Don't know what to do with this girl I just met

[KC]

Hi,

 

I recently met this girl and we went out for drinks. The problem is when I talk to her on the phone, she is pretty easy to talk to, and the conversation is pretty good. We played phone tag for about a week before we got a hold of each other. So I asked her out to drinks and when we were there, she didn't sound too interested and the conversations were going no where.

 

So I thought maybe I'll give it one more shot and at the end of the date I asked if I can call her again. She said okay so several days later I called. Again, I had to play phone tag with her several times before we could talk. When we talked I asked her if she would like to go out to dinner and she said yes. But she couldn't tell me a time that she might be available. So, I said fine, we can talk the following week and see how things are.

 

So, next week came and I called again and got her machine and I didn't really said a lot, all I said was Hi and I will talk to her later and didn't mention anything about dinner.

 

The next day she called me at home during the day, which is strange because she has my office number but she claimed the line was busy. Anyway, she left a message saying that weekend wasn't good for her and didn't offer another time.

 

At this point, it has already been about 3 weeks and I haven't tried calling her again. I like this girl and would like to know if you all think I should try calling her one more time or am I better off moving on. Perhaps she is really not interested, but if she isn't, why would she tell me she would go out to dinner in the first place. Thanks for any suggestions.

[Tony T]

There is very good evidence that she is avoiding talking to you directly. Just forget her. She's got your number if she decides she wants to give you a call.

 

Meanwhile, there are lots of nice ladies who will enjoy your company.

[velvet]

A few weeks ago I was talking to a man on the phone at work. We were discussing liability insurance. He would call once a week on since the first time we spoke. He started to get real flirty on the phone, asking me what I look like, and he wanted to email his picture to me. I didnt tell him what I look like, but said just come by the office sometime. He did and I realized he was just out of my age range. He and I are too opposite. He asked me out and I agreed to see him sometime. But thats becuase I havent learned how to say no. I make excuses when he calls. Im sure he will call tomorrow or sometime next week. I have to tell him no, I cant agree to something I dont wont to do.

 

So perhaps you too were just opposites or maybe she didnt know how to say no.

 

There is very good evidence that she is avoiding talking to you directly. Just forget her. She's got your number if she decides she wants to give you a call. Meanwhile, there are lots of nice ladies who will enjoy your company.

[Rachel]

Send him an e-mail and say you just started seeing someone and decided you'd like to see him exclusively from now on.

 

good luck

 

A few weeks ago I was talking to a man on the phone at work. We were discussing liability insurance. He would call once a week on since the first time we spoke. He started to get real flirty on the phone, asking me what I look like, and he wanted to email his picture to me. I didnt tell him what I look like, but said just come by the office sometime. He did and I realized he was just out of my age range. He and I are too opposite. He asked me out and I agreed to see him sometime. But thats becuase I havent learned how to say no. I make excuses when he calls. Im sure he will call tomorrow or sometime next week. I have to tell him no, I cant agree to something I dont wont to do. So perhaps you too were just opposites or maybe she didnt know how to say no.