KAPOW!!! The Blow Up

[Guest]

You see it time and again - 'macho female' posts gloating about 'taking down' someone. Some posters suggest in response that that may not be the best way to conduct oneself. Those posters will then be garotted, tarred, feathered, and their entrails spread for the vultures to pick at. Moral of story: upon seeing 'macho female' type posts, reserve remarks to oneself. Help and advice are neither wanted nor appreciated.

 

They will have to lie in the beds they have made.

[amaysngrace]

Once again, I wave the white flag. I'm done with trying to make my point to you. You probably wont get my point just as I might not get yours, some things are just not worth going over and over and over again, this is one of those times.

 

 

I can settle this..."Joisey" style...

 

JackJack: "I think you were acting like an a**hole"

 

a4a: "I think YOU were acting like an a**hole".

 

And while I'm at it...

 

ArtCritic: "I think you were acting like an a**hole"

 

Touche: "I think YOU were acting like an a**hole".

 

 

Can't we all just get along??????? F**k this...I'm going shopping...

[Art_Critic]

I'm going shopping...

 

Can you pick me up a box of condoms while your out ?.. I'm running low...

[Touche]

I can settle this..."Joisey" style...

 

JackJack: "I think you were acting like an a**hole"

 

a4a: "I think YOU were acting like an a**hole".

 

And while I'm at it...

 

ArtCritic: "I think you were acting like an a**hole"

 

Touche: "I think YOU were acting like an a**hole".

 

 

Can't we all just get along??????? F**k this...I'm going shopping...

 

Hey, Grace! Thanks for giving me the last word!

 

Anyway, I was laughing at the thread title. It's so apropos isn't it?

 

I think we should say goodbye to this thread.

 

Take charge of your man, A and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

[Moose]

It amazes me how you come to ask for advice, or maybe just to vent but then when somene tells you somethiing or steps on your toes about something you don't want to hear, you laugh it off with your lovely smileys or you just tell them off.

LOL!!!!

 

What I like is how, "unconventional" a4a's makes her relationship out to be. She's the painter Jack.....sit back and enjoy, but be damned if you comment on it.....

 

So what??, he had to work on Saturday and it interferred with their plans. It happens.

 

I got a call at 7am Sunday morning, the railroad needed a certified welder on-site by 11am.

 

Yes, we did have plans, BIG FAMILY plans. Did my family, (or wife), help me to find my, "balls".....to tell them I had prior engagements, hell no!

 

She wouldn't even dream about it, nor would I even think about doing something like that to her.

 

They all know a job is a job, not an adventure.

 

Was I happy about it? Hell no I was not. Did I apologize for it....hell no, I did not....

 

Was Mrs. Moose happy about it? Hell no, she was not. Did she DEMAND I tell them no? No, she did not.

 

She understood. Just as she always does. There aren't many certified welders with their own equipment who can show up at a moments notice....

 

The job got done, the family went to the function already planned without me, I got home at 9PM with a plate already fixed up and ready to heat up, and hugs all the way around from the kids.

 

The next couple of hours, Mrs. Moose filled my in on the happenings.....

 

See....we know that we have the rest of our lives together, and there will be plenty of time, (maybe too much), to spend alone together.

 

BUT.....that's just my family, and my situation.

 

There's no extra rainbows or cockyness involved, maybe it's dull compared to other relationships, but it's certainly truthful, and there's no BS about it....

 

19 years of marriage certainly MATURES a relationship.....

[a4a]

Wow, where was my head today then? I never IMPLIED anything, you must have read to much into my question asking. Because that was not my intention, but you took it like that. So don't get defense when someone takes your replies or answers as being pissy then if thats not really how you intended to come across. I bet theres been alot of time people took something the wrong way you said, and your reply may have been met to be funny or in a joking manner, correct? Mine wasn't intended to be funny when I orginally asked you those questions, I was being serious , but not in the sense that I was IMPLYING anything. So, bottom line is, I'm sorry if you THOUGHT I was implying somethign that I wasn't. You will probably see or takes things how you want to anyway.

 

Once again, I wave the white flag. I'm done with trying to make my point to you. You probably wont get my point just as I might not get yours, some things are just not worth going over and over and over again, this is one of those times.

 

Goodness ....... need some Midol?

 

I don't think you had a real point Jack except to make digs. Did I ask for advice or did I say "please tell me if I was naughty?" No I was venting because I certainly will not do so with my coworkers or with our friends that are friends with his buddy. NO WAY!!

 

But I will say some intersting points were made that did make me think.

 

Now I have a very stressed H, I am stressed all because his buddy is being a complete ass and cannot tie his own friggin shoes let alone run a business.

