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Heres the Beginning Post http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=965320#post965320

 

 

Ok Theres this girl i like ,Then i found out she likes me. But heres the Problem i want to get to know here a little bit better but i don't know how. I want to get her Phone number but i don't know how, and i can't ask it in front of her friends. Can someone please give me some advice? Or something i can do to gain more Confidence?

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If you like her and she likes you, then you should have no problem getting her number. Your just going to have to ask her. If you see her by herself then go up to her. Probably better this way especially if your nervous. If not, then when shes with her friends, ask her if you can have a minute alone and then ask her.

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If she likes you, then like ipanca said, you will have no problem at all getting her number, all you have to do is ask her.

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Well, if you know she likes you, why not ask her if you see her fairly often. If not, to heck with it ask her friends. Are you shy and kind of afraid of what they'll say? I'm not blaming you, I don't know why, but I've been interested in getting to know a girl before and didn't have their contact info or ever get to see them very often, although I could have asked friends or other aquaintances. I'm honestly not sure why other than I feel like they'll think I'm being stalker-like. I'm not the type that cares much about what people think about me in nearly any case except in this area. I guess I shouldn't give a damn about this either. I wish I knew why, but I swear I haven't figured it out.

 

Or is your situation kind of like mine... there's a girl that I know and I'm sure that at the very least, she really likes me a lot. I'm just not sure if she "really likes me a lot" as in she'd want to go out with me. I live fairly close to her and have known her for years, but I only see her once a year, although I may run into a mutual aquaintance every once in a great while. In my case though, I have her number, my situation is just a little different. Mainly I guess my quandry is twofold. I'm afraid I'd seem like some freak just calling her out of the blue when I don't see her that often. My answer is that we share a common interest: singing, that's how I know her. I figured I'd call her and ask her to sing a duet with me for an album project. That way, I can get to hang out with her a little more, but there's no real pressure or expectiations. Is any of this the case with you? Is maybe my solution something that'd work in your case. Tll me more details!

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I can tell she likes me alot because when i say hi to her she smiles, And i Like her alot also. My other Friend that is a girl, when i say Hi to here she smiles at me every know and then. I think she Likes me too. Hers the thread that i did alittle before the end of the school year of my Friend. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t89306/

 

 

Today i saw her in her classes. At the end of the day when she was on her bus i said hey to her but i didn't have the courage to ask her for her phone number. Ill try wensday in class since we don't go to school tomorrow. Any Ideas on how i can build up some courage? Or how to build up to ask for her Number?

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When I first met a girl I really like, that same day I felt like we were comfortable with each other so it was really easy for me to ask her for her number.

 

Do you feel comfortable talking with her? Think of the positives that could come out of asking for her number!

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I fill a little comfortable around her. But i get nerves every time i say in my head "im going to talk to her". How can i get comfortable around her?

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Ok.... Today i gave he a note saying i would like her number so we can talk and i put my number. When i was getting ready to walk out of the lunch room she keep looking at me like she wanted something. What does that mean and what should i do on Monday? Im waiting to see if she calls, she might not.:(

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im in the same boat... but i just got her number the other night... How long should i wait before i call her back??

 

just call her when you feel like it. Maybe the next day? I always feel like I may be bothering the girl if I call to early. So maybe 1-2 days?

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Ok.... Today i gave he a note saying i would like her number so we can talk and i put my number. When i was getting ready to walk out of the lunch room she keep looking at me like she wanted something. What does that mean and what should i do on Monday? Im waiting to see if she calls, she might not.:(

 

Shadow, by giving her your number instead of asking for hers, you put her in the position of having to be the pursuer. If she likes you and she were comfortable being the pursuer, she would have already approached you for your number.

 

We can all argue the shoulds and shouldn'ts of who should be in pursuit but if someone wants to do that, perhaps you can start a separate thread.

 

Shadow, has she called you? If not, does it look like you still have the opportunity to approach her?

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im in the same boat... but i just got her number the other night... How long should i wait before i call her back??

 

Don't wait too long. If you wait too long, a girl begins to think that you're not all that interested.

 

See, she gets excited because you've approached her for her number. When too much time goes by, she gets her feelings hurt and/or she feels disappointed because it begins to look like you're not quite as excited about getting to know her as she is about getting to know you. So, then she's likely to back off from the excitement and begin to cool toward you.

 

Don't kid yourselves, guys...girls love to have a guy openly show that they're interested. Don't try to play it too cool - SHOW her. If she's put off because you're showing your interest, is that really the kind of response that you want in a girl?

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Ok.... Today i gave he a note saying i would like her number so we can talk and i put my number. When i was getting ready to walk out of the lunch room she keep looking at me like she wanted something. What does that mean and what should i do on Monday? Im waiting to see if she calls, she might not.:(

 

Another person criticized you for putting her in the position of being the pursuer I noticed. Well, I think that could be right. But I think you should be patted on the back fir at least doing something. At least you've made a move. There's a saying: Just do something, even if it's wrong. Asking her for her number may have been best, but at least you've shown her that you're possibly interested in her. That's a start.

 

But you mentioned she looked at you like she wanted something. Maybe she did? Maybe she wanted to know why you were giving her your number? That's something you should follow up on. You should find out. Does she have any particular interests that could be a way for you to meet up and do something? If you don't know, ask her. It may feel awkward just up and asking her out on a date, but there's no big thing to jsut asking her about herself. Don't get the idea that you have to go from STOP to GO all of the sudden. I think people give the wrong advice when it comes to that. Take it slow but steady. At least try it first.

 

Is there a subject she's having trouble with in school that you're good at. Ask her if she's having trouble with classes and ask her how it's going. If she says she's having a problem and you're fairly good at it. Insist that you come over to her place and help her with it. If you're just as bad at the subject, fib a little if you really think you like her a lot. If she finds out your full of crap, I doubt she's going to care if she realizes you did it because you wanted to habg out with her. In fact she might really dig that. That's maybe one instance were a little harmless dishonesty might actually help with a girl. Just don't get into it so far that you blow it for her and cause her to fail a test or something! Other than that I think you'd be good.

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