demilde Posted December 3, 2006 Share Posted December 3, 2006 It's super hard to go from daily contact to nothing. But in the long run, it's much easier to get over things if you don't have any contact. My ex broke up with me over the phone after a year together and he hasn't spoken to me since. I have reached out to him on a couple occasions via e-mails... but have never gotten a response from him. I have WANTED to call and reach out every single day.... but I just stop myself. It's natural to want the constant contact, but if they're making it clear they want space... pressuring them will leave them with an impression that we're needy, desperate and lost without them. That's never a good impression to leave someone with. Get into the habit of keeping yourself busy. Instead of calling him~ call a friend or post here.... It gets easier to stick to NC the more you practice. Like I said, I think abotu contacting him every day... But I remind myself that it's not what he wants. As hard as that is to internalize, it truly is the best course of action. One day at a time... Love is an additction and it is just the same trying to give up any addiction; smoking, drugs etc. The difficulty is that when we breakup we effectively have to go cold turkey to get the addiction out of our system; and that is the hardest way. Maybe someone should develop a methadone type drug to help ween ourselves of the love we had. Link to post Share on other sites
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