Robot Dog Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 So.. I recently posted a thread regarding a first, potential relationship... Well, I'm now in my first relationship. It's her first relationship as well so we're both new to the whole thing. Now, it's the second night, and I was with her and two other friends tonight, we went on a walk... I wanted so bad to hold her hand, and I just didn't know how to approach it. Would it be the wrong thing to do to ask her something like, "May I hold your hand?"? I think it would be acceptable, but like I said, new to this... The conversation that resulted in us being together we both agreed that we should take baby steps, and go about this slowly.. Basically, I'm a noob and I'm just curious how to initiate the little things that you see couples doing, like cuddling on the couch when you're watching a movie, holding hands while you're walking... Just the little things ya know? Well, I look forward to your advice, thanks. Robot Dog. Link to post Share on other sites
MikeC Posted November 14, 2006 Share Posted November 14, 2006 Only 1 piece of advice I can give you. Stop thinking! This is the #1 mistake. You think too much about what to do next (especially in a new relationship), and you end up just making yourself more confused. Basically, you will just know when things fall into place. Believe me, I learned the hard way. It is so much easier just doing things. Link to post Share on other sites
molimo140 Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 Sometimes all it takes is just a little touch - let your hand brush against hers, see what she does, move gently and take her hand, if she's comfortable slowly interlock your fingers with hers. In terms of the other stuff, moving slowly and gently is really the way to do it. After a while she'll initiate and you won't have to worry about it again. My girlfriend right now, I got her to hold my hand before we were even seeing eachother. Slow and gentle. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 Since you are in your first relationship, this should be pretty easy. If it feels right, then go in for it. Give her a hug, and when you back away slide your hand down from her shoulder down to her hand. Since this is new to the both of you, i wouldnt be surprised if there was a moment of awkwardness. Link to post Share on other sites
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