I just don't get it!

[thecount]

Hi everyone, I'm the guy with the thread "My g/f's ex keeps calling".

 

Anyway, what is it about love that makes us all stupid? I keep giving this girl second chance after second chance. Why you ask? because I love her. Just that simple. I love her! and for that reason I'm stupid for putting up with all the nonsence rigtht? It is all my fault. I stay with her.

 

At times I just want to run away. On good days it's great, on bad days it's horrible. It shouldn't ever be that way. Don't get me wrong. I know that life isn't always peachy...but damn it. It shouldn't be this hard either. Am I wrong for thinking this way?

 

I was never the type that was insecure about myself. Her ex who keeps calling shouldn't really bother me in hind side. Because lots of men/women call their ex's for whatever reason being. It's how the other person reacts to it, and if she wants to go. Then go and be happy, and leave me alone. I just won't be there anymore.

 

We are great together though. Lot's of passion. Not talking about sex, The sex is great, but the passion we have is intoxicating. We make our friends sick. LOL, but yet whenever this guy calls it's just bad. He wasn't nice to her. But she remembers the begining. when it was nice, and then she remembers why they broke up, and that's it.

 

Another friend of mine is going through the samething. Her ex is calling her telling her what a fool he's been. She has a great guy now, and is thinking about her ex. What is wrong with her? This guy treated her like crap, and he says a few sweet words and she wants to go back? People don't change. They may for a little while, but people really can't change their personality, but yet, there she goes. Thinking about the past. because in the beginng it was great.

 

Yes, it's always great in the begining. You never ever start a relationship with someone who treats you like an ass. right? oh that girl/guy is just the worst ever. I'm going to make her mine. Come on, you end it because they start off great, and then they turn on you. Lke spoild milk, you have to throw it out.

 

And so I ask again. What is it about love that makes us all stupid?

[Krying]

I maybe in the minority when I say this, but women from my experience hurt guys more than the other way around. Why? Because women work you over on the emotional level. They can be all sweet and loving and wanting to marry you and have your kids, and the next they cut you so hard and cold it's really quite amazing. Don't get me wrong. I know guys mess over girls just as much, but it's not similar to how women can work over guys. Especially the good guys. You know the ones that are truly faithful, work hard to provide for their loved one, put up with all the moodiness, having compassion and understanding and forgiving that person if they have done something wrong. Forget about the cliche, why can't I find a good man. It's why are so many women in this day and age so deceitful, lying, calculating, and why do they seem to love total rascals they know in the longterm will not make them happy, nor be worthy of being a father to their children. Women are vicious creatures if you ask me. So pretty and wanting of our love, but so ready to slice your heart to shreds at the drop of a hat.

[bimmerfan]

dude. you are so damn right. bravo.

[Guest]

I maybe in the minority when I say this, but women from my experience hurt guys more than the other way around. Why? Because women work you over on the emotional level. They can be all sweet and loving and wanting to marry you and have your kids, and the next they cut you so hard and cold it's really quite amazing. Don't get me wrong. I know guys mess over girls just as much, but it's not similar to how women can work over guys. Especially the good guys. You know the ones that are truly faithful, work hard to provide for their loved one, put up with all the moodiness, having compassion and understanding and forgiving that person if they have done something wrong. Forget about the cliche, why can't I find a good man. It's why are so many women in this day and age so deceitful, lying, calculating, and why do they seem to love total rascals they know in the longterm will not make them happy, nor be worthy of being a father to their children. Women are vicious creatures if you ask me. So pretty and wanting of our love, but so ready to slice your heart to shreds at the drop of a hat.

 

 

 

omg, thats so right. it just happened to me and i am one of the nice guys. when i look back, i put up with a lot of sh*t. i forgave her so many times for lying, she didnt have a job so i would give her a tank of gas every week and gave her money for food when she goes to school, my money was her money pretty much. then boom, she found another guy and dumped me for him.

 

amazing huh? week before telling me she loves me and everything, telling me to never let go. then 7 days later, finds another guy and tells me shes unhappy and fell out of love with me and doesnt care about me anymore. sad huh?

[gfto]

What is it about love that makes us all stupid?

The difference in each other's interest level. Your interest level in this girl is still about 95%. Her interest level in you is about 40%. When a girl's interest level in a guy is that low, she couldn't care less about him. When a guy's interest level is that high, he gets absolutely stupid. He can't think straight, and he'll do anything to get her back, not realizing that there's no chance of her truly coming back once her interest level has sunk in the 40s. Yet, she'll still hang out with him, use him, and otherwise jerk him around as long as she doesn't have anything better to do.

[Guest]

Well, here is a twist, I am a woman, who got dumped by a guy. He told me that he loved me and wanted to be with me forever..... I bought into his game. I let myself believe that it was true. I had been married for 14 years and this was my first time dating, two years after my divorce. So, I told him that I didn't want to get hurt, or get involved, ect.... he made me feel so secure and loved, that I let myself go, and told him that I loved him. I wanted to be with him forever, then WHAM, he went back to his Ex. Wow!!! I was like, "but you said you love me". He said, "Ya, I do, as much as everything hurts, I do.... Ya, I'm a cold hearted, ******"