SoundedPlum Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 If you just totally go NC with your ex, aren't they going to get over you sooner? Or will they miss you... I'm asking because my ex-bf isn't completely over me from what he says to people, but he's actually "talking" to this other girl right now (IMO, she's just a rebound:confused: ).. he never straight up said he likes her, but since I haven't been talking to him, I'm pretty sure she's calling him and talking to him a lot more. She's pretty, HISPANIC (his race!... usually, he goes for Asians), into soccer, etc. but I don't think she makes him genuinely smile ear-to-ear as I made him... or maybe I'm just blind and refuse to believe he's happy without me. Anyways, he's called me from time-to-time to say hello and whatnot and just the other day he called me to "return a call" that I gave the night before. The thing is, it wasn't a "missed" call because I talked to him for about 2 minutes, just to make sure everything was alright with him because earlier that day, he told me something that happened with him and this girl. (Nothing sexual or lovey-dovey, just something important.. When we were dating, he said if anything happened between this particular girl and him or anyone else, he promised he'd tell me butI didn't think it applied anymore because we broke up!) I was just confused as to why he called because I actually spoke to him, so there was no reason to call back. I didn't even tell him to call me back so I was kind of puzzled. Another time when he called, he said, "I know if I don't call, you won't..." I tried giving him back his necklace, the one he's had for 3+ years and he "NEVER" took off, but he got really mad that I was trying to give it back. Also, he still has my little stuffed animal on his dashboard (I know it probably means nothing at all.. it's more just for remembrance) I told him if he ever got over me and was going to see someone new, please just tell me and he said he would... so why won't he just tell me he's interested in this chick? I mean, EVERYONE at school sees him + her talking... he also let her wear his jackets (On top of this, one of the jackets she got to wear was his friggin LETTERMAN!) He also knows people at school tell me things and he knows I know about her. However to him, it's "just a jacket"... well to a girl, it's not! Also- someone asked him who he would go to Prom with, and he said either one of his guy friends or by himself. They later asked, "Why don't you go with her?" (Her = ME) and he said, "I'm just waiting for things to get better..." What does that mean!?!?! I don't know if I should keep the NC because that gives him a lot of time to get over me and I don't want him to! I hope I'm making sense to people. Quick Facts: -He broke up with me (we were fighting too much and I started a lot of drama based on rumors... when he broke up with me, it was a spur-of-the-moment kind of thing, meaning he didn't originally plan on doing it) -We dated officially for about 3-4 months, but we were "unofficially together" for about 6-7 months. -We've been broken up for about a month and a few days. -I was his first official girlfriend in high school (we're seniors in HS now, hehe! ) -I've done the "NC" for about a month.. it's going alright because we're still on good terms. Whenever he calls, he says, "Well, hit me back up when you can... or if you want." I always say, "OK" but I never do. Should I actually pick up the phone and just call to say "What's up?" or... no, just keep it up? P.S. How do you know if someone is a rebound girl or not? o_O Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 No contact means -no contact. -no talking -no seeing in public -no fraternizing You my dear are not in the no-contact zone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoundedPlum Posted November 5, 2006 Author Share Posted November 5, 2006 Wow! Alright then... I guess today will be the OFFICIAL Day 1 of absolutely NC, although it is difficult to not see him at school even though I avoid every single hallway he'd be in. We'll just see how this goes.... Link to post Share on other sites
Ssheena Posted November 5, 2006 Share Posted November 5, 2006 Do you want him back? Are you sure? I ask because I think he is waiting for you to show him you want him back. Look: "Another time when he called, he said, "I know if I don't call, you won't..." "Whenever he calls, he says, "Well, hit me back up when you can... or if you want." I don't see anywhere in your posting where you say, I want him back, I love him etc.. I just see a lot of concern about the fact that he might be interested in another girl and worry about a rebound relationship. Why? Is it just because he would be moving on? I would suggest you figure out what you want - do you love him and want to get back together with him for the right reasons (not because he is letting some other girl wear his jacket)? He is "waiting for things to get better" between you two...just figure out what you want. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SoundedPlum Posted November 11, 2006 Author Share Posted November 11, 2006 Thanks so much ^ You were ABSOLUTELY right... I was talking to my friend today (who happens to be his really close friend) and he said that I should figure out what I actually want... When I put it in perspective, it's true. I just don't want him with someone else. Eh, NOW it all makes sense! Link to post Share on other sites
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