Mydish1 Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 I dont know, i just have a really weird ex. I was online tonight and when she got online and saw me she immediately signed off. It's a common pattern with her when...well we're broken up. We had something good going on in the past, she messed it up and the best thing for me to do was call it quits (i also realized she's just another golddigger). And a few times then when she saw me on she did the sign off trick. A few months ago we managed to get together a few times, as friends..the way I wanted. Initially the first time she gave me all the cues she wanted me back, i looked the other cheek and attempted to just hangout and be just friends. Since then she's been avoiding me and tonight doing the sign-off trick. The last time i spoke with her (1 month ago), she said she'd be too busy to hangout with me, i know as im busy too. She mentioned possibly during xmas when the break is on. Personally I dont know why she doesnt want to be just friends...since we were in an open relationship in the past anyway. I've never seen a girl as paranoid as her before...the signing offline thing is just hilarious to see. I know she still cares because she has no reason to be doing this. If she was truly over me, it wouldnt be so hard to get along..even as distant friends. Nor would she care whether or not I was online. Link to post Share on other sites
Eric102 Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 Girl Drama lol get used to it bro. She probably has feelings just wants you to realize it Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 and if you didn't still care - you wouldn't be spending so much time tryin to figure out the 'why' - it wouldn't matter to you at all I know - I used to be same way - I eventually got over it - now I never even notice if he's online or not. I dont know, i just have a really weird ex. I was online tonight and when she got online and saw me she immediately signed off. It's a common pattern with her when...well we're broken up. We had something good going on in the past, she messed it up and the best thing for me to do was call it quits (i also realized she's just another golddigger). And a few times then when she saw me on she did the sign off trick. A few months ago we managed to get together a few times, as friends..the way I wanted. Initially the first time she gave me all the cues she wanted me back, i looked the other cheek and attempted to just hangout and be just friends. Since then she's been avoiding me and tonight doing the sign-off trick. The last time i spoke with her (1 month ago), she said she'd be too busy to hangout with me, i know as im busy too. She mentioned possibly during xmas when the break is on. Personally I dont know why she doesn't want to be just friends...since we were in an open relationship in the past anyway. I've never seen a girl as paranoid as her before...the signing offline thing is just hilarious to see. I know she still cares because she has no reason to be doing this. If she was truly over me, it wouldn't be so hard to get along..even as distant friends. Nor would she care whether or not I was online. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 22, 2006 Share Posted November 22, 2006 I dont know, i just have a really weird ex. I was online tonight and when she got online and saw me she immediately signed off. It's a common pattern with her when...well we're broken up. We had something good going on in the past, she messed it up and the best thing for me to do was call it quits (i also realized she's just another golddigger). And a few times then when she saw me on she did the sign off trick. A few months ago we managed to get together a few times, as friends..the way I wanted. Initially the first time she gave me all the cues she wanted me back, i looked the other cheek and attempted to just hangout and be just friends. Since then she's been avoiding me and tonight doing the sign-off trick. The last time i spoke with her (1 month ago), she said she'd be too busy to hangout with me, i know as im busy too. She mentioned possibly during xmas when the break is on. Personally I dont know why she doesnt want to be just friends...since we were in an open relationship in the past anyway. I've never seen a girl as paranoid as her before...the signing offline thing is just hilarious to see. I know she still cares because she has no reason to be doing this. If she was truly over me, it wouldnt be so hard to get along..even as distant friends. Nor would she care whether or not I was online. how do you know she signs off just because your online? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 28, 2006 Author Share Posted November 28, 2006 and if you didn't still care - you wouldn't be spending so much time tryin to figure out the 'why' - it wouldn't matter to you at all I know - I used to be same way - I eventually got over it - now I never even notice if he's online or not. Well, I can do with or without. But since we do have stuff in common it wouldnt hurt if we were friends on good terms, afterall we're from the same Uni. Back in the past she too wanted to be friends (either that or she was a great liar). I have other girls' screennames that im just friends/acquantance with and they dont have this problem. how do you know she signs off just because your online? Well because she did it again, she put up an away message this time and she was still on the computer. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 She may have messed things up but you dumped her. It's not surprising that she doesn't want to be friends with you. I'll have to agree with Guest about why you're still so interested in her motivations. