Why Won't He Stay Out Of My Life?

[snowdiamond]

Hello Loveshackers!

I've been in consistant NC with my ex. We dated for a year. He is a new father (the child was born in October from what I heard) and he moved his child's mother into his home. He's been contacting me on occasion, but I have not spoken to him. He called me this week and left me a message on my phone to invite me to a birthday party he's throwing for himself next month and he wanted to know if I would be there.

 

I don't understand why he would want me to be there knowing he and his live-in girlfriend will be there. I've been wrecking my brain about this. I wouldn't even set myself up for a huge let down. I don't want to go back to square one. I thought about being devious and going to the party with a date, but what would that say about me? I don't want to play games.

 

What do you all think of this? I've have stop talking to him altogether for two whole months. I don't call, send emails, send text messages or IM him. I've been going to a therapist to work on ME during this time. I need him out of my system and out of my life, but he doesn't seem to get the picture. I'm going to change all my phone numbers.

 

If you were in my place, what would you do?

Thanks in advance for any help/advice.

[Kelso]

From what I've read, you were probably the one being dumped. You've been seeing a therapist and he's been having a baby...

 

There isn't not much that you can do except talk to him I believe. Just tell him what you're thinking. That you don't want to talk to him again. Ask him never to call you, text you, e-mail you or anything again.

 

Of course you could never answer his calls, delete his messages before reading them, but that's still annoying. I would call him and tell him to never call you again in a friendly way.

[snowdiamond]

Hi There!

Actually, I dumped him. He wanted to continue this "affair" but I couldn't go through with it. Yes, I'm seeing a therapist because I need to get my head together. I see this as a healthy move on my part. I'm just trying to figure out why the heck he keeps bothering me knowing that he's a "family man" now? Maybe he can't deal with the fact that I don't want to play his game. When I did dump him, I told him that I could not continue in a relationship with him. I told him exactly how I felt. It's like he's ignored everything I said.

 

By the way, I just called my cell phone company to have my number changed. I'm on hold with my home phone provider now. When I told him "no contact" I meant it.