she's lost interest completely ?!

[briant_9999]

Hi,

Before I start, I want to say that reading all the post, thoughts and advice on here has really helped a lot ! What a great forum !

My situation is probably similar to many others on here, but I would really appreciate any advice or thoughts. It's been driving me crazy.

I apologise in advance for the long post

 

In short, I met a woman about 2 years ago. We got on great, started seeing more of each other. I met her daughter, got on great. Things were going fine for about a year and then I began to feel her put more pressure on me for something more serious. I could feel myself pulling back a bit as, to be honest, I dont think i was looking for anything too serious at the time. I was seeing her every weekend and once during the week. We ended up splitting up for a few months but kept in contact and got back together a few months later. The same thing happened again. She has some really bad memories from this period as even though I tried to be nice, I hurt her by cooling things off.

 

The time apart this time gave me a chance to think and evaluate what I was looking for. I really liked being with her and had fallen for her hard 2nd time around. I think I needed the space to find my own thoughts. I was being pushed a little previously although I was getting there. I really do love her and want to make a future together. We were in contact all of this time, text messages here and there. She did date another guy for a few months but it didnt last. During the time she was with the other guy, I wrote two letters telling her how I felt and what I wanted. I was spooked a bit by the other guy and told her everything. That was in July/August of this year.

 

Since then I've tried to see her to try and spend time with here and although she is friendly and pleasant and answers all my texts/emails/phone calls, she is very non-commital, a lot of the intamacy and flirting has gone. I have seen her about half a dozen times in the last few months. I think I pushed too hard and and about 4 weeks ago I got the "we cant go back to a relationship because too much has happened, I did love you very much but you pushed me away once to often". I went to see her and we tried to talk but she said "she didnt really know what to say to me" (?) and she is planning on moving away out the area. I was really upset as I have tried hard over the last few months, maybe too hard. I really want to be her.

 

We shared a couple of text messages after this, but I have stopped all contact now. That was 3 weeks ago and I havent heard from her at all.

Has she lost all interest because I pushed too hard or just lost interest completely and doesnt care at all anymore. Should I contact her ?

 

Any thoughts would be gratefully received.

Many thanks

[Green]

I may be wrong but from your writing I assume your a very humble man, thats good. Just forget about her she doesnt sound interested. But then again you need to go with ur gut instinct here. Even if she is interested is this the kind of person ur looking to go out with if this is how she shows interest. I know its hard but try to move on. I mean if you do move on she can always beg to get u back or something if it turns out she was interested.