Guest Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Ok just a bit of background: my boyfriend and I have been together a little less than 5 months, but we have been best friends for 3 years (took all the same classes in college and even studied abroad for 3 months in England together). The good news is we had a couple years head start on getting to know one another. Honestly, he knows me better than anyone..and vice versa. Well everything has been incredible. I have this feeling that I just know that he is the One. And I have a feeling he feels the same way...well also he has kind of confirmed it. The other night we went out and while sitting together in a booth..he asked if I really wanted to marry him (we've talked about it casually before) I told him yes and he asked why and I said b/c I love him. He then asked what kind of rings I like. I was shocked and kind of choked by saying it wasn't about the ring or wedding or reception...I just wanted to be with him. Then he asked what my ideal proposal would be. In which I told him what I liked. Well I sent him two emails with examples of engagement rings and such and I even caught him being silly the other day saying something about making me his wife. So..as of a few weeks ago, he put his house up for sale. Traded in his new car for a truck and payed that off. Basically now he is down to no debt except his house payment and bills. Well last night, I brought it up and told him that he shouldn't have asked me those things if he wasn't planning on proposing soon. I was thinking Xmas time. He said "what you wanted me to propose tonight or something?" And then said he wasn't financially ready to do it right now. What the F***? How much more financially ready can you be???? Now yesterday we were talking about Xmas. He kept saying that he was only buying me one present and it was something I wanted...and that I didn't know if it would be a 2000 dollar present or a 200 dollar present. Here comes the confusing part...tonight I casually brought up Xmas presents in a joking way and said I figured it out. I told him I thought he was getting me a riding lawnmower. He started laughing and was like 'do you expect me to spend a thousand dollars on you for Xmas.' Well, later he said that I might not even like what he wants to get me..in which case I said "well you told me its something I wanted"...then he said "yeah I was just saying that last night." WTF???? So what does all this mean? Proposal or no proposal? I am so confused!! My questions are (in your opinion): is the questions he asked me about the ring and proposal just hypothetical (for reference way on down the road) or should I be expecting a proposal in the near future? I can't stop thinking about this because I am EXTREMELY EXCITED, but at the same time don't want to count my chickens before they hatch. And more importantly, I want to stop thinking about it because one minute I think hes going to do it for Xmas the next he acts like its waaaaaaaaay down the road!!! Thanks everyone!!! Link to post Share on other sites
insomnie Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 I think you need to chill out a little and stop obsessing so much about exactly when he will propose. Chances are he wants to make it romantic for you and you are ruining the all-important element of surprise for him. Relax, give him some space to control the situation.... most guys don't like feeling pressured into a certain timeframe about this kind of thing. He sounds like a great guy and he obviously is planning to ask you to marry him at some point, so stop harrassing him about it and driving yourself insane. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 I think you need to chill out a little and stop obsessing so much about exactly when he will propose. Chances are he wants to make it romantic for you and you are ruining the all-important element of surprise for him. Relax, give him some space to control the situation.... most guys don't like feeling pressured into a certain timeframe about this kind of thing. He sounds like a great guy and he obviously is planning to ask you to marry him at some point, so stop harrassing him about it and driving yourself insane. Ditto. Calm down. Link to post Share on other sites
freckles3131 Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 IF he is going to propose you are ruining the spontanaity of it by drilling him and showing him you "expect" it. On the other hand, better prepare yourself in case he doesn't. Maybe he won't now or at x-mas because he wants it to be a suprise and it won't be now... Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 shut up already .......... geeze let him do this on his own. Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 stop obessing, calm down, it will happen when it does. stressing him out isn't going to make him want to do it any sooner. Link to post Share on other sites
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