Antheia Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I met this guy at the party a week ago. I'm 27 and he is 22. We didn't do much talking but from very little that we did talk it seems like we have little in common. We kissed a lot and that was pretty hot. We swapped numbers at the end of the night, but I pretty much had to force him to take my number, he seemed to only want to give me his. I left with him asking me to message him sometime. So I waited a week and didn't hear from him. I sent him a brief message tonight and he replied and seemed happy to hear from me. He said how he thought that I was so out of it at the party, that I wouldn't even remember him (yep I had LOTS to drink). Anyway I asked him if he is free this weekend to catch a movie but he said how he has a party on Sat night and family dinner on Sun night. He offered Mon night though and said he would love to see me then. We finished the conversation with him telling me to message him later this week to sort out the details (note: again me doing the first move). Should I just give up? I mean it's obvious that this guy is not really into me. BUT I'm not really after anything serious at this stage, and even if I was we don't really have anything in common. I just want to see him and make out some more. Do I message him again like we agreed? I'm pretty certain that if I leave it up to him I will never hear from him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 What is your problem? He told you why he couldn't see you on the weekend (explanations he wasn't obliged to offer) and asked you to set up details with him later. Nothing wrong with that - he said he wants to see you. I mean it's obvious that this guy is not really into me Um. No it's not. However that he said you were so out of it that he thought you wouldn't remember him means you didn't exactly leave a good impression. Don't get drunk next time you see him or he may decide you aren't worth it after all. BTW, he's not a toyboy. If you were 47, he'd be a toyboy. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 If you want to see him, it's obviously going to be up to you to do all the work. Do you believe a little making out is worth it? If so, then sure, go ahead. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I just want to see him and make out some more. Text him so. What guy could resist? Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Should I pursue a TOYBOY? I'd do that.. They're a LOT easier than the BOYTOY versions. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 What makes you think he's not into you? Is it because you have to as you put it make the first move? All he did was ask you to message him with details. Probably just wants to know when your available. He did say that he wanted to see you again and from the sound of things, he probably didn't think that he would be hearing from you. So you have to message him, big deal. Just do it if you want to and have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Hey you, Wow, you talked to him Yeah, what do you have to lose. Just try. Tell him you want to meet to make out. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Tell him you want to meet to make out. ...and to fill a hole in your schedule. Time management is important. Link to post Share on other sites
Adunaphel Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Should I just give up? I mean it's obvious that this guy is not really into me. Not so obvious, really. I like the fact that this guy insisted that you took his number - he sounds very considerate of other people's feelings. Insisting that you got his number is a very gentlemanly and wise thing to do IMO. I think he just wanted to spare both some embarassment (and expecially spare you some OMG-I-gave-a-stranger-my-number anxiety) in case you had actually been too drunk, and had not been thinking with your head (he could not know!). Or perhaps he is just shy. I just want to see him and make out some more. Do I message him again like we agreed? I'm pretty certain that if I leave it up to him I will never hear from him again. I'd say go for it and message him. He seemed eager to see you again. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 ...and to fill a hole in your schedule. Time management is important. Bad boy! It's time for your spanking! Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Bad boy! It's time for your spanking! That hit the spot. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 That hit the spot. I thought it would. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 Should I just give up? I mean it's obvious that this guy is not really into me. BUT I'm not really after anything serious at this stage, and even if I was we don't really have anything in common. I just want to see him and make out some more. Do I message him again like we agreed? I'm pretty certain that if I leave it up to him I will never hear from him again. It could be that he's slightly intimidated because you're older (and, he might be presuming) more experienced in the business of dating. Why not just go ahead, message him to make arrangements as the two of you agreed, and see how things play out rather than trying to analyse the situation too deeply at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 It could be that he's slightly intimidated because you're older (and, he might be presuming) more experienced in the business of dating. Why not just go ahead, message him to make arrangements as the two of you agreed, and see how things play out rather than trying to analyse the situation too deeply at this point. Great advice. It's just a shame that you had to hijack this thread back on-topic. You're definitely thinking too much, OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Antheia Posted November 13, 2006 Author Share Posted November 13, 2006 It's just that I'm used to being pursued rather than me making all the moves. Although it's not bad being in control of when to call rather than waiting by the phone.. Ok, will give him a call later in the week and see what happens. I certanly don't want to be only one doing all the work though. Link to post Share on other sites
magichands Posted November 13, 2006 Share Posted November 13, 2006 I certanly don't want to be only one doing all the work though. Especially not in the "later" stages of getting to know each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 I would tell him you think he is HOT and you want him to come over. You are not looking for a relationship anyway. You are looking to make out again Link to post Share on other sites
Author Antheia Posted November 18, 2006 Author Share Posted November 18, 2006 Well, I have decided that I'm not going to call him after all - I'm not the one to really pursue guys and I figured I'm going to test his interest level a bit. Today, he called!!! Asked me if I still want to see him on Monday He is going to a party tonight and I kind of joked and told him not to pick up. He said that he will save himself for Monday The only problem is, I don't want to sleep with him on Monday and I have a feeling he is expecting me to. I just want to kiss and fool around a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 Well, I have decided that I'm not going to call him after all - I'm not the one to really pursue guys and I figured I'm going to test his interest level a bit. Today, he called!!! Asked me if I still want to see him on Monday He is going to a party tonight and I kind of joked and told him not to pick up. He said that he will save himself for Monday The only problem is, I don't want to sleep with him on Monday and I have a feeling he is expecting me to. I just want to kiss and fool around a bit. You run the show...if kissing and cuddling is all you want then thats what you do when it starts getting heavier,....you just pull back . You''ll know when the clothes start flying off that he needs to slow down...lol... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Antheia Posted November 20, 2006 Author Share Posted November 20, 2006 Sigh. He canceled 2 hours before the date. Claims he has to stay back and work late. I know it's a lie but I don't care. He wants to make it up to me and come over on Friday night and spend the night. I haven't replied to his text yet. I mean, realistically, I don't need this guys respect. I don't want a relationship with him. And I haven't had sex in ages. I think I might have forgeten how to. Waiting for your true love and soulmate is all well and good but it's just not happening for me. I think some sex might do me good (providing he doesn't cancel again). Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted November 20, 2006 Share Posted November 20, 2006 Hey, Sigh. He canceled 2 hours before the date. Claims he has to stay back and work late. Oh no, bummer. He wants to make it up to me and come over on Friday night and spend the night. I haven't replied to his text yet. Yeah, tell him sure, whatever you want or some. Hopefully he wants . Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
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