 

I am seriously wondering if he will not just keep everyone on and just not bother to pay them for the next two weeks of work....... I don't doubt it. I can see it happening. I am stressed about that as I cannot keep covering all the expenses here on my own again. I just shelled out a bunch of money and if this blows up and he wastes 2 weeks on the job without pay there is going to be a problem.

[JackJack]

LOL!!!!

 

What I like is how, "unconventional" a4a's makes her relationship out to be. She's the painter Jack.....sit back and enjoy, but be damned if you comment on it.....

 

So what??, he had to work on Saturday and it interferred with their plans. It happens.

 

I got a call at 7am Sunday morning, the railroad needed a certified welder on-site by 11am.

 

Yes, we did have plans, BIG FAMILY plans. Did my family, (or wife), help me to find my, "balls".....to tell them I had prior engagements, hell no!

 

She wouldn't even dream about it, nor would I even think about doing something like that to her.

 

 

Bingo! This is exactly what I'm talking about.

 

Do I need Midol, a4a? No, but thanks for asking.

[a4a]

LOL!!!!

 

What I like is how, "unconventional" a4a's makes her relationship out to be. She's the painter Jack.....sit back and enjoy, but be damned if you comment on it.....

 

So what??, he had to work on Saturday and it interferred with their plans. It happens.

 

I got a call at 7am Sunday morning, the railroad needed a certified welder on-site by 11am.

 

Yes, we did have plans, BIG FAMILY plans. Did my family, (or wife), help me to find my, "balls".....to tell them I had prior engagements, hell no!

 

She wouldn't even dream about it, nor would I even think about doing something like that to her.

 

They all know a job is a job, not an adventure.

 

Was I happy about it? Hell no I was not. Did I apologize for it....hell no, I did not....

 

Was Mrs. Moose happy about it? Hell no, she was not. Did she DEMAND I tell them no? No, she did not.

 

She understood. Just as she always does. There aren't many certified welders with their own equipment who can show up at a moments notice....

 

The job got done, the family went to the function already planned without me, I got home at 9PM with a plate already fixed up and ready to heat up, and hugs all the way around from the kids.

 

The next couple of hours, Mrs. Moose filled my in on the happenings.....

 

See....we know that we have the rest of our lives together, and there will be plenty of time, (maybe too much), to spend alone together.

 

BUT.....that's just my family, and my situation.

 

There's no extra rainbows or cockyness involved, maybe it's dull compared to other relationships, but it's certainly truthful, and there's no BS about it....

 

19 years of marriage certainly MATURES a relationship.....

 

See moose those are your priorities. Your choices to make.

H is not like you. One of his things is he works to live he does not live to work.

 

And remember that when you keep working every sat and come home at 9 pm every night..... think about that if your wife died today and you just chose to work instead of spending time with her. Or when your kids grow up saying "dad worked a lot, we did not see him much".

 

But your choice Moose. And I am amazed that you are the same guy saying to me "money and things can be replaced" " family first" interesting.

 

Also that I should not have clients stop over for 20 minutes on our anniversary so I could collect a check from them...... contradiction indeed.

 

Amazing (the bold above)..... H and I never tire of each others company. There will never be enough time to do the things we want to do together. Outside of using the bathroom we enjoy being with each other. Maybe you are bored with your wife Moose to feel that way? Maybe you could have married someone you felt differently about?

[Moose]

H is not like you. One of his things is he works to live he does not live to work.

You haven't clue #1 about how I am. So I thank you for not making any more assumptions. I don't even have to work.....period. I could walk away right now, and be set for life.....

And remember that when you keep working every sat and come home at 9 pm every night..... think about that if your wife died today and you just chose to work instead of spending time with her. Or when your kids grow up saying "dad worked a lot, we did not see him much".

Give me a break.....again, you are way off target here.

And I am amazed that you are the same guy saying to me "money and things can be replaced" " family first" interesting.

Well, it's true. I didn't even think twice about the money I made yesterday, neither did Mrs. Moose. What was important at the time is that my services were needed, and it's part of my job, and my life. Mrs. Moose understood that from day one, and understands that to this day.

Also that I should not have clients stop over for 20 minutes on our anniversary so I could collect a check from them...... contradiction indeed.

That was a totally different situation all together, and you know it. You were complaining about your hubby not making plans, then you contridicted yourself by having a client over the same day.....

There will never be enough time to do the things we want to do together.

So Niave', Give it some time. You'll eventually know where I'm coming from. I don't expect you to understand right now. You're still newlyweds in a sense.

Maybe you are bored with your wife Moose to feel that way? Maybe you could have married someone you felt differently about?

You just can't have a civil conversation with me can you? I'll ignore that you said that.....

