would like to try and share them with the person.

 

Go on a cycling tour somewhere, enjoy hiking up a mountain, walk along the beach or play miniature golf. Make a picnic in the park or visit a museum, watch a sporting event, drive to a nearby town you have never visited before, try a new kind of restaurant or just cook dinner together.

 

If you come up with unique ways to play, you'll seem special and the person will be interested to find out more about you. Always be nice to the person but be yourself. Don’t go overboard to impress someone; it could cause you to scare away the other person. Just let your personality shine.

 

First Date Advice

• Play it safe. Meet your date in a public place and set a date and stick to it. If you want to bail out early, nothing will stop you.
  
• Prepare a great plan. Suggest things that would interest both of you. Find out about eating habits and allergies before you make reservations at a restaurant.
  
• Arranging your own transportation also protects you from a date turned into a stalking nightmare.
  
• Chose the right outfit. Wearing provocative or inappropriate clothes risk making the wrong impression, and the first impression is the most important one. You should wear an outfit that makes you feel comfortable. Also, don’t wear too much perfume.
  
• Men should open the restaurant door for women. They should let them order first and always serve them wine first.
  
• Ask questions and show that you are interested. Be a good listener. Great first datetopics are work, hobbies, books, music, movies, and sports. Don't talk or ask about former relationships.
  
• Look the person in the eyes. Your eyes should spell out your interest and attention. Laugh and try to make the person laugh. Enjoy every moment of your date and have fun.