ur mom Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 well i dated thisd girl for a year and a half, weve been seperated for like 6 months and i still love her more than ever. it was mutual. she wanted to get married or engaged now and i thought i still wanted to smoke weed and go hang out all the time(yeah im retarded) we lived together, had a cat, got along great and never really fought. i really wanted to marry her i was just tired of being hasseled all the time. im the kind of person that may want to do something but untill its left to me i wont b likely to do it. she has started dating someone and its killing me. i know i dont want her just because someone else does. i truely love her and believe it would b in our best interest to get back together. i have never been hurt like this befor,ive been through tons of bad experiences and this is by far the worst. but i still love her so i know its true love and not a crush. we still talk at times but lately its only been texting. i wasnt a bad boyfriend just i didnt show her how much i appreciated her. i have lost everything as of late. streetbike, apt, truck got ****ed up, and on top of that i dont have a dirtbike for the first time in 10 years. i dont mean to compare her to material things but my point is i would have gladly given it all away for a chance with her. im not myself in the way that i have let this mess with me so bad. generally im very strong willed and independent, but now i feel like a child lost in the mall without a parent.LOST AND CONFUSED! what can i do to help my chances of getting her back? Link to post Share on other sites
tdmce Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 Tell her in person what you told us here, just so she knows you still love her and then leave the ball in her court and respect the fact that she may have moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
WiseOne Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 I been in a sistuation just like yours, i was with a girl for 1 year and 8 months, and its been a year since we been broken up, its been a crazy ride, me and her both attempted a couple of times to get back together, but there was stuff in our way. The best thing you could do is go Nc (No Contact) nc gives everyone a chance to get fresh air and get there stuff together, and see what you really want, she needs to see what she wants becuz you already seem to know what you want. Trust me it can be much badder, i went thru the sistuation about hearing rumors about my ex and her new bf's and it doesnt feel good. The best thing to do is to go Nc and maybe talk to her everynow and then, but dont let her now your waitin on her, let her now ur still doin your thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ur mom Posted November 8, 2006 Author Share Posted November 8, 2006 thanks u guys. i told her a while ago that i still love her and that i feel were losing a great thing, so the ball has been in her court. it just sucks cuz im still the guy she fell in love with but better. i mean how can i be good enough to marry when i was a pothead but not now? well i guess time will tell,thanks again! Link to post Share on other sites
Findingmyself Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 Remember, only you can change yourself. And you don't really want to tell her this, you want to SHOW her, through your actions. So one step at a time, take it very slowly, let her open up to you first, if you can. Meaning NC on your side. At least until you have it all together, which honestly, you are not there yet. How do I know, b/c I am in the same spot you are. Been going strong NC for almost a month now, but sometimes still doubt it. That means I am not ready. I accept this fact that I am not ready, so more NC. Try it, find yourself. Good luck! You are doing great! Link to post Share on other sites
WiseOne Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 Well the good thing about it, i can promise you this, maybe at lest once she will try to come back to you, how i know?? My ex tryed to get back with me a couple of times, but something always held us back, normally i would have a new gf and she was so nice that i couldnt bring myself to break up with her, even though i just liked her and loved my ex. So you wanna let yo ex know that you looking around at other girls ya know, you wanna let her know that you are searching that your just not sitting there waiting for her, becuz then she will throw her power around. And that doesnt make her a bad person, think about it, all of us have threw our power around once or twice, its just something us humans do. So her having a new bf doesnt mean anything, becuz if you follow nc good enough, she might just break it off with him. But in the meanwhile stick to nc and stay away as much as possible from her friends and family and stuff, becuz for some reason they like to tell about the new guy. (AND IN THIS CASE, WHAT YOU DONT KNOW, CANT HURT YOU) Link to post Share on other sites
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