New Baby, Go or Stay???

[Guest]

This must have been a pretty big blow up.

 

Yeah, you know how it goes sometimes with family. They say/do stuff you don't like and you try to ignore it to keep the peace but then after so much you just can't take it anymore.

[a4a]

well OP sounds like you are still angry at her. Sounds like she is still angry with you as well. I don't think using this baby as a tool to solve it is the way to go at all because one of you will just end up upset as both of you are still obviously upset at each other.

 

So you are going to have to let it (you desire to visit) slide. As for who is right and who is wrong you probably both are. But bottom line if she does not want you at the hospital and so much anger is floating around it probably is not a good idea to attempt to make amends....... kinda like going to peace talks with loaded guns in hand..... good chance somebody will get shot.

 

Also you cannot make them want to be a Aunt and Uncle to your kids. Nor can you make them want to be part of your family in any way. Nor do you have the right to force yourself upon them.

 

I would let it all go and if they come around at a later date then make friends again with them.

[Guest]

I had not planned on going to the hospital but my 14yr old said I was taking it too far. And I felt I needed someone else's opinion that was not involved. I just figured, having a baby is stressful and a joyous occasion, and I was not going to go and give her something else to fuel her fire.

[Guest]

Well she had the baby. Her husband called my bestfriend to tell her about the birth(SIL and BF work together), but did not call my husband(her own brother). Which I feel is her just trying to upset me.

He wanted to go see them the same day and I told him I was not going. He said he did not want to go without me but I did not feel right going, and plus they did not even call him(as if they did not want him to know).

He and our kids went to see them the next day. He said they both asked where I was. Don't know if it was meant good or bad.

I am happy for her but still sad about the whole situation. I want things to be better, I would try to make ammends if she had not done me wrong so many times. I am so confused!!!!

[usman]

My sister in law and I had a huge fight and have not spoken in several months. She is pregnant and the baby is due pretty soon.

 

My question is do I go with my husband to see them at the hospital or do I stay away?

I think you should go to hospital to see them your sister and her baby. After all she is your sister.

[Guest]

I think you should go to hospital to see them your sister and her baby. After all she is your sister.

 

She is not my sister but my sister in law. And she did not even call her OWN BROTHER to tell him the baby was born.

[Buttaflyy]

She is not my sister but my sister in law. And she did not even call her OWN BROTHER to tell him the baby was born.

 

For this I'd have to say "see ya when I see ya". They only asked about you to be a thorn in your side. I'd let her come to me if/when she is ever ready to be mature.

[Guest]

I am coming to terms with not being in contact with her. I am happy for her, but she is not going to change and I actually feel better after being away from her.

[KolzarAAV]

I would suggest you to go and see them, that's what i would do.

[goodfriendeva]

aww im sorry hun.. first (((((HUGS)))))

 

if you guys still are fighting and if her comment meant along the lines of her not wanting to talk still.. i would just send a gift like flowers or send a lil gift with someone else in the family for the baby.. just so it let her knows even though you guys are mad at eachother you still love her and love that baby.