MessedUp12Many Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Ok after going thru quite a few diff posts i just cannot find the one that matches my situation enough for me to draw a conclusion out of what and the hell is goin on with her, me, or both of us...heres it all ina nutshell... ok 2 years ago i met this girl talked and hung out for about 4 months before we thought about takin our relationship to the next level. now im a truck driver so if u know anyone who does this for aliving u know the hardships they go thru about ebing away from home not being there and things like that..well when we took that 1st step she went over the road with me for a few days....loved it had fun wanted to go out again ...that 1st weekend we were home i finally was asked to spend the night with her ( i did the gentleman thing and kept my hands to myself while we slept in the truck..lol)..after that first night we never parted ways...we spent everyday with eachother like it was amazing how 2 peeps could enjoy eachother so much... 6-7 months go buy not a single dispute between us, then one day were she has me take her home cuz shes sick andi have to go to houston tx and we live in central cali so ima be gone like a week... well the whole time im gone shes supposed to be sick and this and that, she lets her brother throw a party at her house while her parents are gone and "Stays in her room the whole time"... i get back and the 1st night there shes in the shower and i get online just to pass time and her messanger signs itself on and theres messages from somem guy askin her to take more pics turn the cam back on and **** like her sayin ya just wait and while and let me see how this works out kinda stuff..i.e shes tellin me she loves me and all this and that so im irrate cuz all this was goin on and she was sick..ummhm..well shes cryin p a storm tellin me to stay dont go shes stupid shes sorry i leave anyway.. then later im goin to get my **** and shes all doin the same **** so i tell her to get away andi push her off me into the bed while im movin out my ****....she makes me out to be oj simpson to this day cuz of that.... we end up gettin our own place she aint workin im doin all the work payin all the bills she just sits at home and thats it... i cant even get her to cook a tv dinner..all the sudden shes up at a friends house one weekend and she tells me that she wasnt answering cuz the phone was dead somehing wasnt rite..well i get home that morning shes asleep so i sit on the couch to watch tv i move her purse her makeup bag falls out and theres a condom wrapper in it used....i just left it on the couch and left .she said it was her girl-friends whos younger and she was messin around blowin it up and stuff ummhmm..... few weeks go by and i locked my keys in the house and i cant reach her again shes up at that same friends house with a dead phone...well im sittin in my truck and i see her drive by with a ****in guy in the car..."that was her friends old mans friend who needed a ride home" ummhmm.. few more weeks go by she has the younger gf over and they r drinkin well im almost home and she tells me ya we got pretty wasted and britt was messin around and gave me a hickey. it was like not on the side of her neck it was in a spot where u would have to be on top of her to give it...and i get home and shes not htere i call and she says shes goin to britts to help get rid of it cuz work would get mad...well if britt gave it to u why didnt u try to get rid of it before u took her home....hmmm... well out of the blue she runs off and gets mad at me goes to friends house gets drunk and i call and some guy ansers then her friend answers tellin me shes busy with a guy **** like that. i had it finallly movedd out at that point as shes mad at me for reason i dont know i finally get in touch like after a week and i needed to go get the last ld of stuff from the house she tells me not to come shes tired and just wait till tomorrow..well i go and low and behold theres a guy there in the lving room smokin a joint and shes up stairs layin down. "he was just chillin till his friend down the street got home" now after all that the idiot i am is madly in love or madly in anger with this person she screws me over constantly all ive done was work my ass off for her and worship the ground she walks on. we recently went to six flags and universal studios has a good time next weekend she doesnt anwer 1 of my calls and says finally to me yesterday, "ya were just talkin" time will tell just wait...now i think for just two people that are talking thats a pretty expensive date she knows i want her in my life and shes the one who lites the fire under my ass and keeps me goin every day i just dont know what to do im tired of hurting and im tired of dissapointing the only person who it matters to and thats me why whould i allow her to keep doiin this and honestly is it the biggest waste ever..plz feel free to be as brutal as need and honest about ur opinons on the whole sit. and what u think about me..thanks sorry tis so long i just need some answers cuz the things im tellin myself just arent convincing thanx...........J:( Link to post Share on other sites
gonetildecember Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 You said to be brutally honest with you- so i will. She sounds like a nightmare.. im all for second chances, and trying again and all that.. but she seems immature, unfaithful and incapable of telling the truth.. come on now: her friend gave her a hickey, he's just waiting for his friend, her battery is always dying and they were blowing up condoms... how many more signs do you need... thats just my opinion.. sometimes it takes an outsider to say stuff like that.. there are times when I need to hear it too.. but it just all seems to shady to me.. she doesnt even seem like she cares.. she repeatedly gets herself into "odd" situations...which doesn't make it easier for you to trust her.. i dunno i say get yourself outta there... find urself someone who u can trust and who cares about u.. and give this young lady sometime to mature.. hope that wasnt too harsh for ya Link to post Share on other sites
Author MessedUp12Many Posted November 21, 2006 Author Share Posted November 21, 2006 no that wasnt so bad i actually expected worse from the 1st commentor lol cuz ive been doing some writing just jotting down my thoughts and feelings at any givin moment its helpin me realize how disrespectful and pitiful i am being to myself..thanx tho man i think ima start workin out too..lol...ill get over it if that dont work ill go under it Link to post Share on other sites
gonetildecember Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 lol good luck.. just give urself some away time.. if shes is treating u as bad as it sounds.. some time away from her will make u realise its not the best situation for u to be in.. hope that helps Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 M- Wow, this girl is a soap opera. I don't remotely understand why you want to stay after all of the obvious deceit and betrayal. Like the other poster said, she sounds like a complete nightmare. Sweetie, you need to get away from her and start over again. She's trash and not relationship material. More than likely she's just using you so she doesn't have to do anything for herself. Basically, you're supporting her party and screwing everyone else lifestyle. Is anyone really worth all of that? Link to post Share on other sites
gonetildecember Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 M- Sweetie, you need to get away from her and start over again. She's trash and not relationship material. More than likely she's just using you so she doesn't have to do anything for herself. Basically, you're supporting her party and screwing everyone else lifestyle. Is anyone really worth all of that? Well said Daphne! Link to post Share on other sites
Eric102 Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Personally i know its tough but i wouldn't even talk to a girl like that. I would leave her till she matures up. Shes just messing with your head and keeping you on a string. It'll take a while for her to realize it if you keep chasing her let it go, let her come to u. Link to post Share on other sites
gonetildecember Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 Messedup12many... have u figurede out what course of action to take? Link to post Share on other sites
Author MessedUp12Many Posted November 25, 2006 Author Share Posted November 25, 2006 well its been a lil easier lately as u have seen the last few days i havent been on here well i been off work and keeping myself busy and trying to stay out and away from the house cuz u all know how that goes when u sit down and aint no one around and its all you all u really have time to do is think and thats when u wanna call and see her and eb with her and start getting down onn yerself so i been keepiong away form all that and with time its slowly but surley gunna get alot better alot sooner and easier than i thought..its amazin how the peeps i care about most when they see me hurt and give me the advice it doesnt impact u as much as it would from a stranger cuz a family could just be saying that because they are family u know...well thanx and keep the feed abck comin Link to post Share on other sites
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