aikim Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 I've been on here before when I was trying to cope with my bf and I breaking up. We were together for 8 months and we were broken up for 2 months until a few weeks ago when we got back together. We agreed to take things slow, but since we got back together it seemed like he wasn't putting in any effort to make this work again. I go to school in San Diego and he's in LA and whenever we would talk on the phone he would talk to me as if i was one of his friends (no intimacy at all). I dealt with it for a couple of weeks but I couldn't really take it anymore because it seemed as if we weren't even a couple by the way he would talk to me. I just noticed so much change from him and it was hard for me to understand that because I know how he could be from when we were together before. It just seemed like he didn't want to deal with the emotional committment because before we were like a married couple. Well last Sunday I called him and I told him how i felt because I needed to get this thing off my chest. I told him that i felt like he wasn't that into me and he responded with, "i dunno" and said that I need to relax and stop putting pressure on him. But the whole time i spoke with him I was calm and I made sure not to raise my voice because I didn't want to sound irrational. But he didn't want to deal with it and we hung up. He hasn't called me since Sunday, almost a full week and he was supposed to come last night to SD but he didn't. That was his chance to redeem himself and he didn't. So now I realize, he wasn't the guy I used to know and it's over. Unless there's another explanation?? Link to post Share on other sites
panzer6 Posted November 18, 2006 Share Posted November 18, 2006 Hey, sorry for your situation. It sounds like he just doesn't care anymore. You can try contacting him and asking him outright what he wants from you. You guys are in different places so it makes it hard to have a real relationship. He seems to be in his own world. If he truly loves you he would at least try to work things out. This doesn't seem to be the case however. You should at least try to get some closure from him if he is not willing to try and make things work. Otherwise you will drive yourself nuts trying to figure out whether or not he really cares about you. Call him and let him know what you want. I know it sucks to be going through this but you have to think about yourself in times like these. If he wants out then give him that and don't contact him no matter what. NC may drive him back to you, if it doesn't it will at least help you get over him. Be strong! Link to post Share on other sites
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