Guest Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Okay I dated this guy for two years during high school but broke up with him when I left for college. Now five years later I am back with him and things seem to be going fine. I feel I know him pretty well since we never lost touch during our five years apart and if anything we grew closer during this time. So far we have been dating for 3 months. My question is this - does it classify as cheating if I found out he is receiving pictures through email of some girl in her bra/panties and also sending a picture of himself in the nude to her via email? I don't know how to confront him on this (or if I even should) because the only way I found out is by checking his email behind his back. He's only sent her one picture and she's sent him three so I don't know if this will be an on-going thing or if it's a onesie twosie type thing. I know he has done this at least one other time before (exchanged photos with someone) when I wasn't with him but I felt really hurt when I saw he did it after we've been together for a few months. I guess I am looking for advice as to what other girls in my situation would do, if you'd classify it as cheating or just a way to boost self confidence, or if I'm looking to deep into this all together. If I confront him how do I go about it and what do I say??? Any advice at all would help! It's driving me nuts and causing me to look at him through a different light and he can tell something is bothering me. Thanks. Guest K. Link to post Share on other sites
buu Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 you may not like what I’m about to say but you should not have been checking his email behind his back. That could really piss someone off (trust me). You need to come clean about what you have done and ALSO let him know how you feel. I honestly don’t think its cheating unless they knew each other or have an on going internet relationship. But that’s my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs. Emo Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 May I ask why you felt the need to check his email? Were you having any gut type feelings that something wasn't quite right? IMO, I feel this exchanging of intimate photos is a type of cheating. If the two of you are in an exclusive relationship, I would view this as a betrayal. Why has she sent him more than one email w/these types of photos? Why didn't he put a stop to it after the first one? Why would he send her a nude photo of himself? Who is she, anyway? These are all questions I know I would definitely want answered, regardless of how I discovered it to begin with. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 19, 2006 Share Posted November 19, 2006 I do think it's cheating. Light verbal or written flirtation is one thing but exchanging nude pics has crossed the line of a committed relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I do think it's cheating. Light verbal or written flirtation is one thing but exchanging nude pics has crossed the line of a committed relationship. I agree with this. Link to post Share on other sites
CarmenIbanez Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I do think it's cheating. Light verbal or written flirtation is one thing but exchanging nude pics has crossed the line of a committed relationship. I agree with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Okay I dated this guy for two years during high school but broke up with him when I left for college. Now five years later I am back with him and things seem to be going fine. I feel I know him pretty well since we never lost touch during our five years apart and if anything we grew closer during this time. So far we have been dating for 3 months. My question is this - does it classify as cheating if I found out he is receiving pictures through email of some girl in her bra/panties and also sending a picture of himself in the nude to her via email? I don't know how to confront him on this (or if I even should) because the only way I found out is by checking his email behind his back. He's only sent her one picture and she's sent him three so I don't know if this will be an on-going thing or if it's a onesie twosie type thing. I know he has done this at least one other time before (exchanged photos with someone) when I wasn't with him but I felt really hurt when I saw he did it after we've been together for a few months. I guess I am looking for advice as to what other girls in my situation would do, if you'd classify it as cheating or just a way to boost self confidence, or if I'm looking to deep into this all together. If I confront him how do I go about it and what do I say??? Any advice at all would help! It's driving me nuts and causing me to look at him through a different light and he can tell something is bothering me. Thanks. Guest K. honey i understand exactly where you are coming from because i have had the similar situation happen between me and my bf. and i did what you did checked message in the phone and i also went through it. and my advice to you is if you don't want to tell him that you went behind his back thencome with another approach like you heard that he was doing it.askl him does he have any other female friends on the sides. now you already know that he does. now if you know that he is going to lie to you then don't worry about saying anything because all it is going to do is lead to a bigger argument and its going to hurt you even more knowing thath he lying right in your face. so if you know gtah he is going to lie then just go ahead and tell him straight out Link to post Share on other sites
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