[a4a]

You haven't clue #1 about how I am. So I thank you for not making any more assumptions. I don't even have to work.....period. I could walk away right now, and be set for life.....:rolleyes:Give me a break.....again, you are way off target here.Well, it's true. I didn't even think twice about the money I made yesterday, neither did Mrs. Moose. What was important at the time is that my services were needed, and it's part of my job, and my life. Mrs. Moose understood that from day one, and understands that to this day.That was a totally different situation all together, and you know it. You were complaining about your hubby not making plans, then you contridicted yourself by having a client over the same day.....So Niave', Give it some time. You'll eventually know where I'm coming from. I don't expect you to understand right now. You're still newlyweds in a sense.You just can't have a civil conversation with me can you? I'll ignore that you said that.....

 

Totally interesting.... you did not have to work, you chose to.

 

No my client coming over came over because we had no plans, if he would have had plans revealed I certainly would never had done so.

 

Moose we just have different values and that is alright with me. I know my H share the majority of my values and that is the only thing that is important to me.

 

As for not being civil... I was not implying just asking?

 

As for Newlyweds.... it has been over 3 years now since we started spending our nights together. And we are both almost 40. So not green behind the ears on this at all.

 

Of course since we did not follow your path to M we did so by free will maybe we really want to share our time more than you do with each other.

 

That is not a cut but I do see people that were married becaue of pregnancy or other situations when young that do not seem as 'attached' as those that marry later without such circumstances forcing it upon them.

 

Maybe that is why you are so sensitive to ultimatiums within a M? Just a guess. Maybe you already had the ultimate ultimatum thrust on you? (again I see this in others where this resentment pops up years down the road so just wondering)

 

I know people that have been married for over 20 years and that in itself does not mean the marriage is good or all it could be. Hell H's buddy is married now for 14 or 15 years.......only 4 years behind you.... his marriage is certainly not a good example for others to follow. So your constant input that your marriage has lasted 19 years just is not good enough to qualify for the perfect M IMHO.

[Moose]

As for not being civil... I was not implying just asking?

I don't believe you. I know your type, and this was not a valid question. Deny all you want.

As for Newlyweds.... it has been over 3 years now since we started spending our nights together. And we are both almost 40. So not green behind the ears on this at all.

I stand by my original comment. You're relationship is still in it's infancy.

That is not a cut but I do see people that were married becaue of pregnancy or other situations when young that do not seem as 'attached' as those that marry later without such circumstances forcing it upon them.

Well....again, you're assuming way too much.

Maybe that is why you are so sensitive to ultimatiums within a M?

No, I'm against ultimatums because they are driving by selfish conditions by the ultimatum GIVER, and marriage is/should be UNCONDITIONAL.

[a4a]

I don't believe you. I know your type, and this was not a valid question. Deny all you want.I stand by my original comment. You're relationship is still in it's infancy.Well....again, you're assuming way too much.No, I'm against ultimatums because they are driving by selfish conditions by the ultimatum GIVER, and marriage is/should be UNCONDITIONAL.

 

So you know my type.. ..... not a very nice thing to say moose. Funny how I can assume things about you but you do not assume things about me.

 

holier than thou attitude strikes again.

 

unconditional huh...... marriage is unconditional....... :lmao: :lmao: Well I guess it would be ok then if your wife has sex with other men...... no conditions right....... or maybe decides to dance topless........ unconditional huh :lmao:

 

All marriages have conditions set upon them. Some end up violated some do not.

 

Moose there is no such thing as unconditional love or marriage. No such thing.

 

You are entertaining Moose...... very. Please continue.

[Moose]

So you know my type..

Yup....., your post is dang near 100% accurate to my prediction......

[a4a]

Yup....., your post is dang near 100% accurate to my prediction......

 

So can your wife blow other men or not?....... unconditional marriage should certainly allow for that if she desires that or feels the need to express that part of her.

 

Which is it, the religious marital vows which indeed apply conditions or unconditional?

 

I also predicted that you would not have an answer so I guess I know your type Moose....... bitter man with the need to control and think that all others should be just like him.

 

Only you could be right, and you sit and judge all others. Why not just say "Hey if that makes you happy, that is awesome". I think you keep trying to validate yourself - life choices with my threads.

 

 

 

btw do you have a sense of humor at all? Why do you post to my threads..... as I predict you always show up though!

 

Please reply Ahab, my friend is here right now and we are both cracking up over this thread and Ross..........

[Touche]

I know it's like a three-ring circus around here today. I can hear the circus music in my head as I go back from Ross to this boxing ring!

[a4a]

I know it's like a three-ring circus around here today. I can hear the circus music in my head as I go back from Ross to this boxing ring!