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted November 28, 2006 Author Share Posted November 28, 2006 She may have messed things up but you dumped her. It's not surprising that she doesn't want to be friends with you. I'll have to agree with Guest about why you're still so interested in her motivations. What happened in the breakup is a complicated story behind it. All I can say is there was miscommunication and even misunderstanding between us. She was too immature to be upfront with me and what she wanted that she wound up creating unnecessary drama which I wanted nothing to do with so i called it quits (at that point I felt a little betrayed because of what she did). Again the last few times we met up, we werent really clear on the reason for the get togethers...we didnt bring up the past or the present. Im sure she expected something to happen, even so she played hard to get. I dont know, maybe i still feel slight bitterness towards her...after what I've been through and seeing her flaws as it truly were. Im not the type of person to hold grudges, life is too short to stay angry at people. However I look back at it and am thankful it ended because i know she's too immature to handle a real relationship. And at the same time there's also a regret, wondering if things wouldve worked out if the drama didnt happen and if she was mature enough that we may have hit it off as a great couple. But regardless, anytime we've ever spoken or met up we take equal amount of interest in one another. Even for friendship, i wouldnt mind taking turns in sharing equal interest. I have a specific female friend and all she ever does is yap all day, hence why i dont bother talking to her much. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 Oh lord, tell me about lack of communication in a relationship and maturity level of individuals. I can easily understand this. Link to post Share on other sites
theadventure50120 Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 When you get to trying to get messages across to you by msn names , that's funny Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa32 Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 Why do you care? You're still in love with her...that's why you care. You don't want to be "just friends" anymore than she does. She signs off when she sees you online, for the same reason you're asking us online why she signs off. I think you need to get together with her and give it another try. It's obvious neither of you have moved on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 Why do you care? You're still in love with her...that's why you care. You don't want to be "just friends" anymore than she does. She signs off when she sees you online, for the same reason you're asking us online why she signs off. I think you need to get together with her and give it another try. It's obvious neither of you have moved on. Doubtful. If we get back together I know it would be pointless because we'd be using each other until someone better comes along. I know she's looking for a provider figure (and possibly Christian as she is)...none of which I am at this point in my life. In the past before i really got to know her, i thought she could be gf material...not anymore because she has too much growing up to do. And besides, she lives almost 2 hours away which im not a fan of commuting (neither is she). I can be "just friends" or FWB with her, but you may be right i dont think she wants to be "just friends". Actually the 2nd to last time we met up, i did make a move...she denied me a kiss and gave me the 'we're just friends' line while looking around, but I also know she fears display of public affection, as she always have. So the last time we did meet, we had a good convo and hug parting as any male-female acquantance would do and that day she seemed mutual about it. All in all a lot of times she doesnt know what she wants, and the result is I get mixed signals. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mydish1 Posted December 1, 2006 Author Share Posted December 1, 2006 Why do you care? You're still in love with her...that's why you care. You don't want to be "just friends" anymore than she does. She signs off when she sees you online, for the same reason you're asking us online why she signs off. I think you need to get together with her and give it another try. It's obvious neither of you have moved on. Doubtful. If we get back together I know it would be pointless because we'd be using each other until someone better comes along. I know she's looking for a provider figure (and possibly Christian as she is)...none of which I am at this point in my life. In the past before i really got to know her, i thought she could be gf material...not anymore because she has too much growing up to do. And besides, she lives almost 2 hours away which im not a fan of commuting (neither is she). I can be "just friends" or FWB with her, but you may be right i dont think she wants to be "just friends". Actually the 2nd to last time we met up, i did make a move...she denied me a kiss and gave me the 'we're just friends' line while looking around, but I also know she fears display of public affection, as she always have. So the last time we did meet, we had a good convo and hug parting as any male-female acquantance would do. All in all a lot of times she doesnt know what she wants, and the result is I get mixed signals. Link to post Share on other sites
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