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[Guest]

I've finally figured out why i'm so aggravated by a male coworker. Here's a little background info. This guy and I have been coworkers for a while now. We only see each other at work, but he considers us "work friends". There has always been some kind of strange attraction between us. When I say strange, I mean strange. I know it, another coworker said that she's seen it, and I know he knows it too. We're always laughing or making fun of each other about something, when we're talking anyway.

 

Well, I'm the kind of person that likes to talk to my coworkers and friends, including this guy, and say hi to them when I see them. With this guy, sometimes he'll respond and other times nada. Sometimes when I just even say hi to him or try to talk to him, he'll just look right at me with a disgusted look and either mutter a forced hello or not say anything. Sometimes in comparison with the way he treats other coworkers, he treats me with such little respect. I have never seen him treat anyone else at work like this, male or female. He even treats coworkers I know he dislikes better than the way he treats me, IMO. He claims that we're friends and that he doesn't have a problem with me. Based on his actions, I know that I must have made him mad or really offended him in some way. He acts like I'm harping over this and making a mountain out of a molehill, but there is definitely some hostility here. The whole thing is bizarre.

 

I've spent way too much time thinking about it, but I'm the type that always has to get to the bottom of things. I don't know what I did to offend him and personally I just don't care anymore. Who needs friends like that? I've tried too hard to understand him and I won't do it anymore. His actions towards me are not consistent and that's irritating. The only thing I've ever done to him was stop interacting with him for about two months way back, because I got fed up with him. I wasn't rude about it and I didn't say anything about it; I just politely ignored him. Could this be what is bothering him? What do you guys think?

[Trialbyfire]

I'm not certain how old you and this coworker are but sometimes younger guys act this way because they have feelings for you that they aren't prepared to deal with right now.