 

We are sitting her laughing...... my friend says.... look and see if that Ross guy is back and the ahab moose......

 

I am laughing. She is sitting here shaking her head .......oh she just snorted... :lmao:

 

She thinks we are all nuts.

 

"man these people get serious don't they" :lmao:

 

I am searching for Bleach posts but I think they all got removed

She does not believe they were posted.

[Touche]

We are sitting her laughing...... my friend says.... look and see if that Ross guy is back and the ahab moose......

 

I am laughing. She is sitting here shaking her head .......oh she just snorted... :lmao:

 

She thinks we are all nuts.

 

"man these people get serious don't they" :lmao:

 

I am searching for Bleach posts but I think they all got removed

She does not believe they were posted.

 

Oh it's all true A's friend. It's all true. You can't make this crap up. Lots of drama on here. You won't find better on any prime time tv show today. The Bleach posts were there alright.

 

And maybe your friend is right...we ARE all nuts! We fight with each other left and right..gossip behind each others' backs, laugh, cry, shout. It's great fun! There are some REAL characters on here.

 

It's a circus alright.

[Moose]

So can your wife blow other men or not?....... unconditional marriage should certainly allow for that if she desires that or feels the need to express that part of her.

We didn't include, "blowing", other men in our vows.

Which is it, the religious marital vows which indeed apply conditions or unconditional?

AND THUS, the difference between a CONTRACT and a CONVENANT.

I also predicted that you would not have an answer so I guess I know your type Moose....... bitter man with the need to control and think that all others should be just like him.

You've got your answer. So no, you don't have a clue about my type at all. You can paint me bitter, that's ok with me. The fact is, (in case you haven't noticed), your tactics are unconventional. Anyone who's been in a long time relationship sees this. Some have even TRIED to tell you about the train wreck that's about to happen. BUT NO......you've got it all figured out.....

 

Well.....I hope you and your friend are enjoying this......all some of us are trying to do is help you to NOT derail your marriage.....

 

I post to you threads because it's like watching a skilled surgeon botch brain surgery......

[a4a]

We didn't include, "blowing", other men in our vows.AND THUS, the difference between a CONTRACT and a CONVENANT.You've got your answer. So no, you don't have a clue about my type at all. You can paint me bitter, that's ok with me. The fact is, (in case you haven't noticed), your tactics are unconventional. Anyone who's been in a long time relationship sees this. Some have even TRIED to tell you about the train wreck that's about to happen. BUT NO......you've got it all figured out.....

 

Well.....I hope you and your friend are enjoying this......all some of us are trying to do is help you to NOT derail your marriage.....

 

I post to you threads because it's like watching a skilled surgeon botch brain surgery......

 

 

:lmao: did I use those properly? I am informed that you detest them so I will use them sparingly.

 

Sir, as a long time friend of A I can tell you that you are out of your league.

 

But she is right, you are entertaining.

 

-M

[a4a]

Moose have I asked you for your help...... or is this more of your need to save souls bit coming out?

 

Honey if my marriage would end up like yours, derail that biotch right now!

:lmao:

 

Yeah I so would want a man like you and what you represent. Not.

 

Why care Moose?....... you do love me?...... you want to save me? awww how sweet.

 

Or do you need to validate yourself to prove that YOU are right. Huge difference between helping a person and looking to be proven right........huge difference..... one is very very self serving. I hope you don't manipulate people to do what you think they should just so you can say you were right. That would be cruel.

[Moose]

Sir, as a long time friend of A I can tell you that you are out of your league.

HA, I'll take that as a compliment! :cool

[a4a]

Thank you :lmao: :lmao:

 

I just won $5.00 betting that you would post within 10 minutes!

 

OUTSTANDING!!!! :lmao: :lmao:

[Guest]

Thank you :lmao: :lmao:

 

I just won $5.00 betting that you would post within 10 minutes!

 

OUTSTANDING!!!! :lmao: :lmao:

 

Interesting you woud even bother to make a bet since you don''t even care what he has to say. You can't seem to understand why he is always up in your posts, and find it interesting when he is, but yet you do the same thing, by making bets! LMAO!

[amaysngrace]

Interesting you woud even bother to make a bet since you don''t even care what he has to say. You can't seem to understand why he is always up in your posts, and find it interesting when he is, but yet you do the same thing, by making bets! LMAO!

 

 

I think the term "pussy" would totally apply here.

 

Nothing like hiding behind the guest card, huh?

[a4a]

Interesting you woud even bother to make a bet since you don''t even care what he has to say. You can't seem to understand why he is always up in your posts, and find it interesting when he is, but yet you do the same thing, by making bets! LMAO!

 

 

Goodness that was indeed a clever observation....... :lmao:

 

One day at band camp.............................................