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Went NC with unrequited crush - advised to break it because I'd look immature


Adunaphel

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You already know quite well that I easily fall for any show of attention from anyone who sounds interesting enough. :)

Johan's a darling, isn't he?! :love::bunny:

Yet remote interaction technology -- or, as I like to call it, teledildonics -- has as much potential to bring people together as it does to drive people apart. If you travel often, or if you're in a long-distance relationship, this technology provides another avenue for intimacy, especially if it's harder for you to use toys with a partner than have sex au naturel. (More on that in a future column.)

 

As for me, well, I'm enjoying the novelty of it. I'm on the road as I write this week's column, and I can honestly say that the Sinulator beats the pocket rocket hands down, even if I am getting strange looks from the other Starbucks patrons.

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I feel for you. Double crossing, snide, sly little cow she is. NC, as everyone has more or less said, is absolutely the right thing to do, well done for doing it.

 

Just one point of your posts that surprised me:

 

Couldn't she just be straightforward???

"Hey, I like him too, sorry". I would have got upset, obviously. Would have cut her out of my life. but I'd have a shred of respect for her.

 

You'd really have cut her out of your life? That just seems a tad bit childish. I think if one of my friends liked the same guy I did, I'd want to find a way forward with them. (Obviously, I can see she's not a friend, now, but if she were).

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Johan's a darling, isn't he?! :love::bunny:

 

He surely sounds like one :love: , but what does he have to do with what we were talking about?

 

 

See, when you are not in a passive-aggressive mode you write smart and funny posts and have an exquisite sense of humour, and this is why my level of tolerance for cheeckiness is higher that it normally would when it comes to your posts. :)

But please do not take advantege of this fact! :)

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I feel for you. Double crossing, snide, sly little cow she is. NC, as everyone has more or less said, is absolutely the right thing to do, well done for doing it.

 

Thanks a million, Ripples. :) I really appreciate it!

 

Just one point of your posts that surprised me:

 

You'd really have cut her out of your life?

 

I would have, expecially because of the "would you be bothered if I went out with him(for a beer together, as friends)?" episode.

 

Also, because she started talking with him *after* we had become friends.

 

I had been supporting her, giving her advice about some trouble she had been trough with her bf ( her ex, at the time), and about other guys as well.

There were at least three guys she was interested in when she went out with him "as friends" the first time. So she either was lying, and was already interested, or she decided to go out for a beer together with a guy she barely knew despite knowing I would have felt very bad about it (she knew how jealous I am).

 

No, wait, I am lying. :lmao:

I would have anyway.

 

That just seems a tad bit childish.

 

I am childish when it comes to friends and guys. :D:o

But at least my friends know this. I tell them beforehand what I am like.

And I have no double standards.

 

I think if one of my friends liked the same guy I did, I'd want to find a way forward with them. (Obviously, I can see she's not a friend, now, but if she were).

 

Even if you had had a crush on the guy for months and she had just started to find him slightly interesting and decided to go get to know him better despite hurting you?

 

I would reconsider the friendship.

But at least I would not hit on guys my friends have a *huge* crush on, either.

 

If it sounded like real love, it might be different: I'd tell my friend that I would be unable to be friends with her (because I'd be jealous of her and upset at her) until I get over the guy, but we might perhaps restore the friendship in future.

 

If a friend and I happened to get interested in the same person at the same time, it would be very different. I would probably even step back.

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Right, thank you Adunaphel, you've cleared that up for me. I didn't really understand your situation. Yeppers, I'd react in exactly the same way as you, given the same scenario.

 

She's such a cow! Pah!

 

Even if you had had a crush on the guy for months and she had just started to find him slightly interesting and decided to go get to know him better despite hurting you?

 

I would reconsider the friendship.

But at least I would not hit on guys my friends have a *huge* crush on, either.

 

If it sounded like real love, it might be different: I'd tell my friend that I would be unable to be friends with her (because I'd be jealous of her and upset at her) until I get over the guy, but we might perhaps restore the friendship in future.

 

If a friend and I happened to get interested in the same person at the same time, it would be very different. I would probably even step back.

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Right, thank you Adunaphel, you've cleared that up for me. I didn't really understand your situation. Yeppers, I'd react in exactly the same way as you, given the same scenario.

 

She's such a cow! Pah!

 

Would you really?

You have no idea how relieved I feel to know you'd have the very same kind of reaction.

