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My gf left me to another guy..according to her a year ago. No one has seen this new bf of hers. I have been told she was testing me. It has been a year since then. I have been on strict NC. She has called me four times. I ended up picking up one of her last phone call and we had a nice conversation.

 

The strange thing, i still love this girl. I wanted to call her and ask her out. I have been thinking about this for ever. I can't seem to be moving on. May be this could be my last chance to try. Please could somebody tell me that i am doing a wrong thing. I have tried to forget about this, but i seem to making things worse. I am sure, i might be back to square one..but if i can handle NC for a year, i am sure this time it will be easy.

 

So, should i call her.?????

 

Thanks so much for your inputs. I don't want to do something before asking the forum.

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Do you care if she breaks your heart again?

 

I guess what I am saying is you should never gamble with anything you're not willing to lose.

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I don't think, there is any more heart break left. I am sure if she did not care, she woudn't have been calling me like she has. Heart break is the prize we pay for love.

 

Another quiz. Would it be nice to email her or call her.

 

Thanks

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Update:

 

So i got the courage and dailed my ex's phone number. The first time in a year. I was really nervouse. It went well, she was excited that i called. I finally told her we could meet up for lunch..she said we could have lunch today, but i said tomorrow will be fine, may be dinner. She wanted to know the time for dinner..but i said, i'll call her back with the time.

 

She thanked me for calling and i hang up. Wow, i could not believe that it could be that easy. So now, i am been sitting here, wondering about so many things. How to handle myself and all that. I am thinking of pushing the dinner to friday or weekend.

 

I would appreciate some insight on how i should go about this. Any body who has been in a simliliar situation. Thanks a lot guys

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Strike whilst the iron's hot, dude. The sooner the better. You've waited a whole year...what's a couple more days. Wait.

 

I say start with lunch. Light and easy. Then work up from there.

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Stop thinking, and start doing.

 

Well then, I am in for dinner tomorrow. I'll call her again tonight. The funny thing, she was like, she wants to drive herself to the dinner place. Is that good or bad??

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Well then, I am in for dinner tomorrow. I'll call her again tonight. The funny thing, she was like, she wants to drive herself to the dinner place. Is that good or bad??

Good. For a first meeting - the lighter the better.

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Think back to the person you were when you first started dating.... and try to mimic that person she fell in love with.

Be positive, be funny, be happy. Don't discuss the relationship unless she brings it up.

 

Did she have a favorite colour she liked that you used to wear? Wear it!

Keep it light, no pressure or deep discussion unless she wants it.

 

Oh, and make sure you are the one that suggests ending the date first. "thanks, I had a great time, but I have to get up early and go skydiving"... or something not so ridiculous...

Good luck.

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Think back to the person you were when you first started dating.... and try to mimic that person she fell in love with.

Be positive, be funny, be happy. Don't discuss the relationship unless she brings it up.

 

Did she have a favorite colour she liked that you used to wear? Wear it!

Keep it light, no pressure or deep discussion unless she wants it.

 

Oh, and make sure you are the one that suggests ending the date first. "thanks, I had a great time, but I have to get up early and go skydiving"... or something not so ridiculous...

Good luck.

 

Well, i call her last night to confirm the time for the dinner. I don't understand why she asked me this.

 

"...Why do we have to go for dinner. Why after all these time you want to go for dinner. You did not even ask if i am bussy..".

 

Well, she suggested a place she likes and said she gonna call me with the address. The dinner is set at 6.30 pm. I could sense she is all excited and all that.

 

The whole day i kept wondering how comes she could accept to do a dinner so fast. I mean she could have said, she will think about it or she will get back to me later or something. I talked to a friend who said, may be she has been waiting for me to say something like that.

 

Anyways, what do you guys think of all these???.

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I think you think too much, haha.

 

The truth is, i am scared. I was never scared to be with her, to meet her. It was always fun. But this time, i am kind of scared about everything. I really don't know what i am scared of, but i feel strongly doing this. This has made me to think too much i guess. I wish i knew everything will turn out great.

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Dude, just go with it and be yourself. You will be fine and after the initial hello you will be the old you I am sure. Don't put so much pressure on this or yourself. Be cool be smooth and enjoy. Stop overthinking everything and relax. I know easier said than done but you can do it. Good luck and I am sure we are all routing for you here on LS.org.

 

Have fun......

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Dude, just go with it and be yourself. You will be fine and after the initial hello you will be the old you I am sure. Don't put so much pressure on this or yourself. Be cool be smooth and enjoy. Stop overthinking everything and relax. I know easier said than done but you can do it. Good luck and I am sure we are all routing for you here on LS.org.

 

Have fun......

 

I know i can handle it. I hate to think otherwise. She asked me why all of a sudden after not contact for a year i am asking her out for dinner???. I don't know how t answer this in it comes up again.

 

Anyways, thanks for the support.

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I would just simply say you wanted to catch up and see how she is doing.

Nothing wrong with saying that- it's kinda the truth right?

Then, take it from there.

 

But you really are over-thinking things. You asked, she said yes...which means she wants to go, so just play it cool and go catch up.

 

You're going to do fine.

:rolleyes:

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dude quit over thinking. serious u sound like a chick,get ur balls back. who cares if she went right for it,or what ever. she is going so b happy and confident. obviously she is every bit as stoked as u,so have fun and don't play games like postponing it more or being a douche. be confident and be yourself. honestly don't over think anything she says either. good luck bro, I'm pulling for ya!

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