Benji86 Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 i suffered a break up with a girl that i have been with off and on for the past five years this past summer...things have been pretty serious, and always were....a lot of things were said that were pretty deep and things that you just dont dismiss. We had a rough time in our relationship the most recent time, and it feels like she bailed out on me when i was willing to do everything and everything to make things good, as she said the same too, previous to the break up obviously. Every single day since it happened this past june, she has been on my mins 24/7 and i cannot stop thinking about her. we dont really talk because we figured time apart entirely would probably be best...but it has been ungodly tough and doesnt look to be getting any better at all. I even went as far as to say she is the one, and go ahead and criticize me for whatever reason if you feel the need, but i did. what can i do? just wait around and suffer until figures things out? Any help would be greatly appreciated so much as I have been basically not myself for the past five plus months because of her and would take her back in an instant if i had the chance:( thanks a lot everyone Link to post Share on other sites
BannaBee57 Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Have you told her you would like another try and that you feel she is "the one"? If so and she still denied you then I think it would be a good idea to continue no contact to let yourself heal more. Five years is a really long time and it will probably take more than just five months to get over her and be able to find another. Either way I hope you feel better soon! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Benji86 Posted November 14, 2006 Author Share Posted November 14, 2006 Have you told her you would like another try and that you feel she is "the one"? If so and she still denied you then I think it would be a good idea to continue no contact to let yourself heal more. Five years is a really long time and it will probably take more than just five months to get over her and be able to find another. Either way I hope you feel better soon! she knows that i would like another try, but i dont want to keep drilling that into her mind. She also knew that i feel she is the one, and she even has said the same thing back to me, as well as many other things that have lead me to be ungodly confused as to why things happened the way they did. I do not plan on contacting her at all, as I have not done since this past June, and just wait things out to see what happens. I appreciate your help and wishing me to feel better =) Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 dude, I understand how you feel. It's rough, no doubt about it. Some of the best advice I got after my girl and I broke up in July was that for whatever reason, she didn't want to be with me, and if I wanted her back, I needed to invest in myself. Girls don't want a guy who can't get over them and who is needy and depressive and whatever else. You need to realize that for today, she doesn't want to be with you. Maybe that will change in the future, but why are you waiting around for her? To delay the pain of really letting go? You're already hurting too much to hold out. Think about how you can improve yourself. Invest in your mind, body, work, whatever it is you can do that will affect some positive change in your life. Whatever you've always wanted to do but didn't because of her, do it. Get into the gym, get a hobby that interests you, focus on your future, and make yourself more attractive by doing so. you don't have to like the fact that she's not with you, but you do have to accept it and decide, okay, what am I going to do with this ****ty situation? It does you no good to mope about it (I did my fair share though and still do, so don't knock yourself about it, just resolve to change). Sorry to be blunt, but I hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Benji86 Posted November 15, 2006 Author Share Posted November 15, 2006 dude, I understand how you feel. It's rough, no doubt about it. Some of the best advice I got after my girl and I broke up in July was that for whatever reason, she didn't want to be with me, and if I wanted her back, I needed to invest in myself. Girls don't want a guy who can't get over them and who is needy and depressive and whatever else. You need to realize that for today, she doesn't want to be with you. Maybe that will change in the future, but why are you waiting around for her? To delay the pain of really letting go? You're already hurting too much to hold out. Think about how you can improve yourself. Invest in your mind, body, work, whatever it is you can do that will affect some positive change in your life. Whatever you've always wanted to do but didn't because of her, do it. Get into the gym, get a hobby that interests you, focus on your future, and make yourself more attractive by doing so. you don't have to like the fact that she's not with you, but you do have to accept it and decide, okay, what am I going to do with this ****ty situation? It does you no good to mope about it (I did my fair share though and still do, so don't knock yourself about it, just resolve to change). Sorry to be blunt, but I hope this helps. i really do appreciate your insight on the situation. Any bit of help I can get I will gladly take. I am focusing on work that needs to be done and that has been passing time like no other, but like you said...you slip into those lapses every now and then. Thanks again =) Link to post Share on other sites
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