pinklemonade321 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I've know my boyfriend for 4 years now. We've been dating for 2 1/2. I met him in High School. Since i've known him, he never had friends that were girls, i was the one who always had guy friends. But recently, he's been having friends that are girls, from his college classes. I get really jealous, mostly scared that he'll see something better. We're both virgins, and he gets asked by girls all the time, if he'll come over to her house and have sex with them. He totally says no, and he's totally faithful to me. I guess i just don't trust the girls. I know he loves me, and I love him, but i don't want him hanging out with girls at school. It's just not healthy. We are meant for eachother. I can't see either one of us being with anyone else. Should he get rid of his girl friends? Should I trust him? WHAT DO I DO?? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Should he get rid of his girl friends? NO. If you start demanding him not having friends, even girls, then he will resent you and you might lose him. I understand you don't trust them, but if you trust HIM to do the right thing then thats what should matter. You all are still young, don't start putting demands or pressure on him to not have friends who are girls. Even if he didn't have friends that were girls, if he were going to cheat he would reguardless. Getting your jealousy in check might help too. JMO. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Should he get rid of his girl friends? Should I trust him? NO YES (not too short now) Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I was in a relationship with a guy who hated me having male friends (even though I have a couple of fantastic PLATONIC relationships with men). He was so jealous it became a poisonous seed which eventually contributed to our relationship break up. I lost contact with some of my male friends while I was with that guy...but now we are better friends than ever, and the guy is history. Don't try and come between your guy and his friends (male or female). Its a recipe for fights, tears and you will not win. Why don't you try and get to know some of them? Chances are you will have something in common and you may even gain some friends as well. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 "It's just not healthy." Sweetie, it is VERY healthy to have friends of both sexes. You are at college- its a time for making new friends and learning about life, often ones who are on similar wavelengths to you. A couple of weeks ago I went to a party where there were people I went to college with- we have been friends for ten years. Male AND female. A good network of friends is priceless. We have all been there for eachother, even though boyfriends etc may have come and gone. You should try and relax and enjoy what could be some of the vest years of your life....oh if only I could have my college days again I would NOT be looking for a soulmate... I would be learning and living life to the fullest!!!! x Link to post Share on other sites
CrushedOrgans Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 I've know my boyfriend for 4 years now. We've been dating for 2 1/2. I met him in High School. Since i've known him, he never had friends that were girls, i was the one who always had guy friends. But recently, he's been having friends that are girls, from his college classes. I get really jealous, mostly scared that he'll see something better. We're both virgins, and he gets asked by girls all the time, if he'll come over to her house and have sex with them. He totally says no, and he's totally faithful to me. I guess i just don't trust the girls. I know he loves me, and I love him, but i don't want him hanging out with girls at school. It's just not healthy. We are meant for eachother. I can't see either one of us being with anyone else. Should he get rid of his girl friends? Should I trust him? WHAT DO I DO?? if you really believed the part in bold, you wouldn't be having this issue. i think you're not so sure that he is will/be totally faithful, because if you honestly trust him, there's no reason to worry about other the other girls. you are in college though, and it's a time to branch out and meet new people. maybe he'll meet someone else, it's a definite possibility, and a likely one. saying he can't have friends as girls is not going to stop him from cheating on you or meeting someone he would rather be with. controlling him, though, sounds like a great way to send him running in the direction of people who are fun, carefree, can just hang out etc; people like his "girl+friends". an attitude that you are meant to be together, and so you should need and want only each other in your lives is what is unhealthy. Link to post Share on other sites
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