kittkarrgoliath2003 Posted November 11, 2006 Share Posted November 11, 2006 Hello everyone, Im new and I would love to hear from all persons here! Ive been with the same woman for 14 years and have been married to her for less than a year(3 months). We have a child, 8 years old. Im 39 and shes 29. I ll be breif, she's cheated on me twice before we got married, now I know what some of you are saying, "once a cheater, always a cheater". I gave her the benefit of the doubt because at the time she was heavy into drugs. She has since been 10 years clean. We recently made a dramatic move from one province to another(live in canada), and she went through drastic changes from the woman I new. She got drunk almost evey night, she rarely went out before, for 2 weeks, dressed completely different, eg. she use to wear her pj,s everywhere and no make-up and didn't care about her appearence. Mind you she is a beautiful woman who doesn't need make-up. She has made several male friends who I never met, I recenltly saw her kiss one of these male friends on the sidewalk, the same one who calls her when Im gone to work, and when I confronted her she said that ,"Its' traditional in his country to kiss like that" a cheek to cheek kiss. I didn't like seeing my wife kissing another man in any way. I forgot to mention that a week ago before that incident she had gone out to the bars and came home with a hicky on her neck, she said a guy had bought her drink, asked her for a dance and before she knew it he was sucking on her neck. BUT....before I said it looked like a hicky, she said the guy had bit her neck. as for the dressing different, she suddenly was wearing Paint On jeans, tight tops and sexy underwear.Her hair aand face made up and loads of perfumes. She would get dressed this way just to "go for a walk". Later I find out she went to the local bar to see her "friends". One day I got off work early and went to the school to pick up my son. A friend of mine came up to me a told me my wife was cheating on me! He said he saw her and the same fellow I saw her kissing , going at it behind her workplace and in a parking lot downtown. When I asked her about it, all she said was, "See, i told you people would soon say I was cheating on you, just because I have male friends it automatically means Im sleeping with them!". After that incident , she now does not dress in those clothes anymore, hardly puts make-up on, and told me that," If you think Im cheating on you , Ill tell a my male friends I can't be friends with them anymore because my husband might think Im sleeping with them". This is the tip of the iceburg, sorry about extent of this letter. Confused and Wondering Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2006 Share Posted November 11, 2006 Ill tell a my male friends I can't be friends with them anymore because my husband might think Im sleeping with them". She's cheating on you. She's acting very selfish and immature for a woman who is supposed to be married, a wife and a mother. Her response is counter-active, blaming YOU because she cannot have men friends. The truth of it is, she cannot handle being 'friends' with men if she is going around kissing them! She needs to STOP drinking. That is a must! Then, you both need to talk about this when she's sober enough and go to marriage counselling. Link to post Share on other sites
jenschaos Posted November 11, 2006 Share Posted November 11, 2006 She's cheating on you. She's acting very selfish and immature for a woman who is supposed to be married, a wife and a mother. Her response is counter-active, blaming YOU because she cannot have men friends. The truth of it is, she cannot handle being 'friends' with men if she is going around kissing them! She needs to STOP drinking. That is a must! Then, you both need to talk about this when she's sober enough and go to marriage counselling. Yes! Everything whichwayisup said! Link to post Share on other sites
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