gonetildecember Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 I've decided to try the NC methodology for my situation (i posted it a yesterday) and read on a post somewhere that a while back there were some really helpful posts on NC- and how to use it effectively.. I tried looking about a year back but couldn't really find anything.. If anyone knows any off hand, or has time to give me a little overview, it would be appreciated.. May sound like a dum question- since no contact should mean just that.. but some ppl mention RC and answering after a certain amount of calls and so forth- just want to make sure i get it right Link to post Share on other sites
dr strangelove Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Im a but confused by your intentions You are hoping to get back with him or get over him ? Link to post Share on other sites
Ssheena Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Either way... NC means no calling, no emailing, no accidentally bumping into them, no stalking, no texting...no, no, no. There is no half way no contact. At least that's how I interpret NC. Now, if the x is contacting you and you want to help them get over it, I would suggest straight up telling them to not contact you and if and when they do, don't answer. NC to me works because while I am not contacting him and he is not contacting me, it seems to get easier. I still look for emails or phone calls from him but if he doesn't want to contact me and want me back then poof, I have my answer and it's his loss. Does that answer your question or help a bit? Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 17, 2006 Share Posted November 17, 2006 Last time I spoke with my ex bf was May of 2006. He told me that I was stressing him out and trying to changed him. I didn't say anything, very calm. I left a message on his cell told him " I will always love him " I decided to changed my phone on July of 2006 because, he never calls me. NC since June of 2006 until to this date. I miss him, but I have to stay with NC. I have to much pride, besides he didn't treat me well. Is it okay to stay contact with his Mother? Your advice is very much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gonetildecember Posted November 17, 2006 Author Share Posted November 17, 2006 Im a but confused by your intentions You are hoping to get back with him or get over him ? U was hoping to get back with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gonetildecember Posted November 17, 2006 Author Share Posted November 17, 2006 Either way... NC means no calling, no emailing, no accidentally bumping into them, no stalking, no texting...no, no, no. There is no half way no contact. At least that's how I interpret NC. Now, if the x is contacting you and you want to help them get over it, I would suggest straight up telling them to not contact you and if and when they do, don't answer. NC to me works because while I am not contacting him and he is not contacting me, it seems to get easier. I still look for emails or phone calls from him but if he doesn't want to contact me and want me back then poof, I have my answer and it's his loss. Does that answer your question or help a bit? What if he's calling and it was my intention the get him back.. do i answer? Link to post Share on other sites
Author gonetildecember Posted November 17, 2006 Author Share Posted November 17, 2006 U was hoping to get back with him. sorry "I was hoping..." Link to post Share on other sites
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