I think she's lying

[jayz061984]

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for quite some time now, about a year and 6 months. Everything was alright before I left for grad school because we were together all the time, but since I left things aren't exactly the same. I knew a long distance relationship would be difficult and trust issues would arise, but I feel mine are justified. She swears up and down that nothing dishonorable is going on with any other guys, but SO many things have suggested otherwise.

 

First, in general, she goes to clubs often and likes to party (she likes to get drunk at these events as well), there's nothing wrong with that, but it does put her in a situation where things can get out of hand. Mostly though, it's been "coincidental" occurrences. Once while I was burrowing her cell to make a call she receives a text from a guy named kyle saying "I miss you..".... I told her she got a text and before I can tell her I accidently saw it, she lies to me about what it said, when I told her I knew what it said, she promises he's just a friend that likes her, but she doesn't feel the same way and she didn't want to upset me. Later I receive a text from her to this kyle guy, I'm guessing she selected my name by habbit or something, pissed me off anyway and it read "I'm glad we can still be friends, I just wish I didn't miss you so much,"......she completely brushed it off like it was nothing and put the blame on my paranoid jealousy, saying that they just got into a fight and that he has a girlfriend anyway.

 

Those are just a couple of red flags, I've never really found any absolute evidence, just things like above. I know she has trouble controlling herself when she is drunk. She seems to be really affected when she gets upset with certain guy friends, and even though I haven't "caught" her cheating, I feel that I have lost a lot of trust in her. I really need an objective opinion on this, because my judgement is extremely clouded by my feelings for her. If you need any more info just ask and I'll supply.

 

Thanks for Everything,

Jay

[Bryanp]

Hello,

 

I think you know exactly what is happening. She goes to clubs and likes to get drunk. She has this male friend who she tells she wishes she does not miss him so much. She contantly lies to you about this guy. I think she is playing you for a fool. You are not with her and she likes to party and get drunk and clearly has a male friend that she misses very much and lies to you about it. I don't think you need to be a rocket scientist to figure out what is going on. A person who has nothing to hide does not hide things. If the roles were reversed do you think she would put up with such crap from you?

[Cecelius]

To be brutally honest, she showed you the red flags long ago -- you sticking around just shows her that you accept the situation.

 

A girl who wants to be viewed as a g/f does not get drunk at clubs. Look around on this board and see the volume of posts that go "I got drunk", "I didn't mean for anything to happen" and "I woke up in my best male friend's bed."

 

The more she gets drunk, the more its a matter of time before SOMETHING happens. This guy is something (and is likely not the first something).

 

It's not a question of whether she's cheated on you yet technically or not, its a question of appropriate g/f behavior.

[Marcus as the Peanut]

If you 2 share a computer,then install some spyware and read her male