Lost her for ever need second chance

[Jose Ayala]

I need your help me and my ex broke up three weeks ago and she would not take me back. It happened because she got drunk at the bar one night and had one of her male friends bring her home. Previously that night we agreed to meet at her apartment after the club. When I got to the apartment I saw a guy standing in the lobby of her apartment complex. I knocked on her door and asked who was the guy was she said it was a friend who brought her home and that she was too drunk to drive. I question the guy and he confirmed it was the truth. I asked the guy to leave and the guy hesitated I told him the problem was between me and her. Then I leashed out on the guy beating him up pretty bad.

 

We went inside her apartment and she explained to me that it was a friend of the family. Then she started hitting me in the face several times obviously drunk and after a moment I slapped her back. I did not meant to do it nor have I ever hit a woman or gotten into a fight for a girl. I asked her why did she not call me and tell me she was getting a ride that way I would not been surprised and angry. She said she did not tell me because I would have gotten angry. We spent the rest of the night talking about everything but now she just wants to be friends after nine months. I sent her flowers to her job, love letters text messages and she refuses to see me. I love this girl so much that when I saw the guy I got furious because I love her. My mistake was hiting her something that I have never done before nor will ever do again. I put my self on the line I could of gone to jail lost my life,car,apt,job,credit and reptation all because she refused to communicate. Now I realize how stupid I was and that no peron is worth loosing so much. I been talking to her and she admits and is sorry for putting me in that situation but she can't get pass the point of me hitting her.

 

She makes me feel like it was all my fault even though I know is not true. I am getting tired of repeating my self to her and not getting a response back I feel like if i can't talk to her like a person that I am just wasting my time. What ever happened to forgiveness and second chances.

 

I have had relationships in the past where she has cheated on me and I have forgiven her and the relationship has failed but at least I gave them and me a chance to try again because one never knows what can happen people do change. Everybody deserves the benefit of the doubt even the worst person on earth. What should I do should I forget her,try to get her back or find me another girlfriend. I still lover but as times goes by my feelings are starting to fade. By the way everytime I call she answers.

[WiseOne]

Has she cheated on you, or other girls? becuz i notice you mentioned that in your post above

[Ssheena]

Let's see. You beat up her friend who drove her home and then you hit her (slapped). I see lots of, "she did this" and it's because "she did that"....she said she didn't tell you about her friend driving her home because you would have gotten angry...well, you DID get angry. According to you, you got furious...but she put you in that situation.

 

Dude, take some responsibility here for your part in this. Just maybe, you were at fault for some of this.

 

I'm with her on this one.

[tdmce]

Sorry, you are probably not going to like my response. I agree with Ssheena.

 

You got anger management issues here. If I was her I would run from somebody like you faster than you could blink. Fudge mate, beating up a friend, hitting her. What could she possibly like about you?

 

Take a step back, look at your behaviour, admit you stuffed up big time. And try and get some help. You could easily be facing assault charges, so thank your lucky stars and move on now.

[Guest]

It is bad enough behaving as you did, but shall i tell you what is worse, you blaming her.

 

You wrote this

I put my self on the line I could of gone to jail lost my life,car,apt,job,credit and reptation all because she refused to communicate.

 

And frankly that is awful "all because she refused to communicate" so her not communicating is an excuse to beat her friend up and then slap her?

 

I been on this forum reading it for a long time and that sentance was the first time i have been moved to post

 

I have been with my ex for four years, we have a baby, i pay all the bills, love her, help with the baby, give her money to live on, take her out, cook and clean for her and she cheated on me and left me.

 

A bit worse than getting a lift home with someone isnt it? Would i ever raise my hand to her? no i would not.

 

The issue is not her lack of communication but totally your overaction and inability to control how you think and feel about things.

 

If you want a loving relationship, i would get some help with your own issues

[Guest]

Thanks everyone for your feedback

[Guest]

dude, screw all this politically correct garbage. I totally back you up on this one. If you truly love someone than you will do anything for them. I guess some people on this forum have never truly loved another deeply. Sucks to be that guy for he was at the wrong place at the wrong time. If you wanna get her back, ive learned you have to pick yourself up and pretend like you don't care as soon as possible. You need to date other girls and just hang out with them. She will go crazy if she wonders whether the girls are cuter, sexier, funnier than she is and she will be back begging if she still has feelings. If that doesn't work than you just on your way to a find that better girl. Trust me, I've hurt like you have and I know this is the only way. Act like a man or they will treat you like a fool. Peace.