BD16 Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 I get a call from my brother a week ago telling me a girl I slept with many years ago claims she has a daughter possibly by me(or 3 other guys) that is 13. Here is the problem I have been married for 15 years this Dec.28th and i know 110% i have not slept with this girl after i was married. Plus the time the child was concieved i was in the military across the country. She said she wants me to call her and talk about it, but i am not, i have nothing to say. She said she put me on a list to get a blood test at the DHR office even after we have explained there is no possible way the child could be mine. I am at a lost as to what to do. Tell my wife or not? I mean it seams there is no reasoning with this girl. I just hate to get a bunch of crap stired up when i know my dates are solid and i am not the childs father. Any idea on how i might should handle this??? Anything would be great right now!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lennox Posted November 15, 2006 Share Posted November 15, 2006 Tell your wife. She's going to know you had to take a blood test, so it's much better to be honest and upfront with her. I don't understand why you're hesitant in the first place, unless you and your wife were already in a relationship the last time you slept with this girl. If some chick from years before my hubby and I got together and falsely accused him of fathering a child, I'd be right there and holding his hand as we walked into the clinic to take the paternity test. I'd probably even have a Jerry Springer moment once the test came back that he wasn't the father. In yo face, beotch!!! In yo face! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
tikigods Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 tell your wife and get a blood test, if it comes back that you are NOT the father (as Muary likes to say ) then this woman never has to bother you again. Link to post Share on other sites
luvstarved Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Yup, you need to tell your wife. After all, this is from long ago and there was not infidelity involved, right. An old flame of mine called recently wanting to hook up and I told my husband all about it. If I hadn't and then he found out some other way, it would appear that perhaps I was hedging my bets or trying to hide something. He wasn't happy to hear it, but he knew I didn't "ask for it" and it wasn't my fault that I was tracked down...so it should be the same with your wife. As long as you are clear on your facts, then I don't see why there should be any issue here at all. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Tell your wife, you have nothing to hide so please, explain the situation to her and make her feel secure that the child isn't yours. Do the blood test just to rule you out, to make that woman go away. If you hide this from your wife, SHE WILL wonder WTF is really going on, especially if she finds out through someone else. I mean, what if that woman calls your wife?? Better her hearing it from you, right? Link to post Share on other sites
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