What does space really mean???

[Lost.....]

hi, i have been with the same guy for 2 1/2 years. But it is his first real relationship so when the going gets tough he gets going. He always breaks up with me when something goes wrong but it never lasts, we always get back together.

 

However, lately he is trying to start his own business and he has his work job. so our time together is very limited which doesnt bother me because i want him to sucseed. i want to be a part of his life but he doesnt want to include me. We usually see each other Sat night adn Sun during the day. Which is fine. But now he feels he cant have a relationship at this point in his life because he needs to focus on his business only.

 

I dont know what to do. We went away the past weekend and we got along so well. It was perfect. We talked a lot. He told me that right now he needs his space but he will come back for me. And all the times we have taken breaks or broken up in the past we have always made a time or place to meet in a week or 2 or however long. This time is different there was no time set up. I dont know if i will ever see or talk to him again. If he will miss me, if he will move on with out me. It is just so hard. I dont know what to do. I know the right thing to do is to back away and give him his space and if we were meant to be he will come back right? but why is it so hard? what do i do? do i wait for him or do i meet other people? is he? i am so confused.

[E.Fejes]

hi, i have been with the same guy for 2 1/2 years. But it is his first real relationship so when the going gets tough he gets going. He always breaks up with me when something goes wrong but it never lasts, we always get back together. However, lately he is trying to start his own business and he has his work job. so our time together is very limited which doesnt bother me because i want him to sucseed. i want to be a part of his life but he doesnt want to include me. We usually see each other Sat night adn Sun during the day. Which is fine. But now he feels he cant have a relationship at this point in his life because he needs to focus on his business only. I dont know what to do. We went away the past weekend and we got along so well. It was perfect. We talked a lot. He told me that right now he needs his space but he will come back for me. And all the times we have taken breaks or broken up in the past we have always made a time or place to meet in a week or 2 or however long. This time is different there was no time set up. I dont know if i will ever see or talk to him again. If he will miss me, if he will move on with out me. It is just so hard. I dont know what to do. I know the right thing to do is to back away and give him his space and if we were meant to be he will come back right? but why is it so hard? what do i do? do i wait for him or do i meet other people? is he? i am so confused.

 

Dear Lost,

 

Sounds like you care for this guy dearly and you sincerely want the best for him, but how about for yourself? It sounds like "space" really isn't the issue with him. He seems to want everything HIS way in his life now, and rightfully so, but it is a lot to ask of a person like you who certainly wants more. I don't think you can put your life on hold for him while he's out there defenitley living his life. It might just be better to take a step forward. I'm sure he has feelings for you, but maybe he just doen't want a relationship right now. If that is the case, then the best thing to do is to let it go and see what else the world has to offer. I hope this made sense and has helped you. Take care.

 

E.