Woggle Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 My wife and I rarely ever fight and when we do we only stay mad at each other for about an hour and then we make up. We actually enjoy being around each other and we have a blast together. We enjoy many of the same things and even going to the supermarket together is a great night out for us. As it stands now we truly do have a marriage that most people would envy. The only thing is that I keep looking for a cache. As tough as I am if this marriage goes wrong I will be hurt badly. We all know how some women can turn on a man in the blink of an eye and I am afraid of that one day happening to me. Link to post Share on other sites
NTB Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 dude just accept your happiness and stop looking for a down fall. your right other people would be and maybe already are envious, enjoy what you have. Link to post Share on other sites
littlekitty Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 NTB is right... stop looking for the issue... stop waiting for the worst to happen. You are lucky, you found something good. Enjoy it and savour it. Not everyone is as lucky as you... Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 My wife and I rarely ever fight and when we do we only stay mad at each other for about an hour and then we make up. We actually enjoy being around each other and we have a blast together. We enjoy many of the same things and even going to the supermarket together is a great night out for us. As it stands now we truly do have a marriage that most people would envy. The only thing is that I keep looking for a cache. As tough as I am if this marriage goes wrong I will be hurt badly. We all know how some women can turn on a man in the blink of an eye and I am afraid of that one day happening to me. Thi is the only post that you wrote and makes sense to me. Don't worry, whatever will be will be. Why are you afraid of the future, are you a sissy? Just tell yourself that life is good and love is grand and if that changes, oh well... you'll think about it tomorrow. You are afraid that this will end because 'e know how women are.' Let me scare you some more: one of you could develop some terrible disease or get hurt or even die in a car accident. That would change things lots! Why aren't you afraid of this? Or are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Wog, stop looking for dark clouds. My H and I have been together for 12 years and I didn't "turn" on him. We're pretty much the same as when we first got married. We talk all the time and plan our future together and still discuss our dreams and hopes. We also rarely fight. When we do, it's over pretty quickly. No grudges, no silent treatments...no thank you on THAT! Been there, done that in my first marriage. Sounds like you too, might have the REAL thing. So stop questioning it. You know there ARE such things as GOOD marriages. Link to post Share on other sites
JamesM Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Enjoy life as it is. If we worry about all of the bad things that may occur, we could go nuts. Reality is usually much better. Yes, your marriage may get worse tomorrow. In an hour it may fall apart. But it probably won't...if you both stay committed to making it work. So what if you fight? The marriage won't end. What causes it to end is when fights are not fought properly. Every fight must end with a solution or resolution. So you fight about the color of her hair...reaching a compromise or solution ends it...you move on. Marriage will have its ups and downs. Never worry about the bad things that can happen, but prepare for them...and you will probably never see them. Link to post Share on other sites
rina_r Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Cherish what you have and think how lucky you are! Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Nah, it's not too good to be true......MINE IS!!! lol!! You've explained our marriage, however, I have no worries about Mrs. Moose bailing out on me, and you shouldn't worry about your wife bailing either. Enjoy Woggle......all is good man! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 My wife and I rarely ever fight and when we do we only stay mad at each other for about an hour and then we make up. We actually enjoy being around each other and we have a blast together. We enjoy many of the same things and even going to the supermarket together is a great night out for us. As it stands now we truly do have a marriage that most people would envy. The only thing is that I keep looking for a cache. As tough as I am if this marriage goes wrong I will be hurt badly. We all know how some women can turn on a man in the blink of an eye and I am afraid of that one day happening to me. You can't control the future, all you have is the now. Anything could happen - An accident, an illness that could lead to death...That stuff is out of our hands, if it happens, you deal with it when or if it ever happens. For me, those types of things are my fears and worries - But with the help of therapy those types of thoughts I have are under control. Letting yourself think ahead and worry about stuff that hasn't happened is pointless! All it does is worry and freak you out, make you feel yukky. Your fears of her meeting someone else, or just falling out of love with you, or turning into a beyotch, changing enough so you end up hating her isn't going to happen. You gotta believe that and trust her. Have faith that your marriage isn't going to end up badly. Link to post Share on other sites
Lennox Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Woggle, you were all doom and gloom before you married, and here you are again looking for the worst to happen in a blink of an eye! Just stop being negative and enjoy yourself and your wife. Your negativity will sooner or later adversely affect her and your relationship so cut it out! And contrary to what you're thinking, women don't just "turn" on a man in a split second. We usually try to tell you guys what's going wrong for a really long time before we throw in the towel. Then, when you don't listen, you'll be all "Wha' happened????" when it's over. My ex husband did that. He was shocked when I told him I wanted a divorce after years of trying to fix things. Link to post Share on other sites
jenschaos Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 I very much agree with what other have said, also you need to look at your own insecurites, because really your probally not afraid of her leaveing as much as you worry your not good enough for her and she will ineveatbly leave...which is NOT true! Your trying to protect yourself from being hurt so if you prepare for that or cause it then at least you woun't hurt as bad or you will at least be in control of that. it is always very hard to live in the here and now, but enjoy your happiness don't sabbatoge it sounds like you have met you soul mate:D Good for you, be happy, few get that in life. Link to post Share on other sites
bab Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Woggle, your marriage is not to good to be true, but your view of it is. You've got this idea that there are only perfect marriages, and horrible ones. I'm afraid that because you think that your marriage is perfect that at the first rocky time, and yes there are always rocky times, YOU, not her are going to bail. Stop looking for reasons that it might not be as good as you think, or you will eventually find them. Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 Woggle, your marriage is not to good to be true, but your view of it is. You've got this idea that there are only perfect marriages, and horrible ones. I'm afraid that because you think that your marriage is perfect that at the first rocky time, and yes there are always rocky times, YOU, not her are going to bail. Stop looking for reasons that it might not be as good as you think, or you will eventually find them. I was just thinking this same exact thing. Woggle always looking for the boobytrap. Link to post Share on other sites
BruiserKC Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 I agree with Bab. People that think their marriages are perfect sooner or later find it's not. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage, we just never see that part of the fairy tale after the "Happily Ever After"...the first time Cinderella made Prince Charming sleep on the couch after a fight. Enjoy what you have, be appreciative of it, and just realize that if things change down the road you can be strong enough to work through it. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 My wife and I rarely ever fight . thats a huge red flag. too little fighting and too much fighting are equally bad. Link to post Share on other sites
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