Pyro Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 Okay, again, I think a female opinion here would be better - but not essential. I recently attended an Auction in NYC . While there I made repeated eye contact with a very pretty woman. She was alone, I was not so it would not have been appropriate for me to start chatting her up. (Before you yell, this date was casual and there's no reason for me to not date other women too). So anyway, out of respect for my date I did not talk to this woman but I could tell she was interested. When she left, she looked back and smiled. Well, I was able to get her name by glancing on her registry - there on the desk out in the open. I Googled her and she is an actress, and has a page on IMDB. I could theoretically contact her agency and send a note introducing myself but this strikes me as really inappropriate given the somewhat unpermitted way I learned her identity. Unless she was only flirting, she would definitely remember me and probably at least meet me for coffee or a drink. Do I write the note or just let it go? (even if everyone says go for it, I may still not so as not to put anyone at the auction house in jeopardy) Why not? Life is about taking risks sometimes. Like others have mentioned already, you have nothing to lose. Go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 If this story is true as posted : 1) are you attractive ? Got some sort of crooked smile charm ? 2) was she alone ? when alone , I often will smile at people who's eyes I catch, might even look back a few times thinking, well this is familiar eye contact, this is my grocery store/concert/whatever buddy. But having said that, No guts no glory ! If you feel that you are in this womans "league", go ahead, send a casual, simple message to her agency. Attractive woman are hit on all of the time, no big " OMG I'm being stalked", just keep it cool. and I agee with Alpha : NO flowers, just confident charisma.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loserdude Posted November 12, 2006 Author Share Posted November 12, 2006 Okay, all of your responses are great (except maybe one or two ). The story is totally true and I will report back the results (if any). I have little trouble meeting women - as long as I am in the mood (meaning feeling gregarious) Most women tell me that I am intimidating (which I don't buy, but they say it). I don't think much of my looks so despite sounding arrogant, I am not an egotist. I would never say these things if my identity were not anonymous. And I was certainly not afraid or intimidated to speak to this woman - it just wasn't the right circumstance. If a woman gives me a sign, however subtle, that's usually enough for me to say something sort of disarming to get them to smile. As far as the name, it's a JOKE. Ahem. It's called irony, okay? And Alphamale, maybe you are a little bitter? Sometimes it does work that way. Listen to this true story: A few years ago an editor of a magazine published an article about how she was down because she got dumped recently. So what did I do? I bought some flowers (small white roses) and marched right in there and presented them to her. She LOVED them and the gesture. She published an article about how sweet...blah blah. We went out a few times and are still friends today. Bitter shmitter. I think the flowers aren't appropriate in this situation but none-the-less sometimes great. What do you think, CG? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Loserdude Posted November 12, 2006 Author Share Posted November 12, 2006 Is she someone we would all know? Also, you're right not to have gone over to her that night when you were on your date. I mean not only would it be rude to do that while you're on a date, if I were approached by a man that I saw was with another woman, I wouldn't think too much of him. So you did the right thing there. Let us know what happened and PM me who she is ok? No, we would not all know her. However, after December maybe, she has a small roll in a big movie coming out so I won't post her name just yet. (Don't want to jinx it.) Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Well good luck with it! Let us know how it goes, ok? Link to post Share on other sites
Tete de poulet Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 Well good luck with it! Let us know how it goes, ok? Hi Touché, from what I have read on this site, you seem to be one of the more thoughtful and well-reasoned posters. Thanks and keep up the good work! (I hear you're beautiful, too ) Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 Hi Touché, from what I have read on this site, you seem to be one of the more thoughtful and well-reasoned posters. Thanks and keep up the good work! (I hear you're beautiful, too ) Wow! Where did THAT come from? Thanks! You made my night. That was very nice of you. Link to post Share on other sites
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