drewicide Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Everytime I sit down and talk to my mom (i'm 17, male), there's always the subject of cutting my hair. My hair isn't THAT long. It's not even shoulder length. In fact, My ears are still 100% visible with this hair. She wants me to cut my hair no matter what. She literally said she won't go out on the streets with me with this haircut. She said I look like a "bum". I in fact, do not. I am perfectly hygenic and I shave my facial hair almost daily. I believe everyone has the right to leave their hair the way they want and the style they want. It's like someone telling you to dress a certain way. Am I in the right saying that everyone should have their hair the way they want? Or am I in the wrong saying that parents have 100% control over how I should look because I am under 18, and therefore still under their guidance? Keep in mind I don't dress "gangster" or anything. I have usually wear jeans and a polo for casual dress. You can call it a "preppy" style. Any input is appreciated! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Ah...the hair issue. Brings me back to my teen years. My parents never did have a problem with my hair cuts BUT if I did do something out of the ordinary they would let me know about it. Yeah I think that everyone should have their hair the way they want it. I mean it is your hair and from what your saying it doesn't sound that bad. Just talk to you mom about your hair and maybe you can get her to warm up to it and if you like your hair the way it is then keep it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
nancyleeh Posted November 16, 2006 Share Posted November 16, 2006 Gosh, if the only major thing that bothers your Mom about you is the length of your hair, count your blessings but I'm sure you know that, right? I agree that at 17 if the length of your hair is acceptable in the school you attend (am assuming you are a highschool student) then your Mom is probably over reacting. Be that as it may, sometimes it's better to keep peace in a household for a short time than to make waves that last a long time. I wouldn't look at it as her trying to control you, just that she has a certain imagine of how she'd like to see you. That's not so surprising or bad. If you are free to make decisions in other areas of your life, like the clothe you wear and going out, etc. hair length pales in the light of the freedom you do have. I like the saying Pick your Battles. Is cutting your hair now to make Mom happy going to tramatize you down the road? I doubt it. You've got the rest of you life to be on your own and do what ever you want. Pleasing Mom now can be considered a small sacrifice on your part and a big gift to her. nancyleeh Link to post Share on other sites
b52srock Posted December 9, 2006 Share Posted December 9, 2006 I have a 17 year old son, and this same issue has come up in my house, too. Well, not really my house, but it has come up with my son and my ex. Its been a really ugly battle between the two of them. His father thinks he should sport a "high & tight" as he does (left over from USMC years), and my son prefers his in more of an "emo" style with the long locks over one eye. His father feels its a reflection on him. Personally, I've felt it was a losing battle, and something that, in the big scheme of things, makes absolutely no difference. I've had people at work come up and tell me they think my soon looks like a "hood" and I've simply replied, "Ever taken a minute to talk to him? He's a straight A student. He doesn't drink. Doesn't smoke. Doesn't take drugs." Once I say that, most people will go talk to him and find out he's a very intelligent young man with his priorities in the right place and his eyes on his future. One hundred percent of those people will come back to me and apologize for making an assumption based on his looks. Unfortunately, you'll find people will judge on first appearance, and I'm sure your mom is concerned about that judgement. Rather than saying she won't be seen in public with you, she should be standing with you. Its very hard for some parents to turn their thinking around like that. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted December 9, 2006 Share Posted December 9, 2006 Some parents don't know where and when to draw a hard line. It's a control issue and knowing when to let go. My personal opinion is that she's being too hard on you if you keep it and yourself hygenic. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted December 10, 2006 Share Posted December 10, 2006 Yeah she is controlling...and a bit on the kookoo side if she won't go out with you because of your hair LOL I can't believe how stupid some people are...and how stupid their opinions are. Man, it's just hair, can anyone be more shallow than judging someone by their hair rofl. Link to post Share on other sites
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