I surely did overreact when i sent her that text message late at night, and i must have sounded like a bunny boiler psycho, but it feels good to know that how I reacted is otherwise not uncommon.

Thanks!!!

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If I ever form a band...

 

Please feel free. I will claim no copyright over that one.

It's only just a tad bit redundant with words whose meaning refers to the very same things twice unnecessarily. :p

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I like to boil my bunnies alive. But they usually hop out of the pot and run away when the water temperature gets uncomfortable.

 

Maybe I should boil the water first?

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Would you really?

You have no idea how relieved I feel to know you'd have the very same kind of reaction.

I surely did overreact when i sent her that text message late at night, and i must have sounded like a bunny boiler psycho, but it feels good to know that how I reacted is otherwise not uncommon.

Thanks!!!

 

I have no idea what you sent in the text message, so I can't comment on that. I was thinking more of your reasoning about cutting her out of your life, which sounded pretty reasonable to me. :)

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I like to boil my bunnies alive. But they usually hop out of the pot and run away when the water temperature gets uncomfortable.

 

Maybe I should boil the water first?

 

The trick is to boil the magician.

So you need a bigger pot.

 

(We are borderline with getting our posts deleted for referring to crudelty towards animals.)

(or perhaps we are just borderline stupid.)

(yes, I know, "speak for yourself" :p)

 

Ripples,

I was thinking more of your reasoning about cutting her out of your life, which sounded pretty reasonable to me.

 

thanks, again.

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(We are borderline with getting our posts deleted for referring to crudelty towards animals.)
Bunnies are meant to be boiled. It's not like I'm sticking my thumb up its butthole.
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Bunnies are meant to be boiled. It's not like I'm sticking my thumb up its butthole.

 

Why have you become so fond of "colorful" language lately?

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Why have you become so fond of "colorful" language lately?

Many, many years of unplanned abstinence. I think it's catching up with me.

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Many, many years of unplanned abstinence. I think it's catching up with me.

 

Bad words are like nicotine - it takes a while to start enjoying them, you love them for a while, you can even get the impression that you might look like a "tough" guy (or babe) , then you become addicted and can't stop. :p

And people will nag you about it.

Now go wash your mouth with soap. :bunny:

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It's a month and a day already that I stopped talking to him on the internet.

 

I am hurt that he did not care enough to contact me.

Well, I guess he just figured out why I deleted him from msn messenger and respected my decision.

 

I probably would just like to tell him what I think about him exactly.

 

 

On a side note, today it was married guy's birthday.

 

Did I mention that they know each other?

Not that it is rilevant. Just typing away.

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Did I mention that they know each other?

If you really want to piss them off, suggest a threesome. Do guys really like sharing?!

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If you really want to piss them off, suggest a threesome. Do guys really like sharing?!

 

Married guy would have no problems with it.

Single guy would not sleep with me anyway.

Also, single guy has the sex appeal of an aubergine.

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Also, single guy has the sex appeal of an aubergine.

That's pretty bad. Courgettes get a lot more action that aubergines.

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That's pretty bad. Courgettes get a lot more action that aubergines.

 

I cannot immagine using this guy as a surrogate for a courgette. He has no fiber.

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I cannot immagine using this guy as a surrogate for a courgette. He has no fiber.

Once you pick them off the vine they get softer every day. And eventually there's no point anymore.

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A Zucchini! I had to look it up to translate it. Hmm.. an eggplant vrs. a Zucchini..

 

Anyway, I think that your "friend" is a word that kinda sounds like witch but starts with a B and you are much better off without them all. Chalk it up to a learning experience and be glad you got out when you did.

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Anyway, I think that your "friend" is a word that kinda sounds like witch but starts with a B and you are much better off without them all.

 

lol, thank you! :)

 

Chalk it up to a learning experience and be glad you got out when you did.

 

I was supposed to do so, and I was doing pretty good until a week ago or so. good enough to be very, very, very proud of myself.

Then I kind of had a breakdown.

Either anger was making me tougher, calmer and more self confident, and I am back to my usual self, or it is just a bad week.

 

I think I am depressed - had been for a while but pretty much ignored it.

Now it is much more noticeable.

Perhaps I am feeling so bad about him, her, this story just because I am depressed.

 

Today I felt like unblocking him on msn messenger and telling him *exactly* what I think about him.

But I was a nice girl and resisted the urge.

 

Sorry if this thread is becoming long. I am just feeling quite bad. And writing about it kind of helps.

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