indierockgoddess Posted November 21, 2006 Share Posted November 21, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. Some of the time we have plenty to talk about, but other times I feel like he does all the talking and that my head is empty and I have nothing to say. This doesn't just happen with him - it has been happening with most people my whole life. I think he wishes I was more talkative and I know that he wants to 'know more about me'. It's not like I am keeping any secrets from him, but I wish i knew how to relax conversationally and get closer and more intimate with him through thoughts and conversation, and not just sex. Any suggestions on how I can open up more, or just be more chatty with him in general? I'm completely comfortable around him, but it's weird - sometimes my brain just seems like it's a complete flat line. I feel boring and I don't know what to do. Also, I'm good at the listening part, and most people I meet initially think I'm a good conversationalist because I listen well. However, my boyfriend wants me to talk more, to open up more to him, and I just don't know what to say - help! Link to post Share on other sites
MiSSxB Posted November 27, 2006 Share Posted November 27, 2006 You took the thoughts right out of my mind. I am having the exact same issues at the moment. I'm not sure what to do because my SO always tells me to just talk about anything, but for some reason it's just not that easy for me. Hopefully we both find a way to solve our communication issues. Link to post Share on other sites
maoserr Posted November 28, 2006 Share Posted November 28, 2006 Well conversation is a skill, not something you're naturally born with. You'll need to start figuring out topics you'd like to discuss and start keeping a tab of things in your head... after a while it'll come naturally to you. Just one way to go about it. It doesn't hurt to keep up on current events/fashion/sports/whatever when you run out of things to talk about. Heck, start with the weather even. After you get comfortable talking, then the good conversations come about. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 30, 2006 Share Posted November 30, 2006 restrictions breed creativity leaving an open ended question doesnt inspire thought tell him to ask you about the things that he wants to know that should help you with opening up and it leaves the pressure on his shoulders to get you to open up (altho clarifying questions you dont want to be asked might be a good thing) Link to post Share on other